Feeling depresed lately

[thrak]

Lately I had a felling that my life is not going anywhere which got me quite depresed. It all started with me realizing that it has been a year since I first got the idea of asking a girl from my class out. Since than I am pretty sure that I have fallen in love with her but I still haven t asked her out. Not long after that I realized that in last few months things that used to make me happy (making short movies, reviewing music etc..) don t anymore and that the only thing I want to do is lay in my bed and do nothing. It seems to me that I am going nowhere with my life, everytime I want to do something about it (for example asking the girl out or try to make a new short film) I find myself excuse to not to. I really don t know what to do about this. Also sorry for my bad english and spelling mistakes but I have been writng this on my tablet and also english is not my first language.

 

[Amarok]

You're probably infatuated rather than in love. Then again I have no idea of your relationship with this girl beyond that you're not asking her out.

Have you considered talking to a doctor or anyone about this? Lack of motivation or deriving happiness from anything could be indicative of proper depression. Better to check in with them now than wait until you're feeling really wretched.

As far as practical advice goes... ask her out? But depending on how well she knows you you might not want to mention the love thing.

 

[JesterRaiin]

Lately I had a felling that my life is not going anywhere which got me quite depresed.

Check your diet and your daily/nightly activities. Try to exclude unhealthy products (try to stay away from mood stimulants or depressants like coffee and/or alcohol, or "heavy" food). Move a little, go outside (take a book or tablet with you if you want), spend some time outside (maybe in park or in the forest).

As for life, accept simple truth : nothing you'll ever do really matters. Nothing anyone ever did really mattered in the long term. Instead of perceiving yourself as lacking control, unsuccessful human being (i get that impression from your description), think that there's no success other than being happy (or NOT being UNHAPPY which is a little different thing) right here, right now. Don't think that much about future, and past. Try to be simply there.

DON'T, and i mean it distance yourself from other people. Simply say that you're struggling with some kind of block, depression or something and you're not fit for "social" stuff. What i'm trying to say is : go, be with the people you know and like, but ask them to simply let you be, so you don't have to talk, or do anything special. If they like you and are good friends, they'll respect your need and won't bother you with "come, do something, let's party" attitude.

That's for starters.