A game didn't go the way I thought it should have and now I don't want to play anymore

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The title is basically what I'm about to say in a nutshell. Yes I know exactly how petty it sounds, and tbh I'm annoyed at myself for not just letting it go because I'm usually very good at that sort of thing. I'm no stranger to losing in games, I know that I can't win all the time and that losing is part of playing any game. So when I do lose I usually just shrug it off and move on to the next game. But this time made me as close to tilted as I've ever felt in years. This time, well is bad enough that I'm posting about it here. Oh yeah and the game itself was Star Wars: Imperial Assault.

I actually typed out what happened, but it was a pretty complicated game and required explaining how the game itself works, which TBH I'm still kinda iffy on since I only played it twice and that's with a over year gap between the two games. So here's a more condensed version of it: We only had one final objective to win the game. From where I was sitting we had 2 players that close enough to the objective where they can both attack it twice(4 total) and seal the win. There was also another player really close by to move to attack the objective one more time if necessary and another that was closeish, but the two more would've been overkill. With that in mind I asked the other two to grab optimal rewards we rushed past since there was a time limit.

But first there were walls that I couldn't see since I was at the far end of the table and the walls were marked with light red lines on the bright game board. So instead the 2 characters had to move past the walls thus costing them a attack each and thus the objective survived so we lost. But it turned out that since both players were at corners of the walls,(you can attack through certain corners in this game) they were legally allowed to attack from where they were thus not needing to move at all, so my original plan would've worked exactly the way I said it despite me not seeing the walls. But for some reason the loss wasn't overturned, we still lost despite everyone acknowledging that we were absolutely in position to win.

The players playing the other side didn't want to give up even through they thought for certain that we were going to win that game at the start of the last round. Now the thing about this game is if you lose it's not game over, you get less rewards, the bad guys get stronger and you go to a different story path. So I even tried to comprise by saying OK, if we're stuck with the loss for some reason can we at least get half the prize we would have gotten? That proposal also got rejected since it might affect future games, which I feel is rather doubtful. The best I could get was to redo the whole thing but that doesn't seem fair to me since we didn't do anything to warrant that. It's like if in soccer a team had free kicks at the goal that it needed to win but was denied those kicks for a wrong ruling that even the refs admitted was wrong right after the game, but were only offered a rematch instead of the free kicks.

In any case the rest of the players are willing to suck up the loss, the side that "won" is obviously ready to move on but I'm still pretty ticked off about the matter. The game itself is fun, not my favorite game ever but there's definitely potential there. But this experience just left a terrible taste in my mouth and the idea of continuing with a undeserved loss seems infuriating to me. At the same time I don't want to be the one guy that's making a big deal out of something no one else seems to care about. Really not sure what to do, so I guess that's why I'm here. Thanks for reading and thanks for any advice.

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TL-DR: My team was in perfect position to win, was forced to take a loss due to incorrect rulings that was found out soon afterwards, but the loss still stands and I don't want to keep playing since I felt my team got cheated yet don't want to be "that guy".
 

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This is...a board game? Like, you were sitting down at a table with other people in person?

Also are you looking for advice on how to get over this feeling?

Just trying to clarify.
 

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Saelune said:
This is...a board game? Like, you were sitting down at a table with other people in person?

Also are you looking for advice on how to get over this feeling?

Just trying to clarify.
Yeah pretty much. Sorry for not being more clear about that. Feelings wise I guess one of the biggest things is how conflicted I feel. On the one hand a part of me wants get over it and just suck up the loss like everyone else but but another part of me really hates the idea since again I feel the loss was totally undeserved. And of course not wanting to be "that guy" that drags down the game for everyone yet at the same don't want to continue playing as if nothing wrong has happened.
 

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Tiamattt said:
Saelune said:
This is...a board game? Like, you were sitting down at a table with other people in person?

Also are you looking for advice on how to get over this feeling?

Just trying to clarify.
Yeah pretty much.
Do you like the game? If you dont enjoy it that much, then it really isnt wrong to just not play it anymore. Plenty of board games I just dont play cause I never end them feeling like I enjoyed the experience.

I know there is a thing as over-competitive, but not having fun is not having fun.
 

Tiamattt

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Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
Saelune said:
This is...a board game? Like, you were sitting down at a table with other people in person?

Also are you looking for advice on how to get over this feeling?

Just trying to clarify.
Yeah pretty much.
Do you like the game? If you dont enjoy it that much, then it really isnt wrong to just not play it anymore. Plenty of board games I just dont play cause I never end them feeling like I enjoyed the experience.

I know there is a thing as over-competitive, but not having fun is not having fun.
I think it can be a enjoyable game I just don't think I can continue playing with the loss since it affects future games. Like I said before I'm no stranger to losing but in this particular case it really felt like my team and I were cheated out of the win.
 

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Tiamattt said:
I think it can be a enjoyable game I just don't think I can continue playing with the loss since it affects future games. Like I said before I'm no stranger to losing but in this particular case it really felt like my team and I were cheated out of the win.
What do you mean by "It affects future games."?
 

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Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
I think it can be a enjoyable game I just don't think I can continue playing with the loss since it affects future games. Like I said before I'm no stranger to losing but in this particular case it really felt like my team and I were cheated out of the win.
What do you mean by "It affects future games."?
I'm sorry, my fault for not explaining in the condensed version. It's pretty much a giant story, with each game being a chapter. Basically good guys wins they get more stuff and they go to storyline A, if they lose they get less and the bad guys gets stronger while going to storyline B.
 

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Tiamattt said:
Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
I think it can be a enjoyable game I just don't think I can continue playing with the loss since it affects future games. Like I said before I'm no stranger to losing but in this particular case it really felt like my team and I were cheated out of the win.
What do you mean by "It affects future games."?
I'm sorry, my fault for not explaining in the condensed version. It's pretty much a giant story, with each game being a chapter. Basically good guys wins they get more stuff and they go to storyline A, if they lose they get less and the bad guys gets stronger while going to storyline B.
Well, is this played with the same people all the way through? If so, maybe you should talk to them about it, since they are directly involved. They might be bummed or annoyed you dont want to go on, but maybe they will understand or even help you to want to continue anyways.
 

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Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
I think it can be a enjoyable game I just don't think I can continue playing with the loss since it affects future games. Like I said before I'm no stranger to losing but in this particular case it really felt like my team and I were cheated out of the win.
What do you mean by "It affects future games."?
I'm sorry, my fault for not explaining in the condensed version. It's pretty much a giant story, with each game being a chapter. Basically good guys wins they get more stuff and they go to storyline A, if they lose they get less and the bad guys gets stronger while going to storyline B.
Well, is this played with the same people all the way through? If so, maybe you should talk to them about it, since they are directly involved. They might be bummed or annoyed you dont want to go on, but maybe they will understand or even help you to want to continue anyways.
Yes it would involve all the same players and me dropping out would pretty much force another restart, if not a total cancellation since we might have too few players. Another problem is we had the conversation already. The rest of my teammates are more....passive and don't want to deal with arguing, despite seeing my point. The others are the opposing player that is more than happy to take the completely unexpected win and the supposed rule-enforcer(who to his defense is as new to the game as the rest of us) whose literal words included "I'm sorry but you're the only one that cares". So yeah....
 

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Tiamattt said:
Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
I think it can be a enjoyable game I just don't think I can continue playing with the loss since it affects future games. Like I said before I'm no stranger to losing but in this particular case it really felt like my team and I were cheated out of the win.
What do you mean by "It affects future games."?
I'm sorry, my fault for not explaining in the condensed version. It's pretty much a giant story, with each game being a chapter. Basically good guys wins they get more stuff and they go to storyline A, if they lose they get less and the bad guys gets stronger while going to storyline B.
Well, is this played with the same people all the way through? If so, maybe you should talk to them about it, since they are directly involved. They might be bummed or annoyed you dont want to go on, but maybe they will understand or even help you to want to continue anyways.
Yes it would involve all the same players and me dropping out would pretty much force another restart, if not a total cancellation since we might have too few players. Another problem is we had the conversation already. The rest of my teammates are more....passive and don't want to deal with arguing, despite seeing my point. The others are the opposing player that is more than happy to take the completely unexpected win and the supposed rule-enforcer(who to his defense is as new to the game as the rest of us) whose literal words included "I'm sorry but you're the only one that cares". So yeah....
At this point, I dont know if I can help you, cause my own reaction at that would probably be to say "Well, then fuck off, bye".

If they arent going to consider you, why do you have to bear the burden?

So, apologies for being unable to actually help you.
 

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Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
I think it can be a enjoyable game I just don't think I can continue playing with the loss since it affects future games. Like I said before I'm no stranger to losing but in this particular case it really felt like my team and I were cheated out of the win.
What do you mean by "It affects future games."?
I'm sorry, my fault for not explaining in the condensed version. It's pretty much a giant story, with each game being a chapter. Basically good guys wins they get more stuff and they go to storyline A, if they lose they get less and the bad guys gets stronger while going to storyline B.
Well, is this played with the same people all the way through? If so, maybe you should talk to them about it, since they are directly involved. They might be bummed or annoyed you dont want to go on, but maybe they will understand or even help you to want to continue anyways.
Yes it would involve all the same players and me dropping out would pretty much force another restart, if not a total cancellation since we might have too few players. Another problem is we had the conversation already. The rest of my teammates are more....passive and don't want to deal with arguing, despite seeing my point. The others are the opposing player that is more than happy to take the completely unexpected win and the supposed rule-enforcer(who to his defense is as new to the game as the rest of us) whose literal words included "I'm sorry but you're the only one that cares". So yeah....
At this point, I dont know if I can help you, cause my own reaction at that would probably be to say "Well, then fuck off, bye".

If they arent going to consider you, why do you have to bear the burden?

So, apologies for being unable to actually help you.
Honestly just having someone to talk to felt great, so please don't feel any need to apologize. If anything thank you so much for listening/talking to me and trying to help, you are a awesome person. :)
 

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Tiamattt said:
Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
Saelune said:
Tiamattt said:
I think it can be a enjoyable game I just don't think I can continue playing with the loss since it affects future games. Like I said before I'm no stranger to losing but in this particular case it really felt like my team and I were cheated out of the win.
What do you mean by "It affects future games."?
I'm sorry, my fault for not explaining in the condensed version. It's pretty much a giant story, with each game being a chapter. Basically good guys wins they get more stuff and they go to storyline A, if they lose they get less and the bad guys gets stronger while going to storyline B.
Well, is this played with the same people all the way through? If so, maybe you should talk to them about it, since they are directly involved. They might be bummed or annoyed you dont want to go on, but maybe they will understand or even help you to want to continue anyways.
Yes it would involve all the same players and me dropping out would pretty much force another restart, if not a total cancellation since we might have too few players. Another problem is we had the conversation already. The rest of my teammates are more....passive and don't want to deal with arguing, despite seeing my point. The others are the opposing player that is more than happy to take the completely unexpected win and the supposed rule-enforcer(who to his defense is as new to the game as the rest of us) whose literal words included "I'm sorry but you're the only one that cares". So yeah....
At this point, I dont know if I can help you, cause my own reaction at that would probably be to say "Well, then fuck off, bye".

If they arent going to consider you, why do you have to bear the burden?

So, apologies for being unable to actually help you.
Honestly just having someone to talk to felt great, so please don't feel any need to apologize. If anything thank you so much for listening/talking to me and trying to help, you are a awesome person. :)
Thats good to know. I do like helping people, even if I am not always the best at it. I just think people should help othes when they can.
 

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My experience with this sort of situation is that you're left with an uncertainty about how future matches will play out. If everyone is new and learning, prepared to acknowledge the rules misunderstanding but not pass up advantage it nets them....then it's a bit scummy.

I would consider sitting down with everyone and discussing that you're all learning together, and perhaps some house rules for handling this sort of mishap need to be laid down before any more games. Then revisit the idea of compromise and see if you can all reach a state where continuation feels like the right choice for you.