How to talk to girls.

[Link55]

All these years I've been in school I could never talk to girls. Only on days were I'm lucky to talk to one or two girls and when I do I start to blush and I turn extremely awkward, nervous, I start to sweat, and I turn twice as nerdy than I am and I'm pretty nerdy. "You are my only hope"

 

[Lionsfan]

Treat them like normal people. Ask them what their favorite music is, their favorite movie, favorite food etc etc. Just treat them normally

 

[FilipJPhry]

You just need to pass that first barrier. Talk to girls that you're not interested in at first. It'll make talking to them much more easier and much less nerve-racking. Then once you have the confidence, begin to start talking to the girls you're into.

Also, eye-contact and a nice smile never hurts. Practice smiling in front of a mirror. It's fine to break eye contact once in awhile, but it is important that you maintain it throughout the conversations.

 

[Ando85]

All these years I've been in school I could never talk to girls. Only on days were I'm lucky to talk to one or two girls and when I do I start to blush and I turn extremely awkward, nervous, I start to sweat, and I turn twice as nerdy than I am and I'm pretty nerdy. "You are my only hope"

Come off like you don't really care. After all, most of the women I have been with liked me because I was not showering them with praise. Realize that I am not saying you should be an asshole, just play it off like you don't really care what happens. Know I had a girl one time come to the bars with us and she was very cute. I think she might have been Asian, I am not really sure. Very much Americanized and hated having guys come over to her constantly. I acted like I didn't care and I just talked to her. Now as the night was winding down, we all took a cab back to my friends house to spend the night. Eventually I got woken up by her as she crawled into the guest bedroom with me in the middle of the night.

This. It sort of sounds counter-productive, but you don't want to come off as needy and you don't want to make it obvious that you are interested in her. Just go with the flow. I remember times where I forced myself to talk to a girl I was interested in and it was extremely awkward. Don't force it.

 

[endnuen]

There is only one thing to add: Remember.
When you are talking, listen, and remember. If she mentions that she is going to something/somewhere, remember that she should something. You don't have to remember what exactly it was, but when you talk afterwards you can ask about it.

That and paying attention.

Also, disregard what TizzytheTormentor said.
Do not be their friend, be their potential partner. Girls whom you have no interest in in that way, those can be your friends. And the girl you like, her friends, they can be your friends as well. But her, never her. In both your mind and hers, you must never just be a friend. That what people call the friend-zone. It is more than possible to climb out of there, but why not avoid it entirely?

 

[Phasmal]

Remember they are just people.

They aren't some mystical people, they're just normal people.
Try not to come off as desperate. Think about what you're going to say, don't just blurt stuff out. Women can smell desperation and they will avoid you like the plague.

I think it would be an idea to find some female friends before jumping in looking for a girlfriend, some talking-to-girls practice if you will.

 

[MasochisticAvenger]

Remember they are just people.

They aren't some mystical people, they're just normal people.
Try not to come off as desperate. Think about what you're going to say, don't just blurt stuff out. Women can smell desperation and they will avoid you like the plague.

I think it would be an idea to find some female friends before jumping in looking for a girlfriend, some talking-to-girls practice if you will.

Yeah, I never quite got the "OMG OMG OMG OMG I CAN'T TALK TO A GIRL!!!" thing most males seem to have for a really long time. Talking to a guy is just as awkward if you don't plan it properly. I think a lot of guys believe they should just be able to walk up to a girl and make excellent conversation on the spot. It does not work that way.

All these years I've been in school I could never talk to girls. Only on days were I'm lucky to talk to one or two girls and when I do I start to blush and I turn extremely awkward, nervous, I start to sweat, and I turn twice as nerdy than I am and I'm pretty nerdy. "You are my only hope"

Alright, first thing I need to know, how old are you?

Stop thinking of every girl you talk to as a potential love interest. Also, since you're at school, you could easily practice. If you're as shy around girls as you claim, start with something small. For example, if you're in a Math class, you could ask a girl how to solve a problem. It's non-invasive, and will help you get used to talking to girls.

Finally, don't expect the girls to just come to you; make an effort and approach them first.

 

[SB Ripping]

Scratch all that other stuff that you heard. The most important thing for you to do in this situation is BE YOURSELF... Men are attracted to women and women are attracted to men. This is a natural part of life. So if you just be yourself and always keep it 100 you will attract the type of women that are meant for you. Which is way better than trying to be someone else.
Somebody is watching you just like you are watching these girls that you are interested in.

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

Be yourself, don't ever try to be someone you're not. You'll hit it off best with those girls that have the same interest as you.
The hardest part is just approaching them, but a girl you don't know is the same as any stranger you don't know.
If she happens to be doing something, like playing a DS, ask her what she's playing. It may be a game you also really enjoy. Check her out (try not to be to obvious about it) maybe she's wearing a pacman t-shirt. If you're lucky and she geeks out about the same things you do than you're golden.
It's hard to pull conversation out of your arse, you need to find common ground. If there's nothing obvious try asking her about a recent movie that you yourself enjoyed. If she responds with something like "Well I don't really like those kinds of movies." than you should probably move on.

 

[science girl]

Scratch all that other stuff that you heard. The most important thing for you to do in this situation is BE YOURSELF... Men are attracted to women and women are attracted to men. This is a natural part of life. So if you just be yourself and always keep it 100 you will attract the type of women that are meant for you. Which is way better than trying to be someone else.
Somebody is watching you just like you are watching these girls that you are interested in.

Wholeheartedly agree we want to talk to you as must as you want to talk to us we don't bite or anything

 

[the abyss gazes also]

Embrace the fact that you are awkward and roll with it. Sure, you are going to bork it on occasion and lose the interest of some girls but if she is turned off by you being who you are it won't get better down the road. This may not work for you, but it sure as hell worked for me. Happily married almost four years now and we were together threeish years before that. So yeah. Hope that helps.

If your nervous just say so. Trying to "act cool" when your really not is going to make you seem less cool.

 

[irmasterlol]

Talk to them. There. Done. If you can distract yourself from thinking about the things you would do to their young, tight and yet nubile body, then you'll probably eventually realize that they're people and, like science girl said, probably won't bite you. If you're really that bad, start by spending more time talking to girls that you don't want to bone (you mom doesn't count) so that you can learn exactly what conversational maneuvers are appropriate for the fairer sex with less to lose in the event of a faux pas.

In short, ask that ***** about her day. Bitches love talking about their day.

 

[Evil Smurf]

I was like you. Then I realized that I have things that make me desirable, like humour. find out what makes you stand out and next time you fine a fines lady flaunt that thing

 

[Smooth Operator]

Well yes first step is getting comfy just talking to them without expectations, in this case ignorance is your most valued ally, you haveto learn to ignore the fact that they are female and look all sorts of tasty.
Then you can talk to them just as you talk to guys guys, talk about school stuff, crack jokes, dubstep, ponies, beavers,... or whatever you pesky kids talk about these days!

It won't be easy but if you truly want to master your fear then you haveto stick with it, and as I said have no expectations, this is just so you get comfortable conversing with women.

 

[thebakedpotato]

I find that when talking with potential sexual or romantic partners that copious amounts of alcohol help immensely. Also asking them about them. Start with a compliment about their looks or dress, ask them about it. Then ask more about them, throwing in bits about yourself that allow you to relate with them.

Booze works wonders so long as you don't mind waking up with a black eye once in a while.

 

[Vegosiux]

You know, first thing, you have to stop thinking about it. "OMG I'm talking to a girl" isn't exactly an OMGworthy big deal. Don't make it one. A bit like the game winner in the campionship finals is, in and of itself, no different from any other goal.

But, are we talking about "talking to girls" here or are we talking about "chatting them up so that they will go out with me, maybe"? Cause that second one works pretty much the same, stop thinking about it. It just does help if your mindset fits what you're actually doing.

 

[Beldaros]

All these years I've been in school I could never talk to girls. Only on days were I'm lucky to talk to one or two girls and when I do I start to blush and I turn extremely awkward, nervous, I start to sweat, and I turn twice as nerdy than I am and I'm pretty nerdy. "You are my only hope"

Girls are boys with different body parts. They're people, just talk. You'll probably even find that many are open to all of the topics you have to talk about, so just talk as if you were talking to your friend Ian.

The less you think about it, the more comfortable you'll be.

Most of my friends are female.

People are people, you have things in common or you don't. 3 minutes is usually long enough t find out the answer to that question.

 

[Link55]

Ok what if the girls I try to talk to are wwwwwaaaayyyy too cool for me to even look at?