Are you comfortable around people of the opposite sex?

[krazykidd]

This will probably not help with my overall coolness , but i am a 22 year old male and i am uncomfortable around women . By not means do i discriminate nor think less of them , i mean i get really nervous when women are around me. And when i have to speak to anyone of the oposite sex other than family of course i can/will say the dumbest things . I was wondering if anyone on the escapist have the same problem? I do have a girlfriend but she had to make the first move and thw first month of us seeing each other was really awkward . I don't have any self confidence so i know thats why i have this problem . I even have trouble speaking to my boss at work , i will say the bare minimum and try to avoid her when i can. ( oh god i'm such a loser hahaha)

So what about you? Are you uncomfortable around people of the opposite sex? Or is it just me and i'm doomed?

 

[let's rock]

Not really, I feal fine around women, actualy if anything it's men I'm uncomfortaable around

 

[CityofTreez]

Nah I'm fine if it's one on one. It's when I'm speaking to 5+ people at the same time is when I freak out.

 

[Blue2]

I am great with the other gender as friends or acquaintance but I can't bare myself to ask for a date

 

[Hitokiri_Gensai]

i always think i have issues, but then when i actually get into the situation, im fine. I dont know why. I love to like party and have fun, even though i generally dont.

 

[Sion_Barzahd]

Yeah i can talk to women perfectly fine. Its usually guys i struggle with, especially when they're the type that all bull-headed and acts overly macho. >_> i just feel like i'm talking to really slow worms.

 

[Jonluw]

I'm comfortable around people I know.
Their sex doesn't factor into it. That is, unless I'm interested in them, romantically or sexually.

 

[VaudevillianVeteran]

I'm more comfortable around them than I am around my own gender...

 

[genericusername64]

Just think of women like anybody else. I know it's tough for some guys (A thread a while back was about how a guy felt that he had to white knight women 24/7) Yeah I had this problem a while back too, and it wasn't until I spoke at length with a lot of different girls that I realized that they're not that different

 

[PureChaos]

not at all, i was going to be a teacher so during training it was rare if i had another guy around so it was good that i had no problem talking to women. of course if it was going to be in a chat up sense i would fail dismally.

 

[TheYellowCellPhone]

Why would I be uncomfortable? I act the same around them, and I don't feel uncomfortable with it.

 

[Krantos]

Being married, women aren't as scary as they used to be. Likewise, women tend to be more comfortable around me as well, because I'm no longer a threat/potential partner.

Ironically enough, my comfort level with women being higher has also lead to me being hit on more now that ever before. Funny how the world works like that.

 

[Ordinaryundone]

Have you tried just speaking to them like you would a man? You don't have to impress every girl you meet, you know.

 

[Daystar Clarion]

No, because I don't see women as this mysterious gender that many man-children seem to think they are.

Not to imply that the OP is a man-child of course.

 

[Xeraxis]

No, I am not comfortable around women unfortunately. Anxiety starts to kick in when I'm around women, which makes me stress out easily. You're not the only one, OP.

 

[blaqknoise]

Nope, I'm fine around women.

 

[Jakub324]

Yes. I have several good female friends, and they are friends with my other, male friends.

 

[SonicKaos]

Trouble talking to woman? Not usually. Trouble talking to extremely attractive woman? Yes. Takes me a while to get used to hanging around with extremely attractive woman for whatever reason, even if I have no interest in going out with them. I know a bunch of girls in college that are rather good looking, and it took months for me to get used to them being around lol. If I have no real attraction to the girl (or coincidently I'm sure...) I know that they have a boyfriend already, then I have no problem talking to them.

 

[Chasing-The-Light]

Most of my best friends throughout my entire life were male. I relate to men better than I do women. However, whenever a guy hits on me or shows interest in me, I do instantly get uncomfortable around them and don't know what to do, and everything feels wrong around them and I get closed off around them. I guess that's the only way I can relate.

 

[onewheeled]

I'm a guy that's into high school theatre, I kind of have to be comfortable with the opposite sex, since the huge majority of the people interested in theatre at this age are female.