Are You A Loner?

[Pick|Choose]

I imagine this was asked multiple times in the past, but I want to explore the topic further.

Anyhow, I personally love solitude, and - as strange as it may sound - would pick staying all alone in my house for the whole night, over going to a party with my friends (which are few), any day. I don't seem to enjoy any kinds of social gatherings for that matter. I am not depressed, nor do I have social anxiety, it's just my personality. Unfortunately, most people have a hard time understanding that, so I usually get labeled as a sociopath (yes, really), or just shy. To clarify, I don't hate people (at least, not in general). I simply don't enjoy their company. When I'm alone, I am free to do as I please (my morality is my only limit), I have the silence and peace I need for my daily routine thinking (I see it as an activity ;P),and best of all, I do not have to conform to society's ideologies and standards.

Despite all this, I don't root for the destruction of our society. I am thankful for many of the things our civilization has given us. I simply want to free myself from that sort of dependence on other people. This is probably not very rational, as humans as very social species by nature, but I see myself as an exception (though, I imagine there are many more like me).

Thoughts/Opinions?

Thanks.

 

[Casual Shinji]

I'm not a socializer.

Not by choice (I think), I just sorta lack taking initiative regarding getting into contact with others.

I like hanging out with people (that I like), but being alone ain't no skin off my back neither.

 

[LordFish]

I used to be really out going and shit, still a nerd but I had a tonne of fringe friends. Recently I've started to be less toleration of other peoples faults. But I still have a band of close friends and I'll party with them at the drop of a hat

 

[Rose and Thorn]

I went to a concert last week and I kept getting asked by family and others who I was going with. They didn't understand why I would want to go to a concert, to see music being played live, alone...

I would also be called a loner. Although I was in a serious relationship for three years, after it was over I felt very alone. Then I started to feel comfortable with the solitude and feel safe. Like you, I would usually prefer to be by myself than with someone else. Like the concert, it was a folk concert, what if I took someone and they got bored? Wanted to talk during a song? Folk isn't very popular where I am living and I wouldn't want to waste a ticket on someone who didn't really want to go.

But, unlike you Pick|Choose, I do have a general dislike for people. I only ever get annoyances, bullying, pain, grief and ect, from other people. I have seen so many mean and callous people that I have given up with pretty much everyone in my actual social life. The internet tends to be where I meet the best people and socialize.

Like you said, when I am by myself I can do whatever I want. I don't have to worry what other people are thinking, if they are bored or something. I have upset friends in the past for small things, like I didn't feel like hanging out with them a certain day or I didn't return a call right away. Friendship is like a relationship without the sex. I can do what I want and when I want to do it.

I choose the loner life.

snip

Welcome to the Escapist by the way! If this is your first profile that is.

 

[Kolby Jack]

I imagine this was asked multiple times in the past, but I want to explore the topic further.

Anyhow, I personally love solitude, and - as strange as it may sound - would pick staying all alone in my house for the whole night, over going to a party with my friends (which are few), any day. I don't seem to enjoy any kinds of social gatherings for that matter. I am not depressed, nor do I have social anxiety, it's just my personality. Unfortunately, most people have a hard time understanding that, so I usually get labeled as a sociopath (yes, really), or just shy. To clarify, I don't hate people (at least, not in general). I simply don't enjoy their company. When I'm alone, I am free to do as I please (my morality is my only limit), I have the silence and peace I need for my daily routine thinking (I see it as an activity ;P),and best of all, I do not have to conform to society's ideologies and standards.

Despite all this, I don't root for the destruction of our society. I am thankful for many of the things our civilization has given us. I simply want to free myself from that sort of dependence on other people. This is probably not very rational, as humans as very social species by nature, but I see myself as an exception (though, I imagine there are many more like me).

Thoughts/Opinions?

Thanks.

I have friends and I enjoy spending time with them, but it drains me greatly, especially if strangers are present. Being around other people can be fun for me, but it's tiring and eventually it gets to the point where I just want to get out of there and rest in solitude. I like people, and while I would describe myself as shy, I'm not envious or hateful towards people who are more socially active than me. Solitude is just preferable to me because it's really the only environment where I can truly relax. It's frustrating when other people can't understand that, but it's just something you learn to deal with.

 

[Jedoro]

Yeah, pretty much. I'll go for weeks at a time without hanging out with friends, even my best friend. I enjoyed my job more and did it better when I was the only one on duty, compared to the two people per shift we have now. When I am around people, most of the conversation is listening to them talk because I have nothing I care to talk about, and I don't mind the silence. I actually prefer silence, which, according to the Dark Brotherhood, is the music of life.

I have no problem with other people in general, but I rarely feel compelled to spend more time with them than I have to. I'm actually looking for a job that's done alone, because I'd likely be happier doing it than a good amount of the population, so it's a win-win.

 

[ChildishLegacy]

I'm not sure, I like spending days on my own, but most of the time I spend talking to my friends over skype/teamspeak. That said I don't have any "slight friends", I just have good friends and that's it. I'm not too much a fan of parties/social gatherings either, I'd rather be talking to a small bunch of good friends than be in a house with 50% people I don't know with the majority of them drunk.

 

[Doclector]

I was never a loner by choice. I wanted friends and all, I just had trouble finding them.

Things are a lot better now, but I do understand that some people choose to be alone.

 

[geK0]

I have a small group of friends and I don't socialize that much outside of this group of friends. That being said, I'm not a loner, I'm just very passive and don't become friends with a lot of people I meet because of that.

 

[Womplord]

I used to have bad social anxiety, but it has improved greatly over this last year. I guess you could still call me a loner though, I'm introverted and tend to be quiet. I spend heaps of time alone and stay sort of distant from people usually.

 

[Hagi]

Yeah, loner here as well.

Don't really have any friends and spend most of my time alone in my room. In the weekends I go home and socialise a bit with my parents and brothers and that's about it.

Wouldn't mind having friends but they need to be the right people. With most people thing at best go well for a while but after a while it always drifts apart. I do get a bit lonely at some times but overall I'm not really bothered all that much, I'm pretty okay on my own.

I'll choose being alone any time over the social stuff most people my age seem to do. I just don't really enjoy it, I'd much rather watch a movie, play a game or read a book.

 

[teqrevisited]

Yep. I enjoy the company of a few friends: people I've known for more than half of my life. I'll quite happily socialize with those people any time, any day, but I have occasionally disappeared now and then, usually for about a week, to be by myself. Most of the time, though, I prefer my own company. Nothing is expected of me when I'm by myself and the solitude grants me clarity of thought.

 

[Esotera]

I prefer being alone most of the time, but that's just because I'm introverted. It's still fun to talk to people every now and then & spend time with them.

 

[bojackx]

Sounds quite a lot like me, and I'm willing to bet many others on this website too. I love being alone with my thoughts, and most of the time prefer a quite evening alone in my house over going out somewhere to party or whatnot.

Surprisingly, I have quite a lot of friends, and I frequently get asked to go out to parties and bars. I'm not entirely sure why they keep calling me, or even regard me as a friend, because I almost definitely decline. That's probably very annoying to them, but I like it this way, becuase there's always the option to go out and party, even if I very rarely do it.

 

[Conn1496]

Both. I love having friends around, but alone time is cool for me too. I sorta spend half the day doing each. =P

 

[FalloutJack]

Am I a loner? Nah, I prefer to own things.

*Rimshot* [http://instantrimshot.com/]

 

[Jonluw]

Used to be.
Then I got a couple of close friends and learned of the wonder of intoxication.
I still don't enjoy the forms of socializing most people subscribe to, i.e., parties, unless I've had great amounts of alcohol.
Drinking was what allowed me to act normally on the social scene in the first place.

Still, I'm not a big fan of parties. Even if there is drink to be had.

It's all about finding a form of socializing you enjoy. For example, a couple of days ago I stayed up 'till five in the morning dm'ing a tabletop campaign with a couple of friends. It was quite enjoyable.

 

[Rawne1980]

Nope.

House full of kids and a wife. I rarely get time to myself even if I wanted it.

But no anyway. Not one for sitting around on my own unless i've had a really shitty day then I sit in my PC room with the door locked and relax.

 

[Vault101]

Yeah I'd say so

I once read (on cracked I belive) that the difference was while introverts enjoy socialising it takes energy while other people thrive on it

which then made perfect sense