Did I potentially blow it with this girl?

[Thebiggestpanda]

Ok so I met this girl at a party last friday at college. We spent the whole time talking and then we went back to her place afterward to play some drinking games and chill. We made out for a bit but didn't have sex cause she seems really cool and I wanna take things slow (plus I don't like to have sex when either person is really drunk). I call her the next day and we spend saturday evening hanging out with her roommates who are really cool. Her roommates would occasionally joke around and say that she wants me bad etc. We didn't drink at all on saturday and kissed a little before I left. Everything she did seems like she digs me.

Ok, so fast forward to monday. I get back from the gym and decide to call her on a whim. While we were talking I decide to ask her out for lunch or something outside of a party setting, but before I can do that she asks me if I want to go hiking with her and her friends this weekend. I love hiking so that sounded awesome. After we establish the date for this weekend I ask her if she wants to meet for a late brunch on tuesday. She said sure but she doesn't really drink coffee but hot Chocolate would sound great. I then say that I don't drink coffee either and that I was just thinking of something to do and that hot Chocolate sounded great.

I feel like I might have rushed things by asking her out for tuesday after she already just made plans with me for this weekend and that saying that I was just trying to think of something to do makes me sound desperate or something. I'm not desperate or anything like that, I just think shes really cool and wanted to hang out with her again. Did I blow it with this girl? Did I just board the creeper train? Am I safe and need to not worry about it?
I feel like I might bee cramming too much activity into too narrow a timeframe.

*EDIT* Thanks for all the advice. I don't think shes the type to flake out at the last minute and if she is it just wasn't meant to be. This is just the first girl I've cared about for more than just sex in a while and it kinda freaks me out a little.

 

[Irridium]

Dude, relax. Your fine.

Its just 2 things to do with her in about 6 days, its not that bad.

Now if you said you called her and mentioned some growth on your penis, they yeah you might have blown it. But you didn't, so its fine.

 

[Hai Ruki Desu]

I would say if you'd blown it with her, she wouldn't have agreed to meet you on the tuesday. Sounds like you're still in there mate!

 

[AmrasCalmacil]

Sounds fine to me, I'm no relationship expert, but I think you're on the right tracks, being confident enough to ask her rather than shying away from anything.

 

[Super Six One]

Chill, everything seems fine. Some people like it fast paced when they are getting to know them. Plus its hot chocolate, not asking her to meet your parents or somthing..

 

[SenseOfTumour]

I'd say if you're worried, the simplest answer is next Tuesday, ask her when she'd like to meet up again, let her choose the next date and time. It gives her the choice, and while it's scary, it'll answer your concerns, one way or the other.

Really, tho, I've been there and most of the time, it's your own mind working overtime to give you things to worry about. Try to take it easy, in the vast majority, she'll say yes because she genuinely wants to spend more time with you, not for any other reason

 

[Infinatex]

Doing great dude! You've got nothing to worry about!

 

[latenightapplepie]

Nope.

Just relax and stop worrying so much. I know that it's easier said than done, but you have to try.

 

[RobCoxxy]

Just keep going man! Go you

 

[CharrHawk164]

I'm a girl and I say you have nothing to fear. She's agreeing to go out with you everytime so she obviously likes you. And if her friends have been saying she digs you they might be telling the truth. By the sounds of things she does. Just cos you've called her a few times in the space of a week makes you a lovely guy not a desperate one. I'd love to speak to the guy I liked on the phone rather than text all the time.

Don't panic =]

 

[ComicsAreWeird]

Dude,dont worry. You seem to be on the right track.

 

[bobknowsall]

Now if you said you called her and mentioned some growth on your penis, they yeah you might have blown it. But you didn't, so its fine.

Yeah, that's more of a 6-month thing.

OT: Dude, you're fine. If you overanalyse everything, you will come off as being really highly-strung. Take. It. Easy.

Ah sure, yeh'll be grand.

 

[BlueberryMUNCH]

LOLWUT, It sounds to me like a dream o_o.

'GEDDIN'THEEER MOI SAN' as us Londoners would say, and best of luck with it all man.

 

[Agent Cross]

You're good. I mean hell, from what you said her friends say she's diggin ya and she even went so far as to ask you out. Plus... A coffee date is not really a date, it's more of getting to know each other and enjoying a friendly conversation.

 

[WingedIncubus]

Making plans on the spot is good. Beat the iron while it's still hot, plus it gives her less time to overthink it, wuss out, and flake you. Don't overthink it, you asked her out and she accepted.

However, always keep in mind the possibility that she cancels out, for whatever reason. If something comes and she flakes on you, she'll bring in an alternative date if she genuinely digs you. If she just flakes for a stupid unclear reason, be cool about it and either decide to next her and totally cease contact, or (if you want to give her another chance) let a few days go past and when in contact with her again, don't mention it. The worst thing you could do is so signs of neediness (what didn't you come? What happened? I thought you said yes? bla bla bla).

 

[archvile93]

Sounds fine to me. I suppose it's possible she thinks you're getting desperate and just wanted to spare your feelings, but I really doubt it.

 

[DanielBrown]

She invites you to a hiking trip and agrees to meet you for brunch and you think you've blown it... You're just trying to boast to all us single gamers that hug our pillows at night, aren't you? ;<

 

[WingedIncubus]

Sounds fine to me. I suppose it's possible she thinks you're getting desperate and just wanted to spare your feelings, but I really doubt it.

Girls don't make dates with a guy they pity and don't respect. Why invest time on such a guy, anyway? Those rare girls who do this will usually flake at the last minute for some unclear excuse.

 

[Section Crow]

sounds stable enough...

just seems like your over thinking about everything and just need to be "really cool"

 

[Braonan]

No man you're cool. Just explain it to her like you did in the last paragraph. But be sure to add, that before I go hiking with you and your friends, I simply would like the opportunity to get to know you a little better before the trip. And if there is anything that can go wrong, tell the truth; you thought of her and called wanting to ask to have lunch. After, you were interrupted (don't say that to her) by the hiking invitation, your words just got jumbled and came out awkward.

Honesty with a little Sugar.