How do I meet girls?

[renegade7]

OK so I'm 17 and basically I'm tired of being single. I've never had a girlfriend and in all honesty I've never even been kissed, but I was just thinking about it and realized it's because I never really wanted a relationship until recently. So this summer I want to (hopefully) meet someone. Thing is though, I have no idea how to do that. All the girls I've talked to so far have been in my classes, so we already knew each other. I'm not hugely social so I don't like going out to parties and things like that.

So what do I do, just go to a park or something ( there are 2 swimming pools near me ) and just look for someone who looks interesting and then go talk to her, and if that's the case what do I say? Or am I going about this the wrong way entirely?

 

[Avistew]

I'm not sure what the problem is with knowing the girls already? All the guys I've asked out were guys I already knew, and well, you kind of need to know someone to be interested in them, don't you?

But if you see a girl and think she's pretty and want to ask her out, I guess you can just walk to her and ask her if she wants to go see a movie or something. I'd think your rate of success would probably be lower though, I don't think I'd say yes to going somewhere with a guy I don't even know at all. They might find it a bit creepy, to be honest.

Since you're 17, you probably can't go to a bar (depending on where you live. Maybe you live somewhere where 17 is legal drinking age) but anyways I'm not sure it would be your best bet either. If what you want is a relationship you'd have a better luck doing things you enjoy that involve other people (like, join a gaming group or something), getting to know the girls in said group and asking one out if there is one you like. You can also join forums and organise a meet-up for people who live in your area or something.

If you do go to, say, the pool, and start talking to girls, I suggest talking about something you're passionate about, because this way you'd meet someone who shares that interest. Could be the last game you played or the last movie you saw or anything like that. I know people often say "don't show you're a geek or they'll run away" but for one thing there are female geeks too and it would appeal to them that you are one, and on top of that you'd have a better relationship with someone who at least tolerates your being a geek, so being warned first thing is for the best in my opinion.

 

[Sinketi]

My advice would be do whatever you normally do, but in a social setting. You're not going to meet anyone by staying in. If you like games, go to some expos. Like reading, join a book circle. If you're not the kind of person who is naturally inclined to go up and talk to people you don't know (firstly, join the club) then you risk coming across as desperate or weird.

If you stay within the realms of your comfort zone, doing something you enjoy, then speaking to new people will come more naturally, not to mention you have something ready-built to talk about.

 

[DrDango]

all advice above^^ is helpful for finding a girlfriend i'm letting you know this so you won't fall on embarassment

ok say you find your "possible girlfriend" its a matter of your approach. for example say theres 2 girls called Candy and Alice. Candy has had 300 boyfriends in the last two years and has had sex with all while Alice has had 3 relisionships in the last 2 years and is a virgin. it would be stupid to use the same approach right.

There are normally visual statements witch help define witch type of woman they are. Candy for example would have dyed hair of witch is styled and will wear clothing to flatter her breasts, waist and legs. Alice would wear something approriate to the weather that looks good but is still comfortable

basically each woman should be treated differently remember this and i'll like this wasn't a waste of time "one set of advice does not fit all"

hear some advice on mistakes i just hate to see
1.always side with your GF ALWAYS (trust me)
2.never mention of any 1 on 1 time any woman other than your GF (even if your just friends)
3.gather as many 'good points' as you can for when you make your first BIG mistake (and god help you when you make the mistake)

 

[Annoying Turd]

There are no clubs where I live. How am I supposed to meet girls? Also, all I do besides game is gym.

 

[DrDango]

There are no clubs where I live. How am I supposed to meet girls? Also, all I do besides game is gym.

read all above posts^^

 

[chuckey]

There are no clubs where I live. How am I supposed to meet girls? Also, all I do besides game is gym.

If you go to the gym start up some conversations with girls who are working out next to like on the treadmill or something. Or see if there are some social programs going on at your gym and join them. Also if you see a girl struggling with an exercise you know how to do, help her out and get a good conversation going.

 

[Erana]

hear some advice on mistakes i just hate to see
1.always side with your GF ALWAYS (trust me)
2.never mention of any 1 on 1 time any woman other than your GF (even if your just friends)

Why would anyone want to be with someone that insecure?

Really, OP, I'd first really think through why you want a girlfriend. If you feel comfortable and happy with who you are as a single young man, then you should be on the look out for a woman of your age whom you could imagine yourself being good friends with ten years from now. If you're interested now because peer pressure or whatever, then you need to work on your own self-esteem before adding someone else to the mix.

I mean, if you're just out to get laid or something, I can't stop you, but by all means, know what you're getting yourself into. If you go for some dumb horny airhead and have a terrible relationship, please don't go on to assume that all women are like that.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

Why do you need to meet new girls if you already know some?
Isn't it better to get into something with someone you already know?

 

[Gralian]

Incidentally OP, i'm sort of in the same boat. Hell, by all accounts my boat hasn't even left the dock yet. And no, this boat is not one full of lulz. I'm talking about being at the stage where i'm actually looking for girls to befriend, let alone date.

One thing i'd say is that friends of friends tend to be a good source of new people, and in particular, girls that you have a chance to make a striking first impression with. So, while you are not hugely social, i'm afraid it's just something you have to do if you want to find a girlfriend. There's been times i've been asked to go out with mates down the pub and i've refused, when i've been kicking myself for it later because i know it's those sorts of nights that can lead to meeting new people. I'm not very social either. In fact, i loathe social settings immensely (i have social phobia and an anxiety disorder) but i recognise the fact i really do have to make the effort if i want that to change. I'm afraid the same applies for you.

Other than social networking through friends by going out to the pub or somewhere, there's not much else i can suggest, other than getting to know any female coworkers at a job or girls from a college if you go to one. I would generally advise against walking up to random girls and asking them out. It can make you out to be a bit of a creeper and that shtick generally only works for cheesy RomCom movies.