Heartbreak

[jim_doki]

I am nearly certain this has been done before, but i'm emotional, tired and i think i'm well enough behaved that I can get away with one repeat topic.

less than an hour ago I got dumped rather unceremoniously. It really shouldn't have come as a surprise, i mean i dated this girl once before, and it ended in a very similar fashion. Things have gotten much more complicated since then, we've been freinds for years, she had a kid and i've moved several kilometers away, so i guess i was fooling myself when I thought I could make it work.

I really just wanted to vent, but seeing as i'm here, feel free to divulge your horrible relationship ends.

 

[smallharmlesskitten]

Was it your kid?

 

[jim_doki]

no, different relationship

 

[smallharmlesskitten]

good good....

Just go have a beer and remember that there is plenty more fish in the sea

 

[poleboy]

I got dumped on New year's Eve once. On the bright side, I didn't care that much about her, but it was still a pretty horrible day.

 

[Brett Alex]

good good....

Just go have a beer and remember that there is plenty more fish in the sea

and listen to music. A good appropriately melancholy song always helps I find. Of course I haven't experienced anything that serious, but yeah.

 

[smallharmlesskitten]

"so sick of love songs so sad and slow so why cant i turn off the radio"

 

[Ultrajoe]

Ah, the kiss of rejection...

None can soften the sting like the gentle caress of alcohol.

While i would never normally prescribe alcohol as an antidepressant, i do recommend just one night of inebriated oblivion to mark its passing.

Do it, drink to endings and beginnings, with friends if you can. You'll get through it, but rest your tired emotions and take a back seat to the booze... you'll feel shit in the morning, but from a hangover and not the dumping. And your body will appreciate the dreamless sleep and time to recover.

 

[Brett Alex]

"so sick of love songs so sad and slow so why cant i turn off the radio"

Old Friend by Rancid is almost always appropriate-
"Good mornin' heartache,
you're like an old friend.
come see me again,"

 

[Ollopa]

I got dumped by a girl in July after moving state to a place I didn't want to be, just to be with her. 3 weeks after we move, she turns around and tells me she likes someone else now. We'd been together for 8 months, then she asks me to come with her or be left behind so I come. Needless to say we aren't exactly still friends.

 

[Amnestic]

Booze is the immediate cure. I got over my "worst" heartbreak to date by sinking myself into WoW and getting addicted. I wouldn't recommend it >_> She dumped me on the last day of my exams that year. Thankfully she had the tact to do it after the exam and not before.

Find yourself one of your close female friends who won't have an objection for some no strings sex and use her as your rebound until you stop caring about your ex. I'd thoroughly recommend that. Nothing glues a heart together like some mindless antics in the bedroom.

 

[Reaperman Wompa]

Paintball. Good stress relief.

Also try spending a few days following a harder life schedule with set wake up/exercise times where you do follow a constant schedule. Gets your mind off anything.

Other than that I wouldn't say drinking you'll only feel worse.

 

[jim_doki]

now that i've calmed down a little i'll tell you whats going on. It's like this. we dated once before, like when we were in highschool. the relationship only lasted a few weeks. after that we remained close freinds for ages. she dissapeared into a violent relationship, and came back with a kid a few years later. still i stuck by her, helped her out, got on with her new boyfreinds (one of whom turned out to be really really bad, and cracked onto her little sister) and basically stuck around as her freind. after a night of tequilla we both smacked ourselves in the forehead and realised we were perfect for each other. a month later she's dumped me, feeding me excuses like "there's no spark" or :that feeling you get when you kknow a relationship is going to work out, it's not there"

so yeah, still annoyed, but thanks for the suggestions, and the support (you people know who you are)

another great way to get over heartbreak is to head out dancing. hit the clubs looking real nice and turn down everything bar free drinks

 

[Rooster Cogburn]

It hurts so bad, doesn't it? All the hopeful adages don't add up to much. Only Pink Floyd can remedy this. And alcohol.

"And that is how I know
when I pick up the phone,
there's still no-body home."

Feel better man. And be safe if you do imbibe. Seriously. Friends might help.

 

[kinch]

Yeah, nice if you have friends. What's the advice for when you have none hmmm ?

 

[Amnestic]

Yeah, nice if you have friends. What's the advice for when you have none hmmm ?

Well that's easy. Go out and make them. You'll wrap yourself up in the enjoyment of meeting and becoming friends with new people that you'll completely forget about your ex.

 

[Tread184]

I know how you feel dude.
I have this ridiculous relationship with this one skinny girl, unfortunately, I love this girl and can't get over her.
We dated for 3-4 months during my second year of high school (her first). We liked each other a lot, but we broke up because her mom was insane and didn't let her out of the house, so we didn't see each other much. We stayed friends for a year, and at some point we found ourselves both single during summer, and we decided to try it again. This time it got really serious and we got crazy about each other, for a while anyway. Unexpectedly, sometime after our 7 month anniversary, she breaks up with me saying B.S. excuses like I didn't respect her, our chemistry died, all completely retarded considering our relationship. The worst part about it was, she broke up with me THE DAY BEFORE valentines day. We started fighting a lot after that, and eventually stopped talking for 5 months, but I never got over her (I'm too forgiving). With the help of a mutual friend, we started talking again and quickly liked each other again, but during a conversation, there was a miss-communication and she thought I didn't want to go back out (quite the opposite), and I had no idea. That is, until recently, she told me she has a thing for..wait for it..another girl from the other side of the country. I told her flat out everything I felt about her AFTER that, but It is probably too late. Everything about this is getting fucked up.
So yeah, sorry for the wall of text, but I know how you feel dude. Hang out with your friends a lot, have at least one carefree party with lots of alcohol, and then look for someone else, that's my advice.

 

[kinch]

Yeah, nice if you have friends. What's the advice for when you have none hmmm ?

Well that's easy. Go out and make them. You'll wrap yourself up in the enjoyment of meeting and becoming friends with new people that you'll completely forget about your ex.

I trust you're either being sarcastic, or joking...