Hey guys, Just letting you know this is a BIG WALL OF TEXT! THERE IS A TL;DR DOWN THE BOTTOM!
I'm sorry to bother you all with another break up thread, I know there must be a lot. But I really just wanted to lay out my situation because
Firstly: There's no one in person I feel I can honestly tell everything to and
Secondly: Writing this stuff all out helps me as well.
So at the beginning of last year, my group of friends at school (about ten of us) were introduced to about ten or so girls from another school through a friend, and we all became, and still are, good friends to this day. One of these girls quickly became my girlfriend in March. We're both 16 years old (turning 17 soon)
Now this girl was amazing. We loved the same kind of music, she never, ever, got jealous, she never bitched about her friends, she was honest AND she loved Star Wars and LOTR (how good does it get?).
We went out for the rest of the year, we never fought and I honestly thought I had totally lucked out, my first girlfriend ever was perfect. Over new years I went away for a week with just her and her family which was amazing.
Though since we got back, things have seemed slightly weird. In person everything is fine, however, when we talk over Facebook or something the conversations just felt different. Almost strained or awkward. However I just assumed that we were both pretty busy doing stuff and it would soon be fine.
Then, yesterday, we met up and she said that over the past few weeks (after getting back from the holiday) she had randomly felt angry at me, and she didn't know why because she said I had done nothing wrong at all, she just felt frustrated and annoyed at me and she didn't know why. Then she said that she thinks she was angry because her feelings for me had just gone away, even though she didn't want that to happen.
So that was a shitty day, but we ended it calmly, without fighting or anything which was good, and we're staying close friends.
The only real criticism I had was that throughout last year she had gone through some pretty shitty stuff, usually dealing with stress and related things, and I thought I had done a damn good job of being there for her and supporting her anytime she needed me, and she had said this herself many times.
Though the night before we broke up I unloaded some stuff on her I had been dealing with myself, really just me coping with stress and some minor depression. I had hardly complained to her about my personal problems throughout our relationship, but this night I felt that I needed her.
So it just annoys me that the day after I tell her all this, she tells me her feelings for me are gone. I know it's not her fault but it feels like really bad timing.
You guys don't really need to pay attention to these details, I just felt like I needed to tell someone all this stuff because there's no one else to tell really.
But my main question to you guys is, can you give me any advice for dealing with this break up? How should I get over this girl? I still love her (yes I know it sounds stupid, me using "love" when I'm not even seventeen yet, but it feels that way and I have nothing to compare it to). She's in my group of friends so I can't cut her out of my life, and I don't want to, I want to keep her as a close friend because she is a good person.
TL;DR
My girlfriend and I just broke up after ten months, it was my first girlfriend and she's still a good friend. How should I get over her?
Thank you all!
I'm sorry to bother you all with another break up thread, I know there must be a lot. But I really just wanted to lay out my situation because
Firstly: There's no one in person I feel I can honestly tell everything to and
Secondly: Writing this stuff all out helps me as well.
So at the beginning of last year, my group of friends at school (about ten of us) were introduced to about ten or so girls from another school through a friend, and we all became, and still are, good friends to this day. One of these girls quickly became my girlfriend in March. We're both 16 years old (turning 17 soon)
Now this girl was amazing. We loved the same kind of music, she never, ever, got jealous, she never bitched about her friends, she was honest AND she loved Star Wars and LOTR (how good does it get?).
We went out for the rest of the year, we never fought and I honestly thought I had totally lucked out, my first girlfriend ever was perfect. Over new years I went away for a week with just her and her family which was amazing.
Though since we got back, things have seemed slightly weird. In person everything is fine, however, when we talk over Facebook or something the conversations just felt different. Almost strained or awkward. However I just assumed that we were both pretty busy doing stuff and it would soon be fine.
Then, yesterday, we met up and she said that over the past few weeks (after getting back from the holiday) she had randomly felt angry at me, and she didn't know why because she said I had done nothing wrong at all, she just felt frustrated and annoyed at me and she didn't know why. Then she said that she thinks she was angry because her feelings for me had just gone away, even though she didn't want that to happen.
So that was a shitty day, but we ended it calmly, without fighting or anything which was good, and we're staying close friends.
The only real criticism I had was that throughout last year she had gone through some pretty shitty stuff, usually dealing with stress and related things, and I thought I had done a damn good job of being there for her and supporting her anytime she needed me, and she had said this herself many times.
Though the night before we broke up I unloaded some stuff on her I had been dealing with myself, really just me coping with stress and some minor depression. I had hardly complained to her about my personal problems throughout our relationship, but this night I felt that I needed her.
So it just annoys me that the day after I tell her all this, she tells me her feelings for me are gone. I know it's not her fault but it feels like really bad timing.
You guys don't really need to pay attention to these details, I just felt like I needed to tell someone all this stuff because there's no one else to tell really.
But my main question to you guys is, can you give me any advice for dealing with this break up? How should I get over this girl? I still love her (yes I know it sounds stupid, me using "love" when I'm not even seventeen yet, but it feels that way and I have nothing to compare it to). She's in my group of friends so I can't cut her out of my life, and I don't want to, I want to keep her as a close friend because she is a good person.
TL;DR
My girlfriend and I just broke up after ten months, it was my first girlfriend and she's still a good friend. How should I get over her?
Thank you all!
