How much would you forgive him or her?

[JemothSkarii]

For people in a relationship of any sort, I want to know; what is a deal-breaker for your relationship? What wrong can your partner do that you can overlook and what is going too far?

For me, I can forgive a lot of things; if she kisses a guy, hangs out with him, even have a crush on him. The dealbreaker for me though is if I turn into second banana or they have sex...of course I prefer that wouldn't happen at all. But to me, sex is a sacred thing between two lovers; the first two if she fell in love with the guy, so that's a no-no.

 

[comadorcrack]

If she banned games. I swear to god... That is the biggest deal breaker ever for me. Infact I wouldn't even bother splitting up with her... I'd kill her!... Or you know... Keep playing games...

 

[Pimppeter2]

Usually, I use any excuse or misstep to get myself out of a relationship. Being fake, dishonest, anything. Turns out I'm quite forgiving when I actually care about the other person.

Its been a weird year.

 

[loc978]

If she tried to get rid of my friends. Any of 'em.

 

[JemothSkarii]

If she banned games. I swear to god... That is the biggest deal breaker ever for me. Infact I wouldn't even bother splitting up with her... I'd kill her!... Or you know... Keep playing games...

Why did I get a mental image of you just sitting on the couch with a makeshift built in toilet, a half-eaten packet of doritos, and her yelling behind a locked door that you're not good enough and she's going out with a overbuilt quarterback named Jose?

You're reply to her: "Quiet noobtuber!"

EDIT: Your avatar makes your post beautiful

 

[EeveeElectro]

If he kissed a girl, it's over. But if she came on to him her life is over.
I've let flirting slide a few times before, so anything less than a kiss, I can let go.

 

[ThatLankyBastard]

If she banned games...

Damnit, Ninja'd...

I can overlook it if she hates/mocks my fiends... Hell, I probably hate/mock my friends worse than she ever could! But if she tried to make me get rid of my friends, I'd have to leave her...

Bro's before Ho's...

 

[The Stonker]

Being fake,dishonest,cheating on me and banned me from being a geek.

 

[LostTimeLady]

I'd hope given time I could forgive most things but just 'cos you forgive doesn't mean you should forget.

If I was abused continually, either physically or emotionally I'd think long and hard about leaving him simply because you might forgive them but unless you get out of the situation, you could end up getting hurt again and again and again, especially when you've already forgiven them before.

If my boyfriend/husband cheated on me (especially if he was the latter), I would have to think long and hard about whether I'd want to be hurt again if they did that again to me.

It sounds like I'd just be looking after No. 1 there but taking an emotional beating is something you should walk away from.

 

[MassiveGeek]

If the relationship for some reason turns very unbalanced. I want to be on equal grounds with my partnet; if that isn't the case, especially if he sees himself as better than me, then it's bye bye. Because it just doesn't work.

Also, I have no problem with casual flirting with others, but if there are serious intentions behind the flirting from either side, my boyfriend/girlfriend or their flirt, then that's not good. And I'm... rather worried about being "enough" for my BF/GF. I want to fulfill their needs, so that they don't need to seek out anyone else, if you understand.
So if it turns out that they seek out others, then I'll probably feel like crap and if they still do it after I talk it out with them, then it's over.

Intimacy in general... well, I'm personally pretty touchy(no pun intended) about that stuff. Romantic intimacy is a pretty big deal for me, because I need to be comfortable doing it with the person in question. So if my BF/GF were to start groping or being way to cuddly or kissing or so with someone else, I'd be very hurt. Because then it seems like they think of that intimacy as a casual thing, I would think they weren't particularly respectful and I hate that kind of behavior.

I don't know, it depends on a lot of things.

 

[linkvegeta]

For people in a relationship of any sort, I want to know; what is a deal-breaker for your relationship? What wrong can your partner do that you can overlook and what is going too far?

For me, I can forgive a lot of things; if she kisses a guy, hangs out with him, even have a crush on him. The dealbreaker for me though is if I turn into second banana or they have sex...of course I prefer that wouldn't happen at all. But to me, sex is a sacred thing between two lovers; the first two if she fell in love with the guy, so that's a no-no.

i would have to say, my opinions are close to the same as yours. But if she wants to be with someone else or cheat then there is no point in being in a relationship with them.

 

[thirion1850]

I'm quite easily jealous, so... if she starts flirting with someone in-front of me, she will get away with an icy glare that will probably make her think twice before doing it again. If she keeps up, I've been known to mess up people's psyche's to the point of insanity - so she best strap her self in, it's gonna be a wild ride.


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*lowers shades, eyebrow wiggle*

 

[JemothSkarii]

If the relationship for some reason turns very unbalanced. I want to be on equal grounds with my partnet; if that isn't the case, especially if he sees himself as better than me, then it's bye bye. Because it just doesn't work.

Also, I have no problem with casual flirting with others, but if there are serious intentions behind the flirting from either side, my boyfriend/girlfriend or their flirt, then that's not good. And I'm... rather worried about being "enough" for my BF/GF. I want to fulfill their needs, so that they don't need to seek out anyone else, if you understand.
So if it turns out that they seek out others, then I'll probably feel like crap and if they still do it after I talk it out with them, then it's over.

Intimacy in general... well, I'm personally pretty touchy(no pun intended) about that stuff. Romantic intimacy is a pretty big deal for me, because I need to be comfortable doing it with the person in question. So if my BF/GF were to start groping or being way to cuddly or kissing or so with someone else, I'd be very hurt. Because then it seems like they think of that intimacy as a casual thing, I would think they weren't particularly respectful and I hate that kind of behavior.

I don't know, it depends on a lot of things.

Contrary to my first post, I'm more like this; I'm the overly romantic type that doesn't believe I do enough for her...if she did do any of that, I'd talk it over with her, but if she did it a couple more times, I'd probably consider leaving her. I actually would leave her.

 

[MassiveGeek]

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Haha, my current boyfriend is very romantic in his own way, and he tries his best with everything for me, it's very indearing. I'm personally not a particularly... romantic person, I guess. I don't focus on him, I focus on "us", if you catch my drift. If I'm gonna do something for him, I want it to be able to apply to the both of us. For example, if I'm gonna buy him a gift, and I was presented with the choice between a book he likes, and a movie we both like, I'm getting the movie. That way we can enjoy it together.

Afh, I'm rambling now.

 

[Aur0ra145]

If she killed my dog I would end the relationship.

 

[Troldepuss]

Everythings is fair as a starting point, I can forgive almost anything once.

- If the girlfriend sleeps with another guy, fair just once.

And some things that i definately would allow:

- Kissing other guys, that's alright because I do that to.
- Trying to change me, hell she can try... And if it's a flaw she's trying to change, well that might just make me a better person.
- Not liking friends, fair because I don't expect to like her friends just because they are friends.

Things I do not like:

- Clinginess, that doesn't work for me. I need my time.
- Whininess, I don't like that either. Really, don't whine, nobody likes it.

But then again, I expect the same from her.

 

[Ekonk]

Kissing other guys, absolutely not. I might forgive it, but not before getting mightily mad. A relationship is built on trust. I find kissing other guys to be betraying that trust.

 

[Smooth Operator]

Howmuch tolerance for cheating?
None whatsoever, if you like someone more then go be with them and let me get over it, but screwing around with others is extremely hurtfull and shows no regard for the partner, and in my book is off the bat deal breaker.

As for personal flaws, very hard to make a list of demands there, the good parts haveto counter balance the bad ones, and ultimately you haveto ask yourself for how long you are willing to put up with all he/she is.
Ya at first it always seems like it will be nothing but fluffy unicorns and cotton candy for ever and ever, but there is always reality lurking around the corner.