So... about a year ago (actually a year and ...3 weeks ago) I left my on-line community. I was pretty involved with them. Very involved actually: I wrote for the front page, was a Mod, clan leader... etc.
Anyway: I left that community abruptly. Well... not true. I was thinking of leaving for a long while- months. The sexism made me want to punch a nun. My departure was... perhaps hastened by mother nature. Some women clean their house before labour, I cleaned my spiritual house.
I left in the morning, had my son in the afternoon and haven't really looked back since. It was really weird at first. I was SO involved with that site that I didn't know what to do. Luckily I was busy.
Anyone else leave a community that they were a major part of? On or off-line? How did you feel about it a year later. Be honest: were you sad that people didn't weep tears of blood when you left? Did you secretly make a new username? C'mon... DISH!
It was the best thing I ever did. It WAS tough. The guy who runs the site made a nasty blog post, and then changed the rules for the mods when I left. that stung.
But, I have so much less drama than before. Here I already know that there are others who have the same values as me, and so I can be more at ease. There, I was really the only one. I HAVE gone back... mostly to pick up old messages... and I am trying to find one friend of mine. She went through a divorce and I'm worried about her. I also heard from a buddy that they actually decided to increase interactions by making it more difficult to join the site (needed someone already on the site to vouch for them)... I read the post and giggled.
So yeah: safe space here: no one knows you from before. Confession time! Who has left an old community... only to not really leave or to be dissappointed in the aftermath.
Anyway: I left that community abruptly. Well... not true. I was thinking of leaving for a long while- months. The sexism made me want to punch a nun. My departure was... perhaps hastened by mother nature. Some women clean their house before labour, I cleaned my spiritual house.
I left in the morning, had my son in the afternoon and haven't really looked back since. It was really weird at first. I was SO involved with that site that I didn't know what to do. Luckily I was busy.
Anyone else leave a community that they were a major part of? On or off-line? How did you feel about it a year later. Be honest: were you sad that people didn't weep tears of blood when you left? Did you secretly make a new username? C'mon... DISH!
It was the best thing I ever did. It WAS tough. The guy who runs the site made a nasty blog post, and then changed the rules for the mods when I left. that stung.
But, I have so much less drama than before. Here I already know that there are others who have the same values as me, and so I can be more at ease. There, I was really the only one. I HAVE gone back... mostly to pick up old messages... and I am trying to find one friend of mine. She went through a divorce and I'm worried about her. I also heard from a buddy that they actually decided to increase interactions by making it more difficult to join the site (needed someone already on the site to vouch for them)... I read the post and giggled.
So yeah: safe space here: no one knows you from before. Confession time! Who has left an old community... only to not really leave or to be dissappointed in the aftermath.
