is this ok? (depression subject)

[chaos raptor]

so life hasnt been great lately tbh
lack of motovation, girlfriend left me and is quite in my face about it, family shits happening (mainly them being depressed cos of work and stuff, also christmas is coming up and we dont exactly have tones of money),never really have money, not really eating properly, and college is.. well... hard lol
basically to cope ive been in a combo of cutting, smoking, occasional weed with a friend and re-learning the piano.
is this ok? i mean is it best to deal with depression how ever i see fit or do something else? this combo is working, well it takes my mind off things anyway, it doesnt necesseryly deal with the problems but it relaxes me to a point where im not as worried about everything.
i know what people will say,
"play piano more offten" well tbh its not like i can play it whenever i like.
"get over your ex, shes not worth it" ok a) thats bull shit, if anyone has loved someone so completely you would do anything for then and they shove it back in your face, you know how hard it is
"do more excersise and eat more" i already do regualar exersise and i just havent got an appitite at the moment, which obviously means i dont feel like eating anyway.
so yeah.. advice? or just keep doing what ever makes me less worried about things?

 

[BrassButtons]

basically to cope ive been in a combo of cutting, smoking, occasional weed with a friend and re-learning the piano.

The only one of those I would recommend continuing is the piano, but I understand that you can't just drop a coping mechanism--even a bad one--without a struggle.

is this ok? i mean is it best to deal with depression how ever i see fit or do something else?

In the short-term you should do whatever you need to in order to deal with things. Long-term, though, I think you should look for better ways of coping with your problems. But like I said above, I don't think it will be easy. Then again, neither is what you're going through.

this combo is working, well it takes my mind off things anyway, it doesnt necesseryly deal with the problems but it relaxes me to a point where im not as worried about everything.

The problem is that the problems will still be there when you stop relaxing. And the longer those problems are there, the worse they get. Everything will keep stacking up without any of it getting dealt with, and you'll need to continually do more extreme things to get that same feeling of relaxation. Or the things you do to relieve stress will themselves cause stress, leading you to do the same thing again, leading to more stress, and so on.

"do more excersise and eat more" i already do regualar exersise and i just havent got an appitite at the moment, which obviously means i dont feel like eating anyway.

It's good that you're exercising regularly. You do need to eat, whether you feel like it or not. Even if all you can manage is a small snack here and there you need to eat something every day. Going without food is bad for your body, and it will make your depression worse.

so yeah.. advice? or just keep doing what ever makes me less worried about things?

The best thing would be to talk to a doctor, and probably a therapist. Barring that, try to find at least one person you trust to talk to.

 

[jacobythehedgehog]

I am going through a depressive slump right now. It is like the flue I suppose

 

[Angie7F]

I think i understand what you're going through, and though your coping mechanism isnt perfect, I think its ok.

I did worse.
I tried every drug out there, was a textbook example of Borderline Personality Disorder, ended up one night straight-jacketed in a mental hospital, and yet I am doing ok now.

You won't die from not eating for now.
Smoking won't kill you instantly.
Weed is the lesser of many evils.

But the thing you have to do, is to work on finding a way out of your current situation.
Your girlfriend dumped you, prepare yourself go find a hotter chick when you feel you are ready to move on.
You dont have money, go find a job & study to get a good job in the future.
Just keep investing into your future, no matter what vice you do right now.

I mean, that is waaaaay better than someone who doesn't do "bad" things but isn't doing anything either.