Dating Issue

[Superpuff]

Its not so much an issue as much as a question but well see im trying to ask out this girl who ive known for like 4days she doesnt go to my school and we've been talking and everyone and know and thats been around this girl with says she definetly likes me and im going to this party on Saturday. Well im wondering should i ask her out then and there or wait a week or couple days?

 

[SharPhoe]

Considering that you've only known her for four days, I would have to say to wait on it. Get to know her a little more before you make a decision like that, she might find it odd/creepy if you ask her out so soon.

 

[Superpuff]

Considering that you've only known her for four days, I would have to say to wait on it. Get to know her a little more before you make a decision like that, she might find it odd/creepy if you ask her out so soon.

Hm i see where your comin from but my i think my freind likes her too is and is going to ask her out there so...ya dont want her to think its like a dare but i dont want to say yes to my buddy

 

[ExodusinFlames]

I've seen situations like this damage friendships. As petty as it sounds.
This really comes down to the prime factors of:
How old are you and your buddy? - Certain ages may be a bit more prone to aggression over a girl
How close are you and your buddy? - Pretty straight forward really
And - what is more important to you ... this young lady, or your friend?

With the two latter questions, it'll make the choice easier, whereas the former will give you a bit more insight as to reactions.

 

[ExodusinFlames]

You could be right, Urprobablyright (Just felt a blood vessel burst). And, yes thank you, I'd love to go for coffee.

 

[MetalBride]

=D my Baby asked me out basically the next day =D It didn't freak me out. Go for it

 

[Seldon2639]

Its not so much an issue as much as a question but well see im trying to ask out this girl who ive known for like 4days she doesnt go to my school and we've been talking and everyone and know and thats been around this girl with says she definetly likes me and im going to this party on Saturday. Well im wondering should i ask her out then and there or wait a week or couple days?

It depends. If you're asking her out and present it as "I'd like to be your boyfriend", it might scare her off. If you ask her to go see a movie, or hang out, you'll probably be fine. Focus on spending time with her, rather than on dating her.

 

[Superpuff]

=D my Baby asked me out basically the next day =D It didn't freak me out. Go for it

Im 14 are you sure the same principals apply there

 

[rossatdi]

Its not so much an issue as much as a question but well see im trying to ask out this girl who ive known for like 4days she doesnt go to my school and we've been talking and everyone and know and thats been around this girl with says she definetly likes me and im going to this party on Saturday. Well im wondering should i ask her out then and there or wait a week or couple days?

Go for it man. There's no point hanging around otherwise you either a) end up as a friend or b) don't make it clear.

Plus it would radiate confidence to ask her and at the very worst she would find it complimentary and then say no. She's not going to be offended.

 

[MetalBride]

=D my Baby asked me out basically the next day =D It didn't freak me out. Go for it

Im 14 are you sure the same principals apply there

hmmm yeah a 3 year difference.... and those three years are kinda critical...

In that case ask just to spend some time with her (movie, small gigs, i donno game zone... if they even exist any more) .. Just you and her (that always makes a girl feel loved) just drop subtle hints see how she reacts to that and just go from there

 

[ExodusinFlames]

Dangerous quarry, but if you're lucky, its worth it. Hate my analogy, but thats what it becomes.
Starts off as you as the hunter in a game of cat and mouse, then when you least expect it, suddenly you become the mouse ... and trust me when I say this, you wouldn't want it any other way. There is truly a euphoria in being with the person that makes you tick, and perhaps my earlier post wasn't properly thought out ... perhaps it should've read:
Take the shot, it can go one of two ways, 50% chance you succeed. My old hockey coach used to tell me "You'll miss 100% of the shots you DON'T take" ... never understood it at 9 but w/e.

 

[Oopsie]

And you are asking this on an internet forum? Oh dear.

Ask her out now. Right now.

 

[Kiefer13]

Go for it.

Worst that can happen is she says no. And even if that does happen, you are no worse off than before you met her and won't have the nagging guilt you would have had if you didn't ask her at all.

 

[dwightsteel]

Considering that you've only known her for four days, I would have to say to wait on it. Get to know her a little more before you make a decision like that, she might find it odd/creepy if you ask her out so soon.

Lordy, the boy isn't trying to boink her yet, and he certainly isn't asking her to marry him. Most guys go about proposing the date idea in the first encounter.

Ask her to go to the party with you. If she "definitely" likes you, then just ask her out. You only need to be nervous when first kiss time comes around.

 

[SharPhoe]

Considering that you've only known her for four days, I would have to say to wait on it. Get to know her a little more before you make a decision like that, she might find it odd/creepy if you ask her out so soon.

Lordy, the boy isn't trying to boink her yet, and he certainly isn't asking her to marry him. Most guys go about proposing the date idea in the first encounter.

Ask her to go to the party with you. If she "definitely" likes you, then just ask her out. You only need to be nervous when first kiss time comes around.

You've got a point. I figured my advice probably wouldn't stand, seeing as how I can't speak from experience or anything.

 

[WeedWorm]

Considering that you've only known her for four days, I would have to say to wait on it. Get to know her a little more before you make a decision like that, she might find it odd/creepy if you ask her out so soon.

Bullshit. She might find it odd/creepy if she's 12 years old. If you meet a girl on the street or in a pub/coffe shop, you ask her out after a few minutes of conversation.

Don't wait. You're interested in her romanticaly, the sooner you let her know about it, the less likely you are to hear something like "I don't want to ruin our friendship" or other crap.
Also a party is a good option, but only if she knows someone there. Otherwise it can go really awkward, trust me on that.

This. The friend zone is the worst place to be.

 

[Varchld]

*facepalms*

Ask her or nothing good could possibly come from it. Just get to talking one on one with her and then ask her out someplace.

Now what made me facepalm is that this is a bad place to post this kind of question.
Sure most people here are mature or at least civil, but everyone has relationship queries, doubts and question, we don't want the forums completely covered in these kinds of posts...again...for the third or fourth time.