Could use some advice about relationship

[winds-ov-chaos]

Hello everyone, as in title, i have a problem and some advice from someone neutral would be useful.

I recently broke up with my girlfriend, which happened for me completely out of nowhere. There wasn't any major argument between us during our relationship, every time we used to reach to an agreement. But then suddenly she decided to end this because, as she said, she doesn't know why, stopped love me and concerned about me only as a friend, and that isn't my fault and that i was the best boyfriend she ever had. It sounded almost as if it was ripped from some lame romantic comedy, it struck me very hard.

I'm kind of ready to move on, but another half of me is bothered about thinking of possibility of getting her back.

So here is my question, should i get over it, or try somehow fight for her feelings?

Damn it, my first post after long lurking on this forum and it is about relationship.

Oh, just in case, sorry about my english.

 

[mplantinga]

Sometimes when someone ends a relationship unexpectedly, it is not actually about the relationship but about them. Without knowing either of you at all, it's really difficult to know exactly what was going on. If you're really ready to move on, then it would be best to do so. If, on the other hand, you still believe it can work out, it could be worth at least a conversation with her. I would recommend starting with what you're feeling and why you don't want to lose her, and not on trying to figure out why she did what she did. Her response will probably tell you everything you need to know.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

I'm kind of ready to move on, but another half of me is bothered about thinking of possibility of getting her back.

So here is my question, should i get over it, or try somehow fight for her feelings?

Move on. You were dumped. It always feels like the end of the world when you get dumped, but it's not. It happens to everyone. It will happen again. And the chances of reconcilement after the fact are usually pretty thin on the ground, especially when the person pushing for that reconcilement is the dumped.

Just pick yourself up, dust yourself on, and carry on with life. If you want to take something positive from the experience, try to see if you can get an honest answer out of her why she broke it off, and then see if that's something you feel you can work on for the next time around. We are none of us perfect, and breakups are a good time for self-reflection and self-improvement.

I've been dumped many times. They were all enormously stressful and traumatic at the time, and I always wailed and yearned to get the person back, and I never did. Without exception, they are all now just funny anecdotes, and I can look back and have a smile about how silly I acted. I feel much worse about those times I dumped someone, because I hate feeling like a villain. Believe me when I say you're going to be fine.

 

[Limecake]

I'm kind of ready to move on, but another half of me is bothered about thinking of possibility of getting her back.

So here is my question, should i get over it, or try somehow fight for her feelings?

welcome to the forums by the way,

It's time to move on, the thing is that relationships are very rarely ended on mutual terms. This means that someone is going to get left with feelings for the other person.

as the old saying goes "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink". even if you did fight for her feelings you can't make someone love you and even if you did get back together chances are it wouldn't last long.

take what you can from the relationship and go find someone who wants to be with you.