He broke my jaw, what should I do?

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Sir-jackington

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On a night out my brother hit me, his excuse was he thought i was taking a swing at him, funny how i never actually managed to hit him. The next day i woke up and my face was extremely swollen and my mother forced me to go too hospital and i found out my jaw was broken. At this point i was reayd to kill him. 3 hours after being told this i was lying on a operating table to get it fix. I was in hospital for 3 days and clamed down a bit, i was really mad at him anymore but i hadn't (and still haven't) forgiven him. The problem is nothing has been done about, yes he said sorry but other than that everyones just going about like normal which i don't really find fair. I did avoid the subject, and asked my mother to leave it for a few days after simply because it was his birthday. But now its been almost 2 weeks an still nothing has been said too him. The results of the broken jaw are:
Painful operation (which involved having a camera shoved up my nose while i was still awake)
Metal plate in face
Really bad swelling and yellow bruising on face for a week
Not able to eat solid food for 6 weeks (well only 4 week 1 day now)
The doctors say my jaw has possibly not been placed properly which means another operation
I missed a fair few days work and some A-level exams because of being in hospital or drugged up

SO any ideas on what i should do?
 
Cabisco

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Err be angry at your brother, but remember that he is your brother. It's family man, you do dumb shit and forgive each other for it.
 
Legion

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Not much can be done really.

You could press charges, but that's not something many people would consider. You could tell him how angry you are and say that you will not talk to him (or whatever you do when you are angry with people) until he shows some real remorse for what he has done, or you could break his jaw.

One and three are not particularly recommended though.

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It's family man, you do dumb shit and forgive each other for it.
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That makes no sense to me in the slightest. Sharing the same biological parents means that breaking a jaw for no reason is okay?

Being family works both ways, they treat you as family, you treat them as such. If someone harms you and shows no remorse for it then being family means nothing.
 
Mozza444

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There's no need for revenge, shit happens. As long as you can tell he is genuinely sorry than all should be forgotten.

However if he's a complete dick to you anyway, return the favour.
 
Tekkawarrior

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Tell him that you are still very pissed about it, but don't do anything to hurt him, i'm sure you will regret it later.

Brothers man, brothers.
 
Sir-jackington

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some interesting idea's but just forgiving him isnt an option, its not like were constantly fighting about it it, i mean most of the people who found out about it were more pissed off with him than i was. Him and me just sort of went back to normal, which is drinking buddies, not really brothers. But its was extremely painful, it fucked up my a-levels and most importantly i can't eat solid food and it got to the point where even the sight off food was making my vomit. I should probably mention this isnt exactly the first incident, there was the time a narrowly avoided him getting me in th face with a hammer, there is the time he beat the crap out of our little brother (including standing on his neck) and a fair few more
 
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He is you brother so forgive him.
If my brother did something like that, I would forgive him instant.

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Sir-jackington said:
some interesting idea's but just forgiving him isnt an option, its not like were constantly fighting about it it, i mean most of the people who found out about it were more pissed off with him than i was. Him and me just sort of went back to normal, which is drinking buddies, not really brothers. But its was extremely painful, it fucked up my a-levels and most importantly i can't eat solid food and it got to the point where even the sight off food was making my vomit. I should probably mention this isnt exactly the first incident, there was the time a narrowly avoided him getting me in th face with a hammer, there is the time he beat the crap out of our little brother (including standing on his neck) and a fair few more
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I must admit he do not behave like a good brother, all I can say is you will have him as you brother for the rest of your life, best to make it work.
 
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Going strictly by what you've described here (keeping in mind it might not be the whole story), I would simply stop associating with him in the situation where it happened.

That is to say - you say it was "on a night out" that he punched you. Simply stop going on "nights out" with him. For good. Continue to associate with him in calm family environments, but when he comes to you with "Hey wanna go out tonight," you reply "Yyyeah somehow I'd rather not, thanks."

Simply find your own friends to go out with and cut him out of that part of your life, while still keeping him in the parts where it would be almost impossible to repeat what he did.

That's what I would do at least. Fortunately neither of my brothers would ever dream of doing anything like that, but if they were to do it, this would be my reaction pretty much.
 
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as awful as having him break your jaw, he is till family and it could be worse.


and if that is not the answer you want. burn his favourite game or whatnot
 
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Sir-jackington said:
Him and me just sort of went back to normal, which is drinking buddies, not really brothers.
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Sir-jackington said:
I should probably mention this isnt exactly the first incident, there was the time a narrowly avoided him getting me in th face with a hammer, there is the time he beat the crap out of our little brother (including standing on his neck) and a fair few more
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Yeap. This just reinforces my suggestion above. Also consider the fact that he might be an emerging alcoholic and either intervene, or simply stay away until he gets it together.
 
The_root_of_all_evil

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Tell him you forgive him. Assure him that you're serious. KEEP TELLING HIM YOU FORGIVE HIM, even at inappropriate moments, especially when he's sitting on the loo or somewhere where you could get your revenge.

If he's not checked in after a month, you're doing it wrong. ;)
 
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