How bad is this?

[xcgillx2]

I was at school the other day and we were all talking about what to do after I finished school. So I was just sat listening thinking about it and I ended up being the only one left to say anything so I get asked and,My response was something along the lines of,, when I have enough money with a job for a deposit on a house I plan on moving away from the area I live and cutting off contact with everyone from my past family friends etc.

Now I didn't think it was that bad but everybody started to get mad saying that it's not right, to be honest thought I am generally paranoid so I don't keep people close and well I hope that by know they know that,so it is not as if I am leaving people that I am close to.

So is that bad or are they over reacting?

 

[Zantos]

It's a pretty harsh thing to say. Especially if there were people there who considered you to be a friend, that'd have probably hurt their feelings quite a bit.

 

[Dalek Caan]

Why would you do that? Not judging you just curious. It might be bad depending on the circumstances. If your family is nice to you then it is but if they have been ignoring you for a few years then, hey, do whatever you want.

 

[Lilani]

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They're mad because you told them their friendship means absolutely nothing to you, which is a perfectly reasonable reaction. After being your friend and investing time and emotion into you, that's pretty harsh. Really, it's about as harsh as you can get without outright telling them you wouldn't care if they all died.

Whether or not it's "bad" depends on exactly how much you value them and how much their companionship matters to you. If you really don't care as much as you say, I doubt you'd be here worrying about it. So I think you're selling how much you value them short.

Also, I don't really understand what you mean by "paranoid." Are you afraid of maintaining relationships, or is it that you're afraid if you keep ties with them they'll track you down in the future and find some way to hurt you, physically or emotionally? See, of those two, only the second one is paranoia. If it's that you don't like relationships, that isn't paranoia. That is simply a fear of commitment and intimacy.

So yeah, in short, you hurt their feelings. Quite a bit, I would imagine. They did not overreact, if anything they underreacted if all they did was get a bit mad.

 

[Simalacrum]

Well... its not that bad I guess, but next time I'd be more careful about what you say

Besides I've seen tons of people on the internet say that they hate people and intent to cut off contact from all the known universe, but, really, it rarely ever happens. I know not one hermit who doesn't rely on absolutely anyone. Its human nature to draw ourselves close together, after all