Hate

[Jape Corbel]

So here I am full of hate. Hate for myself, for the world and everyone else. I think I now why this happens to me, you see I was at a party and, as usual, I couldn't force myself to dance or enjoy it by any mean. And as I sat there doing nothing I kept getting angrier and angrier at myself. You may wonder why, it is because I wanted to dance or just do anything fun (although I don't drink) but I couldn't force myself and so I felt ashamed for not being able to dance, for being this awakward, lone, silent jerk and now I fell ashamed for using Escapist as my personal emotions sink. F@CK!

So yeah, after writing it I fell much calmer but I still fell bad so if you guys could give any good advice I'd be grateful.

 

[Haunted Serenity]

Turn your hate towards something that ethier A) thrives on hatred eg. Art of some form or B) channel your hate into rage and your rage into passion and use it to fuel you like how Sith are supposed to do.

I have a similar problem but I know the reason why I have so much hate so the methods how I control it aren't right for your problem.

captchas says "i see" Quite right

 

[Phasmal]

Get out of your own head.

Deep breath outwards and then think `Now, really, what the fuck am I doing?`, don't let yourself just go into an echo-chamber of hate in your own head.
Hating yourself is just pointless.
If you're unhappy with something, change it.
Not saying it's easy or anything like that, but making an effort to change the things you are unhappy about has to be better than stewing in anger.

I know you said you cant force yourself to do what you want, but why not?

 

[Geekiest]

What you want to look into is Positive Reframing Techniques. When you get yourself stuck in a spiral of one emotion and just can't seem to drag yourself out... Well, I've been there, and when I was first told by my therapist about this I thought it was silly and couldn't possibly work, but like hell was I going to do nothing so... Yeah. Google it. Give it a try. It'll be slow going, and feel really ridiculous at first, but it's more than worth the effort.

 

[Vegosiux]

Well, I usually tell people (including the guy in the mirror), on such occasions, "You gotta work with what you have, not with what you want but don't have, because you can't work with what you don't have." It's the only way. Sure, I get it, life sucks sometimes and you just want to go and stab it (and no, I'm not making a Cave Johnson joke here). But thing is, if you just let it fume off into thin air that's wasted energy. And you really shouldn't be wasting that.

So, work with what you have. Turn it into what you want to have. And don't expect it to just happen overnight, either.

 

[Azkar Almsivi]

Somewhere on this planet right now there are people being raped and tortured, your problems are tiny. You going to let tiny problems ruin your life? Voices in your head telling you what to do? Tell the voices what to do, tell them to shut up and sit and watch. You want it? Go for it.

You feel funny in the head and the tummy over something like that? YOU do? You're you! For all you know you're then center of the universe and everything else is just your imagination! Ask yourself what you want to do and then ignore all obstacles, steamroll that petty crap and live.

Take all that hatred and fan it, make it a towering inferno and use that shit as fuel to forge the you that you want to be!

 

[Zaik]

You have access to the best motivator that a person can have. Use it!

 

[Vegosiux]

Somewhere on this planet right now there are people being raped and tortured, your problems are tiny. You going to let tiny problems ruin your life?

I'm sorry, but that's just...well, let me rephrase.

"Somewhere on this planet right now, people are winning loteries and getting married with their years-long sweethearts, your joys are tiny. You going to let tiny joys brighten up your life?"

Silly, no?

What I'm saying is, I think (wrongly, perhaps?) that a neutral, rational approach is best, not appealing to people's emotion how someone has it worse or how "they have the power in them"...just tell them, "Hey, dude, this is what you've got, so this is what you've got to work with. You don't have to like it, but if you don't, you'd be a fool if you just left it in such an unlikeable way."

 

[Azkar Almsivi]

Somewhere on this planet right now there are people being raped and tortured, your problems are tiny. You going to let tiny problems ruin your life?

I'm sorry, but that's just...well, let me rephrase.

"Somewhere on this planet right now, people are winning loteries and getting married with their years-long sweethearts, your joys are tiny. You going to let tiny joys brighten up your life?"

Silly, no?

What I'm saying is, I think (wrongly, perhaps?) that a neutral, rational approach is best, not appealing to people's emotion how someone has it worse or how "they have the power in them"...just tell them, "Hey, dude, this is what you've got, so this is what you've got to work with. You don't have to like it, but if you don't, you'd be a fool if you just left it in such an unlikeable way."

Ah, but you are failing to mention that by flipping the coin your goal would be to depress said person. In which case, the advice still stands. The most effective inspiration is rarely neutral and passive.

 

[Batou667]

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Your situation sounds very familiar to how I've felt in the past. I don't think you actually hate people - or yourself - though, I think it's more likely that you're experiencing anxiety or frustration and you're interpreting it as hate. Hate is an appealingly uncomplex emotion, isn't it? It doesn't require thought or rationalistion, it just requires action.

When people feel upset for no discernable reason there's usually some underlying issue. Try to be honest with yourself and decide what that thing is, then take steps to fix it.

 

[Vegosiux]

Ah, but you are failing to mention that by flipping the coin your goal would be to depress said person. In which case, the advice still stands. The most effective inspiration is rarely neutral and passive.

To me it actually comes acros as patronizing, not inspirational. And I'm not entirely sure what you mean by "neutral and passive", you saying that we can only be "actively" inspired when playing on an emotion, or did I miss something in the translation?

 

[Azkar Almsivi]

Ah, but you are failing to mention that by flipping the coin your goal would be to depress said person. In which case, the advice still stands. The most effective inspiration is rarely neutral and passive.

To me it actually comes acros as patronizing, not inspirational. And I'm not entirely sure what you mean by "neutral and passive", you saying that we can only be "actively" inspired when playing on an emotion, or did I miss something in the translation?

I'm simply claiming it might have a better chance of working for him. My life has taken a very nasty, steep turn for the worse and I get through it by playing on my emotions. Not saying my way is the only way, just saying my way works too.