A Question About Being a Decent Person.

[Blind Sight]

I'm usually not a huge fan of when people talk about their social problems (gasp! reality? I don't want to hear about it on the internets) but I have an interesting puzzle and wanted to know people's thoughts.

I have this ex-girlfriend from about 3 years back, we didn't have a violent break up or anything, we just kind of gave up. Anyway, she's now dating one of my close friends, but hasn't talked to me in three years. Tonight she started bugging me on the phone, and was asking for my advice. She said that she was attracted to another guy, and didn't know how to break it to my friend. I gave it some thought, and told her she should tell him about it. She then laughed out loud and said she make it all up, that she was drunk and she just wanted to have a little game. Of course I was disgusted by her for pulling this kind of shit, so I naturally told my friend. He REALLY wasn't happy about it, and now he's planning on breaking up with her.

What I ask you, Escapists, was I overreacting? Or was her actions completely immature? Should she take responsibility for what she's done, even though by her logic she was drunk so she could get away with it? Your thoughts, please.

EDIT: Since someone wondered below, we're all 20 and of legal drinking age, which makes her actions even worse, this is shit you pull in high school for Christ's sake.

 

[That One Six]

This is... almost an exact replica of a situation I'm currently in. And don't get involved, man. If he doesn't want to date her for her actions, it's his decision, not yours. You'll be best served by avoiding it altogether. Trust me.

Edit - Also, I've no idea how old you are, but if this is underage drinking, your friend should probably break it off. But that's just one guy's opinion.

 

[Applejack]

She was seeing if your still interested, or still interested in her life. Or just wanted to make her guy jealous and you were just a convenient number to call.

 

[Blind Sight]

This is... almost an exact replica of a situation I'm currently in. And don't get involved, man. If he doesn't want to date her for her actions, it's his decision, not yours. You'll be best served by avoiding it altogether. Trust me.

Edit - Also, I've no idea how old you are, but if this is underage drinking, your friend should probably break it off. But that's just one guy's opinion.

I'm 20, and so are they, we're all adults here and can drink legally in Canada haha.

 

[That One Six]

This is... almost an exact replica of a situation I'm currently in. And don't get involved, man. If he doesn't want to date her for her actions, it's his decision, not yours. You'll be best served by avoiding it altogether. Trust me.

Edit - Also, I've no idea how old you are, but if this is underage drinking, your friend should probably break it off. But that's just one guy's opinion.

I'm 20, and so are they, we're all adults here and can drink legally in Canada haha.

Well then, regardless, being drunk is no excuse for idiocy of that level.

 

[Irridium]

Well its been said that your true self comes out when your drunk.

For what its worth, I think you did the right thing. She was being a *****.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

Yes, she was being an immature little *****.
Yes, she shouldn't get away with it.
No, you cannot get away with things just because you were drunk.
Should he break up with her? That's his business, not mine.

We actually think pretty similarly in personal matters then. Strange to think we'd agree on much of anything considering our normal discussions.

OT:

Seriously, everything I was going to say about your situation was already said by DementedTeddy.

As for advice, at this point I would do nothing. You've already told him about it, so now you just need to let them work it out.

edit-

personally, I think she was really immature to do that. High school isn't an accurate enough description of the immaturity actually. High school freshman might be about accurate. Maybe junior high. Really immature no matter how you label it.

 

[Blind Sight]

Should he break up with her? That's his business, not mine.

Well, she fucked with your feelings and her boyfriends feelings..

So yeah, you're reaction was fair enough. Whether she get's broken up with or not is none of your concern, frankly. It's between her and him.

I'm just throwing this post in rather then edit my first one to say I really don't care whether they break up or not, but to me this was about responsibility for one's actions, and whether I was justified in telling my friend.

 

[Limzz]

I'm usually not a huge fan of when people talk about their social problems (gasp! reality? I don't want to hear about it on the internets) but I have an interesting puzzle and wanted to know people's thoughts.

I have this ex-girlfriend from about 3 years back, we didn't have a violent break up or anything, we just kind of gave up. Anyway, she's now dating one of my close friends, but hasn't talked to me in three years. Tonight she started bugging me on the phone, and was asking for my advice. She said that she was attracted to another guy, and didn't know how to break it to my friend. I gave it some thought, and told her she should tell him about it. She then laughed out loud and said she make it all up, that she was drunk and she just wanted to have a little game. Of course I was disgusted by her for pulling this kind of shit, so I naturally told my friend. He REALLY wasn't happy about it, and now he's planning on breaking up with her.

What I ask you, Escapists, was I overreacting? Or was her actions completely immature? Should she take responsibility for what she's done, even though by her logic she was drunk so she could get away with it? Your thoughts, please.

EDIT: Since someone wondered below, we're all 20 and of legal drinking age, which makes her actions even worse, this is shit you pull in high school for Christ's sake.

"20 and of legal drinking age" *sigh*..... My country has BS legislation. But no, I don't think you overreacted. Sounds to me like she's a bona fide hoebag and neither you or your friend should have anything to do with her.

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

Yeah she can be held accountable for her actions.

But honestly, know what this reminds me off? A scene from Family Guy where Brian is volunteering at a hospital, and an old lady on life support asks him to pull the plug for her and put her out of her misery. He reluctantly agrees and just as he reaches for the plug she is like "Oh my God you were actually gonna do it! Nurse! Nurse!" and Brian is like "You are sick lady!"

My point is that people are fucked up no matter what you do.

 

[Kialee]

You couldn't have foreseen the consequences, so it's not like you meant to go ruining a relationship.
If your ex pulls that sort of stunt regularly, though, I can't say she didn't have it coming.

 

[godofallu]

Girls will use the "i'm drunk" line to get away with anything. Normally it's an excuse to fuck on the first date without being labeled a slut. I kind of like that one.

Other times it's for saying stupid stuff on the phone or "drunk dialing", that or cheating. I don't like those ones as much.

I always drink about 5 times what anyone else drinks and you don't see me "drunk dialing" or cheating or anything like that.

She deserves what she got, you were just being honest with your friend. Can't fault a man for doing that.

 

[Michael Dagastino]

Of course I was disgusted by her for pulling this kind of shit, so I naturally told my friend. He REALLY wasn't happy about it, and now he's planning on breaking up with her.

I would have pulled the same shit. You were angry, and she was an idiot. Nothing to be ashamed of.

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

as said, she was dumb enough to do that whilst drunk, she needs to face up to the fact life isn't fair, legal age or not.