Just a story I wanted to share; possible discussion value at bottom:
I've been on such a high the whole day. A good friend of mine and I just found out something about ourselves today. I've been friends with this girl for about two years now, and it's the type of relationship that has been teetering in and out of the friend-zone for a while now. We have so much in common, it's ridiculous, and there's never an awkward moment between us. We're both very comfortable with each other, and I'm amazed we've gotten so close in such a short span of time. I find her very pretty, though that doesn't always factor when I think about dating someone. Honestly, I won't hesitate to say that she is truly wonderful and lovely to me.
Normally, I'm content with keeping it a "just friends" status, but for the past year, we've been both been doing a sort of flirt-but-kind-of-joking kind of thing. It's gotten on the rest of our friends nerves to the point where they've blatantly asked on many occasions why we haven't started dating each other yet. We've both brought this up before, but it never really went anywhere. Even so, we've had moments of personal intimacy, and we've come very close to kissing on a few rare occasions. It got to the point where she was on my mind constantly, but I was still so unsure of my feelings toward her.
Despite our great compatibility, there was always just one thing about her that I couldn't get over. I'm not saying she needs to be perfect. I mean, this one thing was pretty huge and something I would have to live with if we started a relationship. Interestingly enough, we had a serious discussion about our relationship and the next level in it. We both admitted that we really like and care about one another. It started getting rather affectionate, and we both paused with a moment of thought. But then, she broke the silence with "Well, I feel like I would have asked you out a long time ago, but there's just... something about you that's been holding me back. It's just one thing..."
Immediately, I felt relieved, and I told her I was feeling the same thing, both being cautious in what we say as not to reveal our one things. We eventually agreed we should get both our problems out in the open and try to see if they are something we can work on together. So we decided to say our one things at the same time. We counted to three... and we said:
Her: "You're too overweight for me."
Me: "You're so judgmental about appearances."
We stop. It takes a moment, but the realization hits us both. Her eyes widen with horror and embarrassment, and I just start laughing hysterically. For the first time in a year, I feel completely free and relieved. Immediately, any feelings of attraction or infatuation are expelled like a cancer. Just knowing the amount of time and effort I would have wasted on this girl put the biggest smile on my face when I knew I could avoid all of it. After we said it, I tried to console her by telling her that, "It's okay," but she left quickly without saying much more, still baring that horrific look.
Right now, I was told by her best friend that she's still embarrassed and kind of angry about what happened, saying she feels like I "tricked" her, even though I have no clue how. I'm not worried. I know her too well, and I don't have any qualms about staying friends and never being anything more. All I can say, is I dodged a bullet, and I am perfectly content with that.
Not sure how this can be discussed, but I just had to share this. I feel fantastic. The only thing I can think of is asking if anyone else ever "dodged a bullet" in your love life? But me? I'm having a great day, thank you.
I've been on such a high the whole day. A good friend of mine and I just found out something about ourselves today. I've been friends with this girl for about two years now, and it's the type of relationship that has been teetering in and out of the friend-zone for a while now. We have so much in common, it's ridiculous, and there's never an awkward moment between us. We're both very comfortable with each other, and I'm amazed we've gotten so close in such a short span of time. I find her very pretty, though that doesn't always factor when I think about dating someone. Honestly, I won't hesitate to say that she is truly wonderful and lovely to me.
Normally, I'm content with keeping it a "just friends" status, but for the past year, we've been both been doing a sort of flirt-but-kind-of-joking kind of thing. It's gotten on the rest of our friends nerves to the point where they've blatantly asked on many occasions why we haven't started dating each other yet. We've both brought this up before, but it never really went anywhere. Even so, we've had moments of personal intimacy, and we've come very close to kissing on a few rare occasions. It got to the point where she was on my mind constantly, but I was still so unsure of my feelings toward her.
Despite our great compatibility, there was always just one thing about her that I couldn't get over. I'm not saying she needs to be perfect. I mean, this one thing was pretty huge and something I would have to live with if we started a relationship. Interestingly enough, we had a serious discussion about our relationship and the next level in it. We both admitted that we really like and care about one another. It started getting rather affectionate, and we both paused with a moment of thought. But then, she broke the silence with "Well, I feel like I would have asked you out a long time ago, but there's just... something about you that's been holding me back. It's just one thing..."
Immediately, I felt relieved, and I told her I was feeling the same thing, both being cautious in what we say as not to reveal our one things. We eventually agreed we should get both our problems out in the open and try to see if they are something we can work on together. So we decided to say our one things at the same time. We counted to three... and we said:
Her: "You're too overweight for me."
Me: "You're so judgmental about appearances."
We stop. It takes a moment, but the realization hits us both. Her eyes widen with horror and embarrassment, and I just start laughing hysterically. For the first time in a year, I feel completely free and relieved. Immediately, any feelings of attraction or infatuation are expelled like a cancer. Just knowing the amount of time and effort I would have wasted on this girl put the biggest smile on my face when I knew I could avoid all of it. After we said it, I tried to console her by telling her that, "It's okay," but she left quickly without saying much more, still baring that horrific look.
Right now, I was told by her best friend that she's still embarrassed and kind of angry about what happened, saying she feels like I "tricked" her, even though I have no clue how. I'm not worried. I know her too well, and I don't have any qualms about staying friends and never being anything more. All I can say, is I dodged a bullet, and I am perfectly content with that.
Not sure how this can be discussed, but I just had to share this. I feel fantastic. The only thing I can think of is asking if anyone else ever "dodged a bullet" in your love life? But me? I'm having a great day, thank you.
