Is it corny to write a girl you like a love letter?

[tartparty]

Hey guys there's this girl I really like but I'm not sure if she likes me or if she's just being really friendly, it can be hard to tell sometimes. So would it be corny to write her a letter explaining how I feel or is that creepy and pathetic? or will she think it's sweet. She keeps telling me " I am heaps funny" and she always mentions that she is single and we had a great chat and I think I was quite charming and funny but once again I really can't tell if she actually likes me or if shes just one of those outgoing super friendly girls. Please Help

 

[SiskoBlue]

Most girls love getting love letters. In fact I'd say nearly all girls love getting love letters....but

1. If you write ANYTHING it's a permanent record of what you said. If she had a mean streak it could come back to bite you. However, you could TALK to her all you want and there's no record of that (very cynical I know).

2. As long as you write well the letter could be your ticket to success. But if it's the ramblings of a stalker it might freak her out. She might question why you can write this stuff to her but not tell her to her face. Your call.

The other option is to bite the bullet, get some courage and just make a move next time you're alone together. If she rejects you, just shrug it off and never mention it again. 50% of the time when girls reject immediately they have second thoughts come back and say yes a week later anyway so give it a go.

 

[tartparty]

The problem I have is that I only know her through my Docters office which is where we met so I have no Idea when I will run into her again hence the letter. We have spoken a couple of times and really hit it off and today I attended a Youth Mental Health forum (where she gave a presentation) that she invited me to but she was hanging with friends and I was too much of a ***** to ask her then. so I have no idea when i will run into her again.

 

[Pokenator]

I would definitely not write a letter. The thing about writing a letter means all the power is then in her court (because she knows she's got you and you have no idea whether or not you have her) and the 'flirting' game is over. It would be much more effective to flirt with her a bit more, see if she responds positively, and if so, ask her out. A 'letter' would just make things awkward.

 

[LetalisK]

Do NOT write her a love letter. Save the love letters for when you get into an actual relationship. Otherwise there is a much better chance it will come off as very creepy.

 

[Scorched_Cascade]

Just remember that whatever you write is permanent and can be used against you, deletef***ingeverything does not work in real life.

That said I would err on the side of caution and not go with the letter idea, fishing a bit (conversationally speaking) would be a better bet.

 

[WingedIncubus]

Don't. It's wimpy, cowardly, sympy, creepy, pathetic, and YES corny as hell!

Don't write you love her like a spineless loser that is afraid of her, for crying out loud! It's too much, it puts her feelings on the line and forces her to a yes or no. Plus, if she doesn't love you, she'll show the letter and laugh her ass off you with the jock that is boning her right now.

Ask her out! Go meet her up, chat with her a few minutes, make her laugh, and then ask her out for a coffee. Just that, "let's go have a coffee tonight". If she says "yeah" or "I can't tonight, but tomorrow sounds allright", there you have your answer. If she says no or wavers by saying "I don't know, I'm pretty busy, bla bla bla", there you have your answer too.

A love letter... reminds me when I was a wimpy teenager in high school. Predictably, it creeped her out and she ended ripping my heart asounder. *sigh*

 

[FarleShadow]

I say: Never write a letter to a girl telling her your feelings. Its a bad way to do it.

If you like her, (Never say you 'LOVE HER', that's stalkerspeak), you need to relate that fact to her, most girls assume that if you talk to her, you have an agenda, if you're open about it, there is less chance that she's going to think you're just friendly.

If you go with the 'I'm a friendly guy and I like you' off the bat, its better for her and you.

For her, she's gotten the general idea about you and can decide if she wants to date you or if she just 'wants to be friends with you' (Aka, not date you, but maybe helps you with difficulties with dating other girls (NOT HER DATING YOU)).

And for you, you don't have to worry about being timidly rejected, you've been told no, its painful, but atleast you aren't dancing in the wind.

In my experience, girls are generally kind, they don't want to demolish your feelings in a single sweep, so tend to be nice in their language. Which, in the minds of most guys, is just a 'I would date you if [X]'. I don't blame them, but for god's sake, move on if you hear it!

 

[thrillingsuspense]

I think it's corny, but corny can be twisted into ironic-charming if done right. Make sure it's a damn fine letter.

 

[Leg End]

Not at all.

It means you have the BALLS OF STEEL to write your emotions into a letter and express your love to the lass that you love.

DOO EET.

Brotip: Hand-Deliver it to her, directly to her, then be there as she reads it.

You will look like a boss and she will(if she likes it) enjoy the gesture.

Can I plan the wedding?

 

[tartparty]

Okay i guess I'll be a bit more specific about my original post. It was wrong of me to write a "Love Letter" because that is not what it is going to be. It will just be a note thanking her for inviting me to the Youth Conference and that she did a great job facilitating the whole thing. Mention that I enjoyed my time and that I enjoyed spending time with her. At no point in the letter will I state that i "love" her because I don't, I mean i barely know her. I certainly am infatuated with her though. I may also mention that it's refreshing to know a girl with as much confidence and personality as her as opposed to most of the bimbos I usually meet. there will be (hopefully) nothing creepy about it, no poems or anything weird like that. it's merely a thank you note with a few compliments spread throughout it and maybe a hint that i would like to spend more time with her.

The reason I am resorting to this letter is I have never felt this strongly about anything my entire life. Everything in life is a gamble and this is one I'm willing to take. My life is fairly miserable at the moment and even the limited time I have spent with her have made me feel great. I also wouldn't be taking this risk unless i had a fairly good idea what the response will be. I am going insane with possibilities at the moment and I know I shouldn't but I can't help it she really has made quite an impression on me.

The Youth conference was also the first time I saw her with her hair down so I am thinking about mentioning that she looked great. I don't know about that yet, may be coming on a bit too strong.

I am currently doing a Bachelor of Writing at Uni so I think I can write a pretty good note. So thank you for your advice on this, I wasn't really expecting such mixed results but I think my mind was already made up before I made this post.

Now this is corny but i feel like Scott Pilgrim and she is my Ramona Flowers.
P.S I am not going to write that in my note.
Thanks for all the posts.

 

[TheMatsjo]

So would it be corny to write her a letter explaining how I feel or is that creepy and pathetic?

Short answer: No.
Long answer: No, she would love it, write it. Just write a good one and give it to her in person, preferably in a closed envelope with maybe something like "sensitive content, handle with care" written on it if you handwriting is nice. To clarify, I don't think you should be there by default; she might need a moment to digest so it's your call to make.

Cheers and tell us how it went!
Matsjo

 

[King of the Sandbox]

Is it corny? I dunno. Do you consider getting some vajayjay corny?

I sure don't.

I say go for it.

 

[PurplePlatypus]

Yes, incredibly corny.
That?s not a reason for you not to do it however. There are many ways a love letter can come off but it depends on what you write and how the person views these things. It could be anything from creepy to sweet and adorable of you.

 

[Mr Somewhere]

Of course it isn't, just mind the contents aren't cheesy, heh heh.

 

[Raven's Nest]

Okay i guess I'll be a bit more specific about my original post. It was wrong of me to write a "Love Letter" because that is not what it is going to be. It will just be a note thanking her for inviting me to the Youth Conference and that she did a great job facilitating the whole thing. Mention that I enjoyed my time and that I enjoyed spending time with her. At no point in the letter will I state that i "love" her because I don't, I mean i barely know her. I certainly am infatuated with her though. I may also mention that it's refreshing to know a girl with as much confidence and personality as her as opposed to most of the bimbos I usually meet. there will be (hopefully) nothing creepy about it, no poems or anything weird like that. it's merely a thank you note with a few compliments spread throughout it and maybe a hint that i would like to spend more time with her.

The reason I am resorting to this letter is I have never felt this strongly about anything my entire life. Everything in life is a gamble and this is one I'm willing to take. My life is fairly miserable at the moment and even the limited time I have spent with her have made me feel great. I also wouldn't be taking this risk unless i had a fairly good idea what the response will be. I am going insane with possibilities at the moment and I know I shouldn't but I can't help it she really has made quite an impression on me.

The Youth conference was also the first time I saw her with her hair down so I am thinking about mentioning that she looked great. I don't know about that yet, may be coming on a bit too strong.

I am currently doing a Bachelor of Writing at Uni so I think I can write a pretty good note. So thank you for your advice on this, I wasn't really expecting such mixed results but I think my mind was already made up before I made this post.

Now this is corny but i feel like Scott Pilgrim and she is my Ramona Flowers.
P.S I am not going to write that in my note.

Thanks for all the posts.

Sounds like a very enviable position you are in.

Definitely write her a letter, I get the impression she would appreciate it and be impressed with your confidence for doing so.

If I may suggest one alteration to your plan. Don't mention the possibility of spending more time together. Directly ask her out to spend an evening together. Ask her out on a formal date, somewhere like a nice restaurant or a day event somewhere, even if she isn't looking to date you as a romantic partner I find it unlikely that she'd decline since she obviously likes the sound of spending time with you.

On the grounds that the single worst regret in life is an unexpressed emotion I'd say go for it, you have nothing to lose!

 

[Brandon237]

Talking would be better, if you must give a letter, to her face will come off as less... stalker-ish. Once things get going, as many letters as you like, but just the first should at least be personal, telling her to her face or being there when she reads it.

 

[gazumped]

If you have a reason to be writing to her already it then it's not too corny...

She keeps telling me " I am heaps funny"

If that's what she likes about you, then why not make your note a funny one more than a soppy one? Soppy could be creepy, but if you're kind of jokey about it you can remind her why she likes you and also keep the note lighthearted so she doesn't get scared off.
Be careful not to make it too jokey, of course, or she'll think you're just making fun of her.