Gone off the radar...

[MetalBride]

Ok i know this is probably NOT the best place to ask... Well asking people on the internet probably isn't the best thing ever. But this is now a last resort for me. I need comfort.. God that sounds so stupid asking for comfort. My fiancee has been missing for a week now(as in i haven't heard from him none of my friends have heard from him, he hasn't been at home, on xbox live, or anything)... and I'm terrified and worried... Now i work from 2am till between 5pm and 8pm (family business) and so I haven't been seeing him much lately and last i heard from him he was going to get a scan for cancer. Could he have cancer and not have told me and is getting it treated?

But really I'm just wondering if anyone on the escapist has any stories of people who they care about going off the radar but came back and it all was cause of something stupid like phones not working, they went on a trip and you just never got the message or something?

I know this is stupid to ask, and I am really sorry to waste any ones time who reads this and thinks I'm an idiot for asking. I'm not really thinking straight, my mind is clouded but I just need some hope that what I feel has happened really hasn't.

(and sorry for the bad grammar)

 

[BonsaiK]

Call police. Best thing that can happen is you look silly but you get him back.

Check local hospital first though.

 

[Kaboose the Moose]

Did you check with his family as to his whereabouts? You didn't list if his parents or relatives know of his whereabouts.

 

[Thaius]

Dang, I can see why that would terrify you. That sucks.

It's happened to me before, but I have to admit it was never for that long at a time. Check the hospital he was going to, and if they can't tell you anything call the police.

 

[Jandau]

Check with his family. If they don't know where he is, contact the police. I assume you left messages for him on his phone, email, facebook, etc.

 

[userwhoquitthesite]

I suggest listening to the Jimmy Buffet song "Incommunicado"

It might be worthwhile. Not trolling, I swear. I just don't have any normal advice that hasn't already been stated, and don't have a similar story to tell. But, the song is appropriate. Hope it helps

 

[MetalBride]

I lost contact with his family since they moved with all the work I've been doing i haven't had time to find out the new address or number from him...
Police...I guess I am going to have to turn to them... For my baby I'd do anything even turn to them.

I suggest listening to the Jimmy Buffet song "Incommunicado"

It might be worthwhile. Not trolling, I swear. I just don't have any normal advice that hasn't already been stated, and don't have a similar story to tell. But, the song is appropriate. Hope it helps

thanks for the suggestion anything to help keep my mind busy is welcome and music always helps...

 

[Khedive Rex]

He was getting a cancer scan? And you haven't heard from him since? Well, chances are he's not dead and he doesn't have cancer. If either of those happened you'd have been notified, either by crying parents or him calling to look for comfort.

Has he been acting strange lately? How long have you two been fiances? Have you tried to contact his Parent's/Friends? How far away is the cancer center he was being scanned at (did he have to fly to get there)? Did he tell you when to expect him back?

As far as personal stories, I've never really lost track of anyone; but in the magical time before cell phones I got lost in a circus for the better part of a day. I was freaked out. Back then I was pretty sure the clowns just abducted you and made you one of the circus workers. I spent an hour or so contemplating whether it would be worse to learn the trapeze or work with the tigers.

But, yeah, it all worked out.

 

[SextusMaximus]

My friend's, friend's dad went missing for a while. They called the police and it took them a long while to find him.

My friend was really worried because her dad had died a few years before that.

 

[sephiroth1991]

I'm sorry to hear that, I'm sure he's fine and thinking of you

 

[MetalBride]

He was getting a cancer scan? And you haven't heard from him since? Well, chances are he's not dead and he doesn't have cancer. If either of those happened you'd have been notified, either by crying parents or him calling to look for comfort.

Has he been acting strange lately? How long have you two been fiances? Have you tried to contact his Parent's/Friends? How far away is the cancer center he was being scanned at (did he have to fly to get there)? Did he tell you when to expect him back?

As far as personal stories, I've never really lost track of anyone; but in the magical time before cell phones I got lost in a circus for the better part of a day. I was freaked out. Back then I was pretty sure the clowns just abducted you and made you one of the circus workers. I spent an hour or so contemplating whether it would be worse to learn the trapeze or work with the tigers.

But, yeah, it all worked out.

Yeah he's been acting strange lately but i just figured it was cause of his depression... it would be one year on Wednesday =[ we planned that we would just stay engaged for 2 or 3 years so we can save up enough money to have a beautiful unique wedding. Yes I've tried contacting friends... his parents recently moved so i don't have their address or phone number cause i haven't had enough time to get it since I've been busy. But tomorrow I'm going to try looking them up in the phone book. He never said what center but I'm just assuming it would be the royal brisbane hospital...

It's not cancer I'm worried about. I'm worried that he did something to himself or was in another car accident. It doesn't help that I always jump to the worse conclusion but knowing his personality this seems to be the most likely...


(as for what would be worse learn the trapeze or work with the tigers? trapeze all the way O_O tigers are just big cute cuddly kitties that will rip your face off... or with the clowns... gahh scary people)

 

[Cowabungaa]

I can see why you're worried, I'm very sorry for you and I hope everything turns out alright.

Here's what I think you could do:
- First check up on his family, even though you lost contact with them, there must be a way to reach them.
- Check the hospital where he (supposedly) went to. If they tell you he never arrived, that's another clue gained.
- If calling his family fails, if calling the hospital doesn't turn up anything, contact the police.

An old friend of mine went missing as well (ended up being found dead in Dover last week, we don't even know why he went to Britain), and another friend of mine went all Sherlock Holmes mode, tracing every clue he could find.

I doubt that'll be much use to anyone, but in such a situation, I do believe that doing everything you can to find him is the best thing you can do, even though it's not much. Retrace his steps if you like, it cóuld all help. Maybe it won't, but doing nothing won't help for sure.

 

[S.R.S.]

It's never stupid to ask, the quest for knowledge is blah, blah, blah.

Your reading too much into it. Why not take a long walk (in a virtual world) to clear your head.

 

[[][][]]

My sympathies.

 

[Galletea]

Well if he was going to be scanned for cancer, then of course he'll be acting weird. You always picture the worst in that kind of situation. Try to find out the details of his family, and get in touch with them. If you still have no luck then phone the police and ask them for help. At the least they should be able to give you some advice on what to do next. Good luck.

 

[BonsaiK]

To be honest, hospital is the best-case scenario here. At least then you know where he is. Have you contacted them yet? Hospitals usually have someone on the phone 24 hours who can tell you if someone has been admitted.

 

[MurderousToaster]

I do believe that the best course of action would be to call your local authorities, rather than ask the Escapist for stuff.

Well, at least you didn't ask /b/.

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[BaldursBananaSoap]

Maybe he has cancer but got too scared to tell you and left to think about things?