This is going to be a long one so bear with me. So a little while ago I made a post about hitting women. It turns out that most Escapists don't want to hit anyone. Which I believe is even worse than simply not hitting women. First, let me clear up one discrepancy. I don't lump fighting and violence in the same category. I view fighting as an art even if it is a sloppy street brawl. When people start dying, becoming paralyzed, then it becomes violence in my opinion. Still it's just my opinion. I'm unclear on the geographic location of most people on this site but I'm assuming Britian, America, Canada, and Australia have the highest number of accounts. Now, in my Middle school and High School there was an iron clad rule "You throw you Go". That means anyone caught fighting, regardless of who started it, would be... expelled? Suspended... Yes suspended is the word. Everyone was aware of this rule and as a result the tactics (you can say bullies) used changed. Instead of the objective being to simply beat you up and call it a day it became, " I'm going to say really shitty things to you. My friends are going to say really shitty things to you. I'm going to get you as aggravated and angry as you can possibly be and there is nothing you can do to stop me." They didn't actually think like that but that's what kids did to kids back then. How do you solve this problem? Tell the teacher? That usually makes it worse. Now your a snitch. I'm guessing many of you would try to resolve the issue verbally and logically. But what if the other guy does not wish to be logical and reasonable. Example:
Kid #1 - "Hey your gay (that was the diss back then)".
Kid #2 - "No I'm not. Just leave me alone."
Kid #1 - "Yeah you are. And your mom's a hoe."
Kid #2 - " Why do you keep bothering me. Leave me alone"
Kid #1 - "Because your gay and your mom's a hoe, idiot."
Basically it's playing the I'm not touching you game. I can get away with saying anything I want as long as I don't touch you. But if I can make you so angry that you touch me, justifiable or no, it's a double win for me. Many of you escapists are older and have already thought of a million different ways you would have handled that situation. Ignore the person. Walk away. Yada, Yada, Yada. What I would have done was at the point where he called my mom a hoe, he would have been on the floor. No, ifs, ands, or buts, about it.
Like I said in my previous post, that is how I was raised. But it appears that is not how most of you were raised. The thing that bugs me is that it appeared as though most of you look down on people who use their fists to solve their problems. Not all problems of course, just the one's they deem necessary. I'm NOT talking about self defense here (At least not specifically anyway). Many said (generalizing) "How about not hitting anyone unless you feel your life threatened..." I say, calling my mom a whore or bad mouthing my siblings is fighting words. No one says that to someone expecting them to respond "Yeah my mom is a bit of a hoe." Never forget that humans are animals and fighting truly comes naturally to us. The concept of restraining ourselves has to be TAUGHT/LEARNED. It is not instinctual. Restraint is a good skill to have but it also important to know when to let go. What boggles my mind is that I've had people say ridiculous things to me under the assumption that they would not get knocked out for saying what they said. To me the idea that someone might right hook you in your jaw helps keeps some people in check. Or else they would simply keep badgering you.
The reason I made the assumption that most Escapists were from the aforementioned areas is because around the world, my way, is the most used way to solve issues. It seems that this is a culture thing. Even in America, it seems most white people will say they don't hit anyone, while most Black and Hispanic people will do what I do. Now the question I want answered is if you are of the "I don't hit anyone" ilk, how do you, or how did you, respond to situations (not specifically, just an analogy) like the school one. Situations were it seems that the only way to get this person to stop is to use your hands. Or simply give me your reasons for believing not hitting anyone is a good way to live by. If you do use an example from your childhood, please use your child self. Often people project who they are now onto who they were then. In addition, I had this happen in the other post, don't belittle some else's upbringing or culture.
Kid #1 - "Hey your gay (that was the diss back then)".
Kid #2 - "No I'm not. Just leave me alone."
Kid #1 - "Yeah you are. And your mom's a hoe."
Kid #2 - " Why do you keep bothering me. Leave me alone"
Kid #1 - "Because your gay and your mom's a hoe, idiot."
Basically it's playing the I'm not touching you game. I can get away with saying anything I want as long as I don't touch you. But if I can make you so angry that you touch me, justifiable or no, it's a double win for me. Many of you escapists are older and have already thought of a million different ways you would have handled that situation. Ignore the person. Walk away. Yada, Yada, Yada. What I would have done was at the point where he called my mom a hoe, he would have been on the floor. No, ifs, ands, or buts, about it.
Like I said in my previous post, that is how I was raised. But it appears that is not how most of you were raised. The thing that bugs me is that it appeared as though most of you look down on people who use their fists to solve their problems. Not all problems of course, just the one's they deem necessary. I'm NOT talking about self defense here (At least not specifically anyway). Many said (generalizing) "How about not hitting anyone unless you feel your life threatened..." I say, calling my mom a whore or bad mouthing my siblings is fighting words. No one says that to someone expecting them to respond "Yeah my mom is a bit of a hoe." Never forget that humans are animals and fighting truly comes naturally to us. The concept of restraining ourselves has to be TAUGHT/LEARNED. It is not instinctual. Restraint is a good skill to have but it also important to know when to let go. What boggles my mind is that I've had people say ridiculous things to me under the assumption that they would not get knocked out for saying what they said. To me the idea that someone might right hook you in your jaw helps keeps some people in check. Or else they would simply keep badgering you.
The reason I made the assumption that most Escapists were from the aforementioned areas is because around the world, my way, is the most used way to solve issues. It seems that this is a culture thing. Even in America, it seems most white people will say they don't hit anyone, while most Black and Hispanic people will do what I do. Now the question I want answered is if you are of the "I don't hit anyone" ilk, how do you, or how did you, respond to situations (not specifically, just an analogy) like the school one. Situations were it seems that the only way to get this person to stop is to use your hands. Or simply give me your reasons for believing not hitting anyone is a good way to live by. If you do use an example from your childhood, please use your child self. Often people project who they are now onto who they were then. In addition, I had this happen in the other post, don't belittle some else's upbringing or culture.
