I thought I'd have a go at one of these 'gender' threads and try and get one of those popular thread badges.
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r question: Do you flirt only for fun with no agenda? Deliberately using corny/terrible/really inappropriate lines for a laugh? Or do you think all flirting has the eventual goal of sex?
Longer explanation for the post:
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r question: Do you flirt only for fun with no agenda? Deliberately using corny/terrible/really inappropriate lines for a laugh? Or do you think all flirting has the eventual goal of sex?Longer explanation for the post:
So I was just reading a woman's blog calling men out for flirting over the internet, and asked whether I would say some of those things in real life. It went on to say that usually women aren't interested at all and just because they don't outright say 'I don't like you go away' you shouldn't keep flirting with them, IRL or on the internet.
Now obviously in some situations this is entirely correct but it got me thinking about my interactions IRL with certain people in my life (mostly women) and how actually a lot of them are very flirty.
Y'see, I enjoy flirting with people, genuinely without any agenda or eventual goal. I like the interplay of words in a good come on that could be perceived as innocent, but because you emphasised one word a little too much becomes something entirely different. I like it when you can have a laugh with a girl over a truly awfully corny pickup line. I love to pretend for a short time like you're in a Rom-com or Sitcom enjoying some playful banter that would infuriate the audience when it didn't go anywhere.
And I'm not the only one. I don't just flirt with these girls, they flirt back with me, just as motive-less. There's absolutely no chance of sex, but sometimes it's just fun. I also flirt with guys, when they're up for a joke. Most of the time the only reason I don't flirt with more guys is that they are much faster to get uncomfortable and leave or hit you.
Sometimes it does go a little further, and I might find myself flirting with a girl at a open mic when she actually goes so far as to slip me her number, at which point I apologise, disengage and stop.
So the question, as above, is simple. Do you flirt just for the fun of flirting, without even considering the eventual outcome? And would you be offended if someone did this to you?
I think flirting with the goal of sex/dating should of course be stopped if one party isn't interested, but why shouldn't women and men be able to engage in a little light banter without people getting offended? (this includes 'white knights' of the internet as well as women who complain about it.)
Now obviously in some situations this is entirely correct but it got me thinking about my interactions IRL with certain people in my life (mostly women) and how actually a lot of them are very flirty.
Y'see, I enjoy flirting with people, genuinely without any agenda or eventual goal. I like the interplay of words in a good come on that could be perceived as innocent, but because you emphasised one word a little too much becomes something entirely different. I like it when you can have a laugh with a girl over a truly awfully corny pickup line. I love to pretend for a short time like you're in a Rom-com or Sitcom enjoying some playful banter that would infuriate the audience when it didn't go anywhere.
And I'm not the only one. I don't just flirt with these girls, they flirt back with me, just as motive-less. There's absolutely no chance of sex, but sometimes it's just fun. I also flirt with guys, when they're up for a joke. Most of the time the only reason I don't flirt with more guys is that they are much faster to get uncomfortable and leave or hit you.
Sometimes it does go a little further, and I might find myself flirting with a girl at a open mic when she actually goes so far as to slip me her number, at which point I apologise, disengage and stop.
So the question, as above, is simple. Do you flirt just for the fun of flirting, without even considering the eventual outcome? And would you be offended if someone did this to you?
I think flirting with the goal of sex/dating should of course be stopped if one party isn't interested, but why shouldn't women and men be able to engage in a little light banter without people getting offended? (this includes 'white knights' of the internet as well as women who complain about it.)
