I gave a pedophile my name and I'm scared

[kikon9]

Ok, so, earlier today, I was looking around on omegle, trying to find a good conversation. The last person I met, seemed nice enough, he was a 44 year old who just wanted to chat. We talked about this and that, told each other our names, and just some other random stuff. After a while though, the conversation turned to romance. I told him that I was gay, and that I have a boyfriend, and he started getting flirty, saying that he wanted to meet me and kiss me, even going so far as saying that he'd make sure I wouldn't resist when he tried, even asking how strong my boyfriend is, saying he'd try to keep him away while he did it. I got scared and disconnected, he sent me an e-mail and he's still acting all flirty.

What do I do? I'm terrified that he might find me or my boyfriend. He only knows my first name, but still, I'm scared of what he might do. Any advice appreciated, please.

 

[Galletea]

It's unlikely he'll find you. How would he know it was your real name anyway? How do you know he's a paedophile? Does he know how old you are? It seems like you're old enough, so it's not really paedophilia to be into younger men.

Anyhow, more importantly, if you do find yourself somehow contacted again, make a note of his name and the site he uses and contact the police, if he's using violent language then it's more than harassment. Especially if you are young, I don't really know the site of which you speak, but it might be best to go somewhere else.

 

[Spy_Guy]

As an amateur internet sleuth, I can say that a name and an e-mail address isn't that much to go by.
Unless it's a Hotmail, in which case there's a risk that he can see whatever username you're using, if you send a message to him (first name + last name is very useful info, though).

So, apart from that, finding someone is all about narrowing the choice of person down to the correct one, and there are some tools that can help with that.

So, it's like looking for a target demographic, really.
So, assume he knows that he's looking for:

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  [li]Someone in the US[/li]
  [li]Someone in the state of x (depending on how much he knows)[/li]
  [li]Someone in the city of y[/li]
  [li]Someone named {your-name-here} (first name / last name / both)[/li]
  [li]Someone at the age of x[/li]

Assuming he knows these things, then it's just a few searches away, but I'd say that a lot of this is vital (and depending on the city, it could still be way off the mark).

For instance, odds are that he knows your first name and age, but there are probably way too many to go by, so he'd need some way to narrow it down by city (which could be doable with an e-mail header, for instance)... and even then it'd most likely be way too many, assuming it's a large city,

So, I don't know what you've told him, but assuming it's just your name and possibly age, then no... he wouldn't be able to.

IMPORTANT: Don't give him the e-mail connected to your Facebook, if you have one!!

So, apart from that, based on whatever info you gave him, you should feel reasonably safe.

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Apart from that, the actions stated above by [user]Galletea[/user] should be plenty to deal with this situation.

I hope my post has been informative, and that it's put some of your fears at rest. If anything it might give you a bit of a protip with regards to how much information you reveal about yourself.
I, for one, always keep this in mind when I'm online.

On a closing note, good luck to you, man.

 

[Gnoekeos]

If its just your name you don't have anything to worry about. Try doing a search for your name and see how many other people happen to share it. I thought the combination of my first and last name would be pretty uncommon but it turns out there are 4 Craig Goekes in the world.

 

[Jamieson 90]

I don't know the site you mentioned but if you have a profile then make sure he can't access it and see any info about you. Also if you have any pictures make sure they don't have road/steet signs or number plates etc that can narrow down where you live/are.

It's one of the reasons why we teach kids not to post pictures of themselves in their school uniforms (TA btw).

If he only has your first name then I wouldn't worry. You don't need a lot to find someone, all you really need are name/surname/DOB but since he doesn't have the others your fine.

As Galletea mentioned unless your are under 16 (UK here) it's not really pedophilia, although pedophilia refers to children who are prepubescent, the correct term for teenagers or pubescents is Hebephilia, which is sligtly different. Thats just me nitpicking though. Regardless it sounds like the guy is a bit of a stalker/predatory type so be careful.

 

[Ando85]

A lot of good advice has already been covered. Be cautious make sure your info isn't easy to find and don't worry about it too much. Also a lot of people say stuff like that due to anonymity online but don't act on it.

For example on more than one occasion playing games online or commenting on youtube videos I've received death threats, how someone is going to slit my throat, and how I should kill myself.

My comments aren't really that offensive, but if I do something as simple as disagree with the message on a video these people go way overboard with petty insults and threats. They would never say that stuff in person. I never take things of that nature seriously. Hell, even if I told them my exact name and address there is little chance that this person will actually try to track me down. Once I was going back and forth arguing with someone on youtube, and he threatened to kill me. In a pathetic attempt to scare me he would apparently whip out his iphone or ipad or iwhatever and message me telling me how he is already in my house ready to kill me. I just laughed at him.

Perhaps your situation is a bit different than threats of violence by angry 14 year olds, but this guy might just be getting a cheap/perverted thrill by talking online and would never act on it.

 

[Cakes]

I really doubt an Omegle conversation is something to be taken seriously. It was probably a teenage boy, for one thing.

 

[markoffchaney]

I really doubt an Omegle conversation is something to be taken seriously. It was probably a teenage boy, for one thing.

What he said, if you were on Omegle, it was probably just someone trolling you, and by the looks of it, they succeeded.

 

[kikon9]

I really doubt an Omegle conversation is something to be taken seriously. It was probably a teenage boy, for one thing.

What he said, if you were on Omegle, it was probably just someone trolling you, and by the looks of it, they succeeded.

I seriously doubt it was a troll, if only because your average troll wouldn't spend several hours making pleasant conversation before trying to freak you out.

 

[IamQ]

Unless your first name is mcpoopsalotinpants I don't think he'll be able to find you based soley on what you've given him.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Ok, so, earlier today, I was looking around on omegle, trying to find a good conversation. The last person I met, seemed nice enough, he was a 44 year old who just wanted to chat. We talked about this and that, told each other our names, and just some other random stuff. After a while though, the conversation turned to romance. I told him that I was gay, and that I have a boyfriend, and he started getting flirty, saying that he wanted to meet me and kiss me, even going so far as saying that he'd make sure I wouldn't resist when he tried, even asking how strong my boyfriend is, saying he'd try to keep him away while he did it. I got scared and disconnected, he sent me an e-mail and he's still acting all flirty.

What do I do? I'm terrified that he might find me or my boyfriend. He only knows my first name, but still, I'm scared of what he might do. Any advice appreciated, please.

If he keeps contacting you, then you contact the police, and let them deal with him