Different People's Sex Drives? (Possibly NSFW)

[Arnoxthe1]

I've been wondering lately just what the heck causes some to have such a high sex drive (as in, even after 2 orgasms, they're still at least kind of horny) And then you have people like me who fail to feel even some lust some days. (Although I have been kind of depressed and stressed out too. But just how much does that really affect sex drive? Isn't sex drive not affected by those things?) I know, after my first orgasm, I'm pretty much done. MAYBE two. If I'm lucky.

So, anyone know anything about this odd topic? How does one raise and lower sex drive?

 

[Silvanus]

I'm fairly sure I have a relatively low sex drive. A lot of days, I don't think about it, and if I do, it's one time at most. On another note, whythefuckamItalkingaboutthisgoodbye.

 

[Fox12]

How do you increase it? Pfft, no idea. I think everyone's different, there's nothing wrong with having a low sex drive. One of my flatmates can't go a week without having sex before he needs to again, whereas I can pretty much go once a month and I'm fine.

I think low testosterone levels can affect this, as well as your energy levels. I don't think it really matters, but if anybody is concerned about it then vitamin supplements can usually help. The same goes for regular exercise. I was never as randy as I was when I worked out several hours every day.

 

[TakerFoxx]

Mine's a little weird. I do end up jacking off at least a couple times per day, though that's really more out of boredom than actual horniness, so if I have something I'm doing all day I barely even notice, but some days it does start whining at really inconvenient times. However, thanks to a complete lack of interest in any sort of intimacy, I've never actually had the drive to go out and have sex, so it ends up being this sort of annoying thing that happens that ends up wasting time.

 

[Lufia Erim]

Mine's a little weird. I do end up jacking off at least a couple times per day, though that's really more out of boredom than actual horniness, so if I have something I'm doing all day I barely even notice, but some days it does start whining at really inconvenient times. However, thanks to a complete lack of interest in any sort of intimacy, I've never actually had the drive to go out and have sex, so it ends up being this sort of annoying thing that happens that ends up wasting time.

Well there's your problem . Connect sex to intamacy. Think of it like an activity you do with a buddy. Like bowling. Or watching a movie.

-I'm bored
-me too
-wanna have sex
-sure

See it's easy.

OT: i think age does also play a part. I'm 27 and i jerk it almost everyday as well as always wanna do it. My gf is 34. She has passed that phase , so she only wants to do it once in a while.

 

[BarkBarker]

I think low testosterone levels can affect this, as well as your energy levels.... The same goes for regular exercise. I was never as randy as I was when I worked out several hours every day.

Exercise raises testosterone levels, not sure if it's a permanent change but testosterone is in charge of sex drive, its likely why we get hornier in the summer cos of some correlation with testosterone and Vitamin D levels. Alcohol does temporarily raise testosterone levels which is a player in why quite a few people get hornier, especially women. Not all obviously and it does have a bit more of a damaging effect on the longer term.

Just some notes I can't be fully sure if some of these are bogus, such science isn't solid as far as I can see:

+Exercise
+watch sports, something about viewing displays of exercise or getting your competitive side out riles up your testosterone levels
+eat fats...the kind in fish like that omega one
+consume the good cholesterol
+Vitamin E and zinc
+Sunlight as stated before
+Magnesium

-overtrain/overexert
-poor sleep quality
-Booze
-high sugar, blood sugars levels go up and testosterone levels usually go down for a spell
-weak mental state

Shockingly the sleep, booze, weak mental state and mebbe sugar can come from depression so really depression is a big old NOPE.
Hair loss from testosterone comes from specific kinds, there are multiple kinds present in the body and certain kinds cause shrinking oh the hair follicles....or its genetic and ur fucked but hey don't tempt fate if you got a nice do.

As its a hormonal level aspect sex drives vary wildly from person to person, though obviously there is a lean towards men likely to having more with higher levels usually. Just remember we respond to the opposite sexes dominant hormone more than our own, women get a LOT more with less testosterone, sheesh female body builders probably get the hots like a fucking teenage boy.

 

[sneakypenguin]

Yeah the "all night long" type of sex just isn't me. I'm one and done and honestly I have better things to do than fk someone multiple times a session or even day.

 

[Dizchu]

I've recently come out of a relationship that ended pretty much because of the inconvenience of long-distance travel rather than any lack of attraction. Which is extremely frustrating and the lack of release for the sexual tension (not just with sex but with discussing sexual things) is pretty unbearable for both of us. However she feels a greater "need" for the actual act than I do, I mostly need the emotional stuff that comes with it.

I'm not sure if my own sex drive is high or low or if I just need attention and TLC. I find it really hard to concentrate on anything anymore. My ex and I could only meet for a night or two at a time so we packed tons of sex into that short timespan. Which is both cathartic and kinda shitty in its own way, because it meant that we couldn't take the time to experiment sexually and build up a "pleasant" sort of tension while we were together.

I dunno. Sometimes I wish I was asexual and aromantic just because I can't deal with the withdrawal symptoms.

 

[Paragon Fury]

I'm pretty sure mine is damn high; but no way to fulfill it means its super annoying.

 

[JohnnyDelRay]

People are so different, I don't think there's any one answer to this question (which is why a forum is a great place to ask, incidentally). I think in terms of raising one's sex drive, the best thing would be to be in touch with what turns you on or doesn't, what gets you in the mood. For me it's exercise, followed by a shower, after that I can guarantee a good time.

Having a partner that you're intimate with helps of course. Better if you are somewhat synchronized in sex drive obviously, if one of you is much lower than the other that can be a recipe for untold frustration and grief.

Also, doing it more than once a session is pretty....rare for me these days. Though it does happen, it's a lot lower than in my early twenties (up to 9 times once), whereas now it's like, maybe twice a year I'll even bother going in for seconds.

 

[kurokotetsu]

Simple, mood affects sex drives. But it may not be consistent. sometimes feeling down may lower it. SOmetimes it makes you more horny as a way to feel better. Stress and being tired also may have an effect.

Way to rise it? No idea. Personally I have what might be conisdered a high sex drive. With MY girl it is rare that we go below three times. In an hour we try to squeeze at least two. I think only once we've gone only one time (an hour long one but only one). Our record is ten in six hours more or less (we wanted more but life gets in the way). We both have very high sex drives. We are a very sexual couple.

 

[Fox12]

I think low testosterone levels can affect this, as well as your energy levels.... The same goes for regular exercise. I was never as randy as I was when I worked out several hours every day.

Exercise raises testosterone levels, not sure if it's a permanent change but testosterone is in charge of sex drive, its likely why we get hornier in the summer cos of some correlation with testosterone and Vitamin D levels. Alcohol does temporarily raise testosterone levels which is a player in why quite a few people get hornier, especially women. Not all obviously and it does have a bit more of a damaging effect on the longer term.

Just some notes I can't be fully sure if some of these are bogus, such science isn't solid as far as I can see:

+Exercise
+watch sports, something about viewing displays of exercise or getting your competitive side out riles up your testosterone levels
+eat fats...the kind in fish like that omega one
+consume the good cholesterol
+Vitamin E and zinc
+Sunlight as stated before
+Magnesium

-overtrain/overexert
-poor sleep quality
-Booze
-high sugar, blood sugars levels go up and testosterone levels usually go down for a spell
-weak mental state

This is interesting, but having experienced both extremes of lifestyle, I think this is all very true. At least in my case.

Regardless, I always prioritized the emotional aspect of a relationship over physical intimacy. Even sex is only interesting as a supplement to emotional fulfillment. I was certainly happier after a lifestyle change, though. Lord, I need to start working out again before I turn into my old lardo self. School is killing me : P

 

[McElroy]

I'm pretty sure mine is damn high; but no way to fulfill it means its super annoying.

I bet you're the first person ever to claim this.
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Same here.

Though if you mean your arms are amputated, I'm sorry.

 

[Smooth Operator]

Well it's all about hormones, and so far all correlations point to testosterone affecting libido. Of course for accurate information biological studies are the go to place, not mad forum ramblings.

But we aren't robots so everything is in flux, some days your hormones go wild and some day it's plain sailing, this is particularly noticeable in teens as their hormones have the biggest fluctuations.
What I read/remember on the subject:
- on average men peek with their hormones at the age of 19 and women at 35
- the average male produces about 8x the amount of testosterone women do
- after climax another hormone is released in your body that nullifies/minimizes the effect of all others
- most forms of excitement and physical activity increases your hormone levels
- and in the same direction inactivity and depression will keep your hormones low, thus you do not feel like doing anything and this slowly gets worse with time

 

[Fieldy409_v1legacy]

Mines crazy. I never, ever get whisky dick no matter how much I drink. I can go three times in one go happily. Though I often find myself a bit sore after a third round of spank the monkey so I usually just masturbate twice in a go unless Ive got lube.

I found it got a lot more after I started exercising. Most testosterone I guess...

Enjoy the intimiate details of my life internet strangers!

 

[TakerFoxx]

Well there's your problem . Connect sex to intamacy. Think of it like an activity you do with a buddy. Like bowling. Or watching a movie.

-I'm bored
-me too
-wanna have sex
-sure

See it's easy.

OT: i think age does also play a part. I'm 27 and i jerk it almost everyday as well as always wanna do it. My gf is 34. She has passed that phase , so she only wants to do it once in a while.

The problem there is that I just plain don't like or want intimacy. As if in, that part of me has been turned way down. I like to keep to myself, rarely get lonely, and never really felt the need to share myself with others in the long term.

I mean, don't get me wrong. I'm not some sort of people-hating misanthrope (quite the opposite). I actually like people a lot, and tend to be very positive. I just prefer to keep my own company, so something as intimate as romance or even casual sex is really nothing I have any desire for. So still having a sex drive just turns into a sort of annoying thing I gotta deal with a couple times a day because it tends to be distracting.

 

[dragoongfa]

My exes all said that I had a very high sex drive, when I was with them it was ordinary for us to have sex every day, many days more than once. The weird thing is that I don't have any problem with very long dry spells and during these dry spells my sex drive takes a nose dive (currently I am approaching the 9 month mark, my longest is 13 months). Spoke to a couple of psychologists who specialize in this particular field and they said that what drives my sexual appetite when I am with someone ain't the sex but a deeply ingrained psychological need for intimacy.

In the words of the one shrink I liked better:

Sex isn't just about the act itself but also the intimate fact that you are doing it with someone that shares romantic feelings with you.

 

[Paragon Fury]

I'm pretty sure mine is damn high; but no way to fulfill it means its super annoying.

I bet you're the first person ever to claim this.
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Same here.

Though if you mean your arms are amputated, I'm sorry.

I mean, I'll almost certainly never have sex with an actual person in any meaningful way, and since I'll likely never have a girlfriend either I don't have anyone to compare my own drive to. So it could be less mine is really high and more it's just not satisfied by simple masturbation anymore - like getting invited to Thanksgiving dinner, but then only allowed to eat rolls while everyone else gets the main course.

It probably doesn't help that most of the things I like to watch/do on a semi-regular basis can be sexually triggering. I mean, hell, these are just some of my computer/phone backgrounds I like to use;

Spoiler

 

[Sleepy Sol]

I'm horny as a fucking rabbit ALL THE TIME.

Well, not that much. But I do enjoy myself a good wank. Frequently. Seems to be fairly common in my age range.

I found it got a lot more after I started exercising. Most testosterone I guess...

I found another terrible reason to not exercise! I wouldn't get anything done if that happened.