Cheeze_Pavilion said:
Why are people considering spending their lives with someone more 'responsible' than those who are not? Responsibility is about being honest with yourself, not about whether you restrict those you sleep with to those you consider spending your life with.
To say nothing of all those people who get caught up in 'love' and prematurely consider spending their lives with people they shouldn't--weren't you talking about that before, about 'attraction' leading to people getting married who never should have been married in the first place?
And as far as commitment, wouldn't it work the opposite way? If you're considering spending your life with someone, and you get pregnant well...you just get married earlier than you were planning.
I also never said every single person who gets married made a wise decision, which would go back to why they married the person and how long it took them to reach such a decision.
There are quite a few people who sleep around that are not honest with their self, half the time that actually contributes to why they sleep around so much to begin with.
Cheeze_Pavilion said:
Well, that's not really relevant--just because someone's single doesn't mean they were one of those people who were 'sleeping around': they just as easily could be one of those people who falls in love to quickly or like you said, that puts too much emphasis on attraction.
It isn't that relevant, unless a question like 'do you sleep with multiple partners' would come up.
Also just curios to see how many would answer it honestly and what kinds of questions something like that would have.
Cheeze_Pavilion said:
Well then your issue isn't with people who sleep around, it's with people who are manipulative/Maybe, but, that has nothing then to do with how many hamburgers they eat and how many butchers they go to, it's about people eating undercooked meat/Well, sure, but that's not about people "sleeping around" it's about people not using their brains.
The problem is still with the people who sleep around since those people also tend to be the manipulative ones and don't use their brains (it's a long odd connection in my brain).
I'm not trying to say this is every one who sleeps around, but a fair few act immaturely on the matter.
Cheeze_Pavilion said:
Not *all* the people engaging in the behavior use it as an excuse to behave badly, though.
In fact, they're not really behaving badly at all--the only thing they are doing is avoiding a relationship when they're actually ready for one. The only person that hurts is them--at worst, that's immature behavior, not bad behavior.
On the other hand, people getting into relationships when they should be sleeping around...they're the ones that really cause damage to other people.
Are you sure you're not really trying to argue that some people sleep around too much according to your personal moral code?
Those that are sleeping around when they should be in a relationship cause just as much damage. Though with both incidents, people just don't seem to know what they want. Do they want just a sex partner, or do they want something more out of the deal.
And yes, I'm sure I'm not trying to argue that point because of a moral code.
I've been in those situations and am speaking from experience, and from observing others in those situations.
