Drunk Dad

[Tom13ombadil]

This thread has nothing to do with games or anything of the such, but I need some help.
For the past couple of weeks my dad has been getting drunk to the point where he can't even talk, and he's fighting (verbally) with my mom. This may be normal (I really don't know), but it's really bugging me and a couple of times I thought of telling him that he's an asshole or that his liver is going to go bad, or something to maybe possibly get him to lessen his intake.
I don't have many options, and I'm not going to go to any extremes, but if you have any idea, I could really use them.

 

[delet]

It's the Off-topic section. No need to talk about games here.

OT: I'd suggest organizing an intervention.

 

[LordGarbageMan]

Have you talked to your mom about it?

 

[Raiha]

talk to others who know your dad and express your concern. depending on the situation and severity of his drinking an intervention may be the way to go. however no one here really knows the situation very well so speaking with your mom and other people who know what is really going on would probably be the best first step.

 

[Tom13ombadil]

Have you talked to your mom about it?

Heheheh, she said ignore him.

 

[Deleted]

If you're bigger than him (some lucky kids are) you can confront him about it confidently and he'll listen to you, on the off chance that you might use force.

If not then formulate a scenario where everyone learns of his drinking habits and 'bad parenting' and he'll be too embarrassed to drink again.

May I suggest recording him drink outside so he won't know its you, and edit the video with him holding a baby.

 

[bluepilot]

That`s really awful, my heart goes out to you.

It sounds like your dad has turned into an addict and needs some professional help, in particular, some councilling to get to the root of why he needs to drink.

I would suggest that you intervene, talk to your mum about getting your dad to attend AA or similar. There are many outreach programs available to those with alcohol problems. Some will intervene on your behalf.

Try talking to you dad when he is sober. Make sure you tell him that he is acting inapprapriatly and that your family needs him to be a father.

If any signs of violence occur while he is drunk, get out of there and call the police.

It will be difficult though, because your dad has to admit that he has a problem, then it is a long road to recovery

Be supportive, show your dad that you care about him and are worried, but act fast. I have seen alcohol addiction tear many families apart.

 

[Dusty Donuts]

Erm, you think drinking like that might be normal?

That`s really awful, my heart goes out to you.

It sounds like your dad has turned into an addict and needs some professional help, in particular, some councilling to get to the root of why he needs to drink.

I would suggest that you intervene, talk to your mum about getting your dad to attend AA or similar. There are many outreach programs available to those with alcohol problems. Some will intervene on your behalf.

Try talking to you dad when he is sober. Make sure you tell him that he is acting inapprapriatly and that your family needs him to be a father.

If any signs of violence occur while he is drunk, get out of there and call the police.

It will be difficult though, because your dad has to admit that he has a problem, then it is a long road to recovery

Be supportive, show your dad that you care about him and are worried, but act fast. I have seen alcohol addiction tear many families apart.

Agreed.

 

[Azure-Supernova]

My dad was heading the same way, coming back almost every night after drinking like a trooper, eyes like road maps, and cussing and swearing all over the house. He was upsetting my sisters so I swung for him and missed on purpose, soon sook the bastard up and he doesn't drink all that much since.

EDIT

I wouldn't suggest going this way however, trying to explain your concerns would be a better idea. Try an intervention.

 

[Shru1kan]

If you're bigger than him (some lucky kids are) you can confront him about it confidently and he'll listen to you, on the off chance that you might use force.

Doesn't always work. My dad took forever to take that one seriously and I have over half a foot and 50 pounds on him.

 

[hotacidbath]

Try talking to him about it when he's sober. If he doesn't listen then try videotaping him and show him how he's acting. As someone with a borderline alcoholic roommate, I know that she doesn't believe what she's doing when people tell her the next day and that even after having to get her stomach pumped because of alcohol poisoning (TWICE!) it still hasn't slowed down her drinking. People with alcohol problems are very good at making excuses, but showing him irrefutable proof of what an ass he's being will hopefully shake him up a little. Getting your mom to back you up would also be good. Strength in numbers and all that.

 

[Logic 0]

I have the same problem all you just have to do is tape it and bide your time then call the police.