Good places to meet women?

[DanDeFool]

Okay, Escapist. After 24 years of singledom, I figure It's probably about time I look into getting one of those 'girlfriends' everybody's been talking about.

Okay, okay, enough with the cuteness. I'm gonna get MaxTheReaper angry at me again.

Anyway, I've been seriously considering getting into a relationship (so that I can start building relationship skills; I'm not looking to get married right now), but I'm kind of at a loss for good places to meet people.

There's bars and nightclubs, obviously, but I wouldn't pick one of those as my first choice because I'm not a fan of social drinking, I don't dance, and, from what I hear, those places are where you go to pick up a one-night-stand rather than look for someone who's interested in even a short-term relationship.

The other reason I'm at a loss is because I'm interested in finding someone who's at least accepting of my nerd interests (games, anime, etc.) and I don't really know where those people go to be social since my friends and I usually hang out by ourselves.

So, Escapist, where does one go to meet women?

 

[Kortney]

There isn't some guaranteed place to meet us Women folk. We are pretty abundant you know. I never understand it when males ask this question. Where can you meet women? Anywhere! Women are all over the place. There isn't some secret meeting ground where we huddle together and wait for a male to court us.

 

[Mookie_Magnus]

Try hanging around your local purveyor of games or Anime. Look around those places that you frequent, that are relevant to your interests. Hang around the Manga section at your local bookstore, around your local game-store, or other places. Eventually, you will discover that there are actually some fairly date-able girls(or women) with similar interests to you. You just have to look for them.

 

[Hellz_Barz]

everywhere.
clubs are still a good place to go though, not every girl there is into one night stands.
and if ya cant dance just step to the beat.

 

[Pegghead]

Well straight off the bat Maxie's been banned for yonks. Secondly just go where you yourself would normally go (As long as it's a place of gathering for many people, just because I spend time on the PC doesn't mean I should look there hehehe) that way you could meet a nice girl you have something in common with. THEN ASK HER FOR INTERCOU-I mean offer to take her a night on the bed town or something involving that thing you have in common.

 

[Timotei]

You make it sound like you are on a hunt and are looking for a brooding ground for game. It's not like we're exclusive to one spot, we are everywhere. So spread out that no seeing one for more than five minutes in public is a sign that something is wrong.

 

[PTSpyder]

I dont know man, I always seem to have pretty good luck over at your mom's place.

 

[Warrior Irme]

There isn't some guaranteed place to meet us Women folk. We are pretty abundant you know. I never understand it when males ask this question. Where can you meet women? Anywhere! Women are all over the place. There isn't some secret meeting ground where we huddle together and wait for a male to court us.

What you need to realize is that we understand that women don't want to be bothered everywhere they go. The question I think he is intending to ask is where would one go to look for women, and that they are looking to get picked up?

 

[SeaCalMaster]

Try a maternity ward.

 

[Sneaklemming]

Go join some clubs or something like that; just make more new friends in general. In time you'll meet someone who is more then a friend.

 

[Heathrow]

The BBC: Bookstores, Bars and Cafes.

Depends on what type of girl you fancy. Any place were you are likely to find someone with similar interests to yours is a good place to start.

Edit: One more thing, never try and pick up girls who are working as a rule they hate it.

 

[blue heartless]

Craigslist.

Ok, I agree with Warrior Irme. You can't really go around cat-calling the ladies expecting quick results. Why not ask a friend of yours to introduce you to a friend, go to a speed dating club, or any club. I met my girlfriend in an acting class. I'm an actor (and devilishly handsome and charming nyuck-nyuck) so I found someone with similar interests in performing. Mookie_Magnus has the right idea.

 

[Kortney]

There isn't some guaranteed place to meet us Women folk. We are pretty abundant you know. I never understand it when males ask this question. Where can you meet women? Anywhere! Women are all over the place. There isn't some secret meeting ground where we huddle together and wait for a male to court us.

What you need to realize is that we understand that women don't want to be bothered everywhere they go. The question I think he is intending to ask is where would one go to look for women, and that they are looking to get picked up?

Oh I see.

Well I wouldn't go anywhere intending to be picked up. I think that's kind of dodgy. But, bars would be the place where girls are actually looking to be picked up.

It would be really awkward just going up to a girl and trying to ask them out. The few times that's happened to me it was extremely awkward. I think the best way to meet them is just through friends or school or something that doesn't involve just randomly approaching them, because unless you are Brad Pitt - that isn't going to work.

 

[Erana]

You make it sound like you are on a hunt and are looking for a brooding ground for game. It's not like we're exclusive to one spot, we are everywhere. So spread out that not seeing one for more than five minutes in public is a sign that something is wrong.

You're a mind reader! D:

Seriously, though, coffee shops are great places to meet interesting people, period. I know many a relationship spawned from coffee shop small talk. In a coffee shop with a good atmosphere, you could talk to anybody in there without looking like a creeper.

Just remember to set your availability status to "open," without going, "Who wants to make out!?" YOu prolly already know this, but good things take time.

 

[CouchCommando]

Just start social networking, hanging out with more people than just your close friends (you catch more fish with a bigger net), get into some local volunteer community groups that pique your interest etc, the main thing is to just enjoy yourself, and have fun doing what you do, and meeting some one who shares or at least understands your interests.

 

[dalek sec]

You're a mind reader! D:

Seriously, though, coffee shops are great places to meet interesting people, period. I know many a relationship spawned from coffee shop small talk. In a coffee shop with a good atmosphere, you could talk to anybody in there without looking like a creeper.

Just remember to set your availability status to "open," without going, "Who wants to make out!?" YOu prolly already know this, but good things take time.

What happens if you don't like coffee though? I can't stand the stuff plus my small talk is very poor. Also what about that "availability" thing you're talking about, I don't follow.

 

[Erana]

You're a mind reader! D:

Seriously, though, coffee shops are great places to meet interesting people, period. I know many a relationship spawned from coffee shop small talk. In a coffee shop with a good atmosphere, you could talk to anybody in there without looking like a creeper.

Just remember to set your availability status to "open," without going, "Who wants to make out!?" YOu prolly already know this, but good things take time.

What happens if you don't like coffee though? I can't stand the stuff plus my small talk is very poor. Also what about that "availability" thing you're talking about, I don't follow.

Who actually drinks coffee at a coffee shop?
Even at places without them on the menu, like Starbucks, you can still get beverages like steamers. (which are my personal favorite, and like frothy hot chocolate in flavors other than chocolate.)
Also, you can usually get some hot water and a decent tea bag for less than $2.00. If you have a good coffee shop, paying two bucks for hours of good atmosphere and possibly entertainment is a bargain.

And what I meant about the availability thing is that you don't really need to go around hitting on chicks unless you are just looking for a one night stand. Just be sociable, and work your way into their "available male friends" list. Its not bad to put it out there that you are looking for someone, though.
I guess I'm just saying that you should establish a bit of rapport with someone before making a move. At least, that's how I'd prefer it, as well as how most successful relationships I know of have started.

 

[Kuchinawa212]

Outside...in the real world. Yeah there are A LOT of them out there. Granted not all of them are the ones you are looking for, but still...
I dunno, try asking your friend to set up a blind date? Search internet dating sites? Just keep going places and you'll find one that you like. From there it's up to you

 

[Infinite Betsy]

There isn't some guaranteed place to meet us Women folk. We are pretty abundant you know. I never understand it when males ask this question. Where can you meet women? Anywhere! Women are all over the place. There isn't some secret meeting ground where we huddle together and wait for a male to court us.

What you need to realize is that we understand that women don't want to be bothered everywhere they go. The question I think he is intending to ask is where would one go to look for women, and that they are looking to get picked up?

I agree with both statements. You can find a girl pretty much anywhere, but I suppose you don't want to bother them. That wouldn't accomplish anything. What you could do is just start with a random comment or question, that would not come off as an attempted pick up. If you're in a store and see a cute girl just ask them for an opinion on something to buy or ask what time it is. You can gauge how friendly they are and how open they are to being "picked up" from their response. If she seems too curt/busy/rude/etc then no big deal. You just move on with no embarrassment. If she's nice, turn it into a conversation and end with asking for a number or something.

I really do think this can be done almost anywhere. I like stores though. There's less pressure in a store than there would be in a club or at a party. Plus, it can help you narrow it down to people who might have similar interests as you. Any kind would work: electronics stores, video games stores, comic shops, coffee shops (I know someone said that already, and I agree), clothing store, even a grocery store.