i especially like the mandatory team work in the higher difficulty levels.
if your cleric will rush the enemy instead of healing and neutralizing conditions the team will fail. if you do not have a thief to disarm the nasty traps you will fail.
without tanks you will be crushed.
i know, i know, that's the way its supposed to be in most MMO's but somehow it feels tighter in DDO. every class has such a distinct role [ okay maybe barbarian and fighter arent that different so not every class

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maybe its the fact that bad groups fail so spectacularly that makes the team work stand out
when you play in a good group its a ton of fun.
maybe you should give it another go traskelion. to be honest with you i havent seen any scantily clad women in game. all characters have very sensible armor and not a chain mail bikini.