Sharkeyes said:
I am currently living at my college, which is over 150 miles from my old home. My problem is, I keep talking to my old friends, and when I do, I only feel depressed and the like because of how bad I miss them and home. I'm at a military school, so I won't get to see them but about once a year at most as I do military training in the summer. I feel bad about thinking of this, but should I just cut my ties to them, let them live their lives and embrace my new life? Or should I hold on to them because they're my best friends?
Damn, man, no need to get martyristic. "Go on without me, I'm only slowing you down!" might be a noble sentiment on the battlefield, but probably doesn't translate as well to personal relationships.
Naturally the nature of your friendships are going to change. And yeah, there're the possibility that you and your friends might drift apart due to the distance - some people are great fun to be around and *do* things with, but when you try to maintain a friendship through correspondence you realise that actually you didn't have that much to talk about, or that much in common, or perhaps you just stuck together for mutual company. A little disappointing when you find that this is the case, but it's better to know.
Yes, you're going to see less of your friends. Yes, to some exrent you'll "replace" them with new friends. Maybe you'll drift apart. But some friendships last longer than a few years, and can withstand a gap of several years. No need to burn your bridges.
