If your college roommate snores, shouldn't they be the one who has to move?

[Watcheroftrends]

Here's the deal: I'm in a 4 room apartment and one of the other people living here snores like a power tool. Despite being in completely separate rooms, it is near impossible for me to sleep with him snoring. I have tried basically every solution in the book, but I've ended up losing nearly 2 hours of sleep or more at a time because it's not till I'm completely exhausted that my body just passes out despite the sound.

To make things worse, the guy has also been juggling his sleeping around so some days I come back from class and want to study and, guess what? Nope, can't study in my room because he decided to sleep from 11AM to 8PM that day. Even ear plugs fail to completely block the noise. It's fucking ridiculous.

I have been offered a different room to move to, but it is quite inferior to the one I'm in for numerous reasons, one of which being it's located adjacent to a noisy elevator shaft. Doesn't really do me much good and seems totally unfair I have to be the one to move.

Now, what I don't get is how someone who clearly has issues with their respiration - the guy even said he had a surgery at one time to reduce the noise of snoring because he was waking people across the entire house - can just join into a campus apartment and not be held responsible for the noise they make. It would be like me playing loud music, pounding on the wall, slamming doors etc. all night. Except I'd be told to move out because I'm being disruptive. But he can snore and not give a shit and ruin my quality of life and I'm the one who has to leave.

So WTF? I'm debating going on a campaign to basically raise as much hell as I can among RA's and to continually wake the guy up so he considers leaving. It's totally unfair that I can't take advantage of the education I am paying thousands of dollars for because some inconsiderate fat fuck just happened to get put into the apartment room next to me. I'm stuck due to the lease and can not afford to move out with money already invested into a meal plan and an the apartment contract is for the entire academic year.

 

[FalloutJack]

The offending person should be the one making apologies and doing something about it.

 

[Dirty Hipsters]

You realize that someone who snores doesn't do it on purpose right? He isn't choosing to annoy you by snoring, and it's not his fault that he snores any more than it's your fault that you're a light sleeper. If you can't handle that then that's your problem and you need to move. If he was annoying you on purpose by playing loud music or just generally being inconsiderate then that would be another thing, but he isn't. The fact that he snores isn't under his control.

Your plan to constantly wake the guy up to make him leave is also probably the most dickish thing you can do in the situation, and it would not put you in the right. Feel free to complain to the RAs and try to get them to move him, but if they can't or won't then it's up to you to move.

 

[TheIceQueen]

Acting like a passive-aggressive jerk isn't going to make your case any better or do anything meaningful other than making you come across as an ass. Especially since it'd be for someone who actually isn't being inconsiderate. Him being inconsiderate would mean that he purposefully snores so as to detract from your living.

 

[Ryotknife]

Sounds like you are an incredibly light sleeper, in which case this is just as much your fault as his. If you want complete silence while sleeping in college....well....better lower those expectations. I don't say that to be mean but...noise kinda comes with the territory in dorms.

If his snoring was as bad as you imply, then more people than just yourself would be complaining.

 

[skywolfblue]

It would be like me playing loud music, pounding on the wall, slamming doors etc. all night. Except I'd be told to move out because I'm being disruptive.

All those are active, conscious actions. A person who snores doesn't have any control over it. (sometimes it can be minimized with the right medical treatment, but there is no surefire fix, some people have snoring for which there is no cure)

Judging by the elevator shaft being a problem, my guess is that you're a very sensitive sleeper. Which means that finding a new apartment/dorm with no noise should be a priority for you. By the way, have you tried noise canceling headphones? A medium to high quality set can work wonders in some situations.

the apartment contract is for the entire academic year.

Now is this a Dorm Room or an actual rented Apartment? In either case, there are provisions for terminating the lease agreement early (or in the case of a Dorm room, moving to a new dorm or single), so you CAN move out. It may cost a little, if you've got any money at all I'd suggest you spend it on this and do so, this sounds like a very important priority for you.

totally unfair I have to be the one to move.

So instead of peacefully moving out, your plan is to pour as much suffering on the snoring guy as possible, for something he can't control? That sounds really nice... (/sarcasm)

You'll be living with those RA's, and also your other two apartment mates, for a year. Do you think they'll think very highly of you after this?

 

[w9496]

Try anti-noise headphones. If they can make shotguns not damage your hearing, they can cancel out some loud snoring.

The snoring is also not his fault, like many others have said. If it were, you would be just as guilty as him for being such a light sleeper.

 

[Chairman Miaow]

You already said the guy had surgery to reduce his snoring, what more do you expect from him? You are just being extremely selfish and a bit of an arse to be quite frank. I understand that it can be frustrating but he shouldn't have to move because you can't handle a bit of noise. I get trains running past my house. Some people's houses are under aeroplane flight paths. You just need to learn to deal with it.

 

[Sansha]

Sounds like you are an incredibly light sleeper, in which case this is just as much your fault as his. If you want complete silence while sleeping in college....well....better lower those expectations. I don't say that to be mean but...noise kinda comes with the territory in dorms.

If his snoring was as bad as you imply, then more people than just yourself would be complaining.

I entirely agree with this. Noise comes with the college or any kind of room-mate territory. You can do about as much about it as you can a horde of trains running by your house in the night - that being fuck-all.

I say, invest in noise-cancelling headphones. They're imbued with black wizard Brooklyn magic and can make a shotgun sound like a tap. Better still, you can flow music through that shit to further help drown out the sound and help you sleep.

On a personal note, I hate snorers too, and while I know full well they can't help it and likely hate doing it, I say bunk all snorers together in the noisiest rooms - partially out of segregation but I argue it makes sense; they're used to the noise.