The good news to start with is that I've gotten past a lot of the trouble of working up the confidence to ask girls out, and it wasn't hard to do, granted, It's been a stream of rejections, but I can live with that.
The bad news is I can't find any more girls.
I started seriously looking last year in the fall, when classes started at my new college. The two years before I was in tech school and both my Major and the School were nearly all men, and the women were all much older and... Yeah, let's not talk about it. I could have asked the guys in my class for help, sure, but with near-constant talk of strip clubs and questionable life choices, I doubted it would go well.
While I did find people over the last few months, I have to admit it's not really been that fruitful. While the people at anime club are at least nice, they are also fairly insular, and since I commute and don't share any classes with them, they bonded while I drifted to the outside of the club. I have to start all the conversations with them and even as a club officer I felt out of the loop more often then not. Also, two of the girls I liked were lesbians who were dating each other and the other girl I did like was busy with school and work-study. Otherwise, I did meet one other girl and she was a lot of fun to talk to and things at least on my end were clicking, but again, she was busy with school and work. I've also joined clubs on Meetup, but they consist of a lot of older people, and the girls, if any, are married.
So that is were I stand, I would ask my friends for help, but my close ones are all online and across the world. Granted, I do go to an RP group, and if I stretch my definition of friend they, along with few others, can be considered friends. Otherwise, I think I've run out of options as far finding girls goes. I've looked in the places people recommend for geeky people, like hobby stores and comic book stores, but I have yet to see a single female, EVER in such places, and more often than not, run into old men all the time. I'm going to ask my RP group, but considering how they talk about paying child support and how many of them are much older, my hopes aren't that high.
So the second question would be places to meet girls overall. But more importantly, where they want to talk. I know the response should be anywhere, but it seems like a lot of the time when I try to talk to people I get ignored even when it feels natural to talk.
So, the big question is then, should I indiscriminately ask all my 'friends' for help, and since I want to look in person, where to look
The bad news is I can't find any more girls.
I started seriously looking last year in the fall, when classes started at my new college. The two years before I was in tech school and both my Major and the School were nearly all men, and the women were all much older and... Yeah, let's not talk about it. I could have asked the guys in my class for help, sure, but with near-constant talk of strip clubs and questionable life choices, I doubted it would go well.
While I did find people over the last few months, I have to admit it's not really been that fruitful. While the people at anime club are at least nice, they are also fairly insular, and since I commute and don't share any classes with them, they bonded while I drifted to the outside of the club. I have to start all the conversations with them and even as a club officer I felt out of the loop more often then not. Also, two of the girls I liked were lesbians who were dating each other and the other girl I did like was busy with school and work-study. Otherwise, I did meet one other girl and she was a lot of fun to talk to and things at least on my end were clicking, but again, she was busy with school and work. I've also joined clubs on Meetup, but they consist of a lot of older people, and the girls, if any, are married.
So that is were I stand, I would ask my friends for help, but my close ones are all online and across the world. Granted, I do go to an RP group, and if I stretch my definition of friend they, along with few others, can be considered friends. Otherwise, I think I've run out of options as far finding girls goes. I've looked in the places people recommend for geeky people, like hobby stores and comic book stores, but I have yet to see a single female, EVER in such places, and more often than not, run into old men all the time. I'm going to ask my RP group, but considering how they talk about paying child support and how many of them are much older, my hopes aren't that high.
So the second question would be places to meet girls overall. But more importantly, where they want to talk. I know the response should be anywhere, but it seems like a lot of the time when I try to talk to people I get ignored even when it feels natural to talk.
So, the big question is then, should I indiscriminately ask all my 'friends' for help, and since I want to look in person, where to look