Liking a friend of my Ex

[PhiMuLady]

So my ex-boyfriend broke up with me a little over a month ago. I now find myself liking on one of his friends, should I tell him or should I give it a bit more time? My Ex and I are on good terms, we still have a game we both play in every week. The group gets along really well and I really do not what everything to get weird between everyone if I say something to this guy. I am leaning towards not saying anything at all, but I think I might kick myself later if I do. A time frame that you male escapist might think is good would help a lot. Thanks!
P.S. age range of the group is 20's and 30's, we are adults in a gaming club

 

[Catface Meowmers]

friends of ex's can be tricky, it depends on how serious you two were before you broke up. If you dated him for two years, going for his friend a month after the breakup might be pushing it. also, dating the guy should have given you an idea of how he handles jealousy, i.e. how he handled talking about other ex's, you talking to other guys, stuff like that.

i'd say go for it, unless you think the ex is secretly crazy.

 

[nicksdrago0]

Another thing you might want to consider is how close your ex and your interest are- If their super close, your interest is most likly going to side with your ex, even if he says its ok for the two of you to go out. Of course, you know the situation better than anyone else here- I would say a week, but you should just say when it feels natural.

 

[Simalacrum]

The problem with these types of issues is that it really depends in the person - some guys are perfectly fine with such things, while others can become very angry over such an issue.

Personally, if I were your ex, I would be perfectly fine with it, so long as you actually told me about it before making moves towards this guy.
However, I'm generally kinder than my other male counterparts...

My advice would be to use your intuition - try and think about what kind of character your ex is, and try and think if he's ever been angry and such over other situations like this. If you two are on friendly terms it should be ok, but I don't know your ex, so your probably the best judge upon this scenario.

Either way, honesty is best - if you decide to make moves towards this guy, make sure to tell your ex first! The thing that every guy hates about girls is when they don't come out and just tell us stuff in plain English, or lie to try and soften a blow! So don't do it

Good luck!

 

[Shio]

Another thing you might want to consider is how close your ex and your interest are- If their super close, your interest is most likly going to side with your ex, even if he says its ok for the two of you to go out. Of course, you know the situation better than anyone else here- I would say a week, but you should just say when it feels natural.

Solid advice.

As for me: I say start paying this friend of an ex more attention. See if they respond well.

 

[Olrod]

If you and your ex are on good terms, have you discussed this with him to get his opinion?

He may even be able to put in a good word for you with his friend.