Help?

[Soulpunch]

My Girlfriend, and i, broke up about a week ago, and we have been together for 1 and a half Year.
And she is already dating new people, and worst of all, people i had a bad feeling about before we broke up. I Feel Betrayed, and i want to beat the crap out of them. I know i can do it, but i haven't done anything yet.
At the same time, a X-girlfriend of mine have started flirting with me, and i confused about what to do, cause i really need the company of a person, most of all when i sleep. As of now, i have slept about 2 max over the last seven days...
I don't know what I'm actually asking of, but i hope some of you could a simple advice, or something.

Thanks to everybody who writes!

 

[SckizoBoy]

As far as short term advice is concerned, get back together with your ex-girlfriend. Have some company at least for a while. However, what happens after a month or so depends on how you genuinely feel about her (as well how you think she really feels about you).

Either way, provided that you and your recent ex have different social circles (or even at least partially), go out of your way to avoid her. Get pissed with a few of your mates, have a LAN party etc anything to get your mind off of her. It's best for closure if you stay out of all contact with her (especially since you feel so badly about her behaviour after the breakup) and find a new target for your attentions (hence get back with ex-gf if only for a bit).

Not the best advice, I'm sure (and I hope someone comes up with better), but for now, you need to just do stuff for a while to keep your thoughts away from your recent relationship.

All the best.

 

[Sp3ratus]

As far as short term advice is concerned, get back together with your ex-girlfriend. Have some company at least for a while. However, what happens after a month or so depends on how you genuinely feel about her (as well how you think she really feels about you).

Either way, provided that you and your recent ex have different social circles (or even at least partially), go out of your way to avoid her. Get pissed with a few of your mates, have a LAN party etc anything to get your mind off of her. It's best for closure if you stay out of all contact with her (especially since you feel so badly about her behaviour after the breakup) and find a new target for your attentions (hence get back with ex-gf if only for a bit).

Not the best advice, I'm sure (and I hope someone comes up with better), but for now, you need to just do stuff for a while to keep your thoughts away from your recent relationship.

All the best.

While I agree with the part about doing things to take your mind of current events, I'm not so sure about the getting back together with ex stuff. I'm by no means an expert, but I'm sure there is some reason for the breakup and unless something has changed dramatically for either of them, that reason is sure to pop up again at some point and cause more heartache down the line. You might be right and I might be wrong, I just don't see it ending well.

cause i really need the company of a person, most of all when i sleep. As of now, i have slept about 2 max over the last seven days...

If I were you, I'd be more interested in examining the issue of why you "need" someone when you go to sleep. That seems very, very needy, very codependent and not really all that healthy. Maybe going to a therapist or something? A person should really be able to stand on their own two feet and not rely on others to get by. I think resolving your issues with being alone will make you a lot happier in the long run.

Whatever you choose to do, I wish you luck as well.

 

[Soulpunch]

As far as short term advice is concerned, get back together with your ex-girlfriend. Have some company at least for a while. However, what happens after a month or so depends on how you genuinely feel about her (as well how you think she really feels about you).

Either way, provided that you and your recent ex have different social circles (or even at least partially), go out of your way to avoid her. Get pissed with a few of your mates, have a LAN party etc anything to get your mind off of her. It's best for closure if you stay out of all contact with her (especially since you feel so badly about her behaviour after the breakup) and find a new target for your attentions (hence get back with ex-gf if only for a bit).

Not the best advice, I'm sure (and I hope someone comes up with better), but for now, you need to just do stuff for a while to keep your thoughts away from your recent relationship.

All the best.

While I agree with the part about doing things to take your mind of current events, I'm not so sure about the getting back together with ex stuff. I'm by no means an expert, but I'm sure there is some reason for the breakup and unless something has changed dramatically for either of them, that reason is sure to pop up again at some point and cause more heartache down the line. You might be right and I might be wrong, I just don't see it ending well.

cause i really need the company of a person, most of all when i sleep. As of now, i have slept about 2 max over the last seven days...

If I were you, I'd be more interested in examining the issue of why you "need" someone when you go to sleep. That seems very, very needy, very codependent and not really all that healthy. Maybe going to a therapist or something? A person should really be able to stand on their own two feet and not rely on others to get by. I think resolving your issues with being alone will make you a lot happier in the long run.

Whatever you choose to do, I wish you luck as well.

Thanks To Both Of You!
I have Insomnia. But when i sleep with others, and hold them tight i feel more relaxed.
I normally have pills, but i don't have the money to pay for them right now.
I am able stand on my own, but only because i have had to. And now that i have some friends, they try to help me, but i can be quite Self Destructive, just to get by.
But after a long time of Deppression I became better at it.
I Have Been in Therapy, but all i was told, was that i did all the right things, so i lost lost hope after 3 different therapist.
My old Ex Girlfriend is coming to visit me soon, and she is going to stay for about a week.
I have a feeling she wants more then just catching up, and i feel more and more compelled to say yes.
Just to have something, for that week. But i don't know for sure :/