Parties...?

[Mutie]

I am, my fellow escapists, a geek. I have always been a geek. My exam results are relatively low, my common sense is lacking, my knowledge of geek trivia and lore is pitiful... but I am still geek and thus it has always been. As such, my life at Secondary School was horrific; little more than a complex ordeal of social inadequacy and physical strife; I scraped my way through GCSE and A Level with the minimum grades, excitement and friends. I also never went to parties. I was never invited to parties and I never really wanted to go to them anyway. I find large groups of people highly disconcerting, sexual activity somewhat repulsive and alcohol all out abhorrent... so it's rather odd that I lamented my lack of invitation. I, despite my perpetual loneliness, always felt that little bit more left out.

So it is odd you might say that, in this, my first two weeks of University, I have been invited to more parties than I have in all the years of my life... and not attended a single one. The mandatory course party notwithstanding of course... But the fact is, I have grown so used to not going to parties, so conditioned to the sequential life of domestic existence, that I just... don't want to go. "Fresher's week will be exiting" they say "There'll be lots of parties" they conclude... but to what end? I do not drink and panic when surrounded by strangers. Am I really expected to endure simply for the sake of social norm? This quandary is compounded somewhat by the fact that I am obsessed with the party life-style; in a very comic-book, mid-eighties kind of way albeit. Municipal Waste and the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle preach their party life-style! Bill and Ted salute the excellence of the party but, all this considered, I sit alone once more...

Dearest Escapist; do you party? Do you like parties? What was the last party you went to and what crazy shit happened there?

EDIT: I'm not attacking parties. Nor am I attacking people who attend and enjoy parties, I'm just starting a discussion about them. Don't just talk about or insult my personal stance on the subject; discuss the topic, dudes.

 

[Marter]

I've never been to a party. Not saying I wouldn't go, but I have never been invited.

 

[Deathkingo]

When I play Rock Band, I MAKE a party. Just recently got the stage kit. Man, I'm so awesome.

 

[nunqual]

I haven't been to a party in three years. It wasn't that fun, we were all too young to drink or do anything sketchy so it wasn't that great. Although I seem to recall two people making out.

 

[Julianking93]

Never really been to one myself....though I'm not much of a party person.

I'd just be referred to as "the creepy girl who sits in the corner."

 

[Woodsey]

If you panic around strangers then you definitely need to drink.

And yes, I love parties. Last one I went to was quite a while ago though (another one coming up soon) at the end of the Summer holidays. Not much happened, we all just got pissed and had a laugh.

 

[hurfdurp]

I have your life but with better grades and zero University invites. I prefer close-knit socializing and not bouncing from person to person a la party situation. It probably doesn't help that my idea of partying is closer to 'let's go do my groceries and then we can sit in my room and have intimate discussions that solidify our friendship'.

 

[fullbleed]

I don't want to be that guy but OH MY GOD HOW MANY OF THESE THREADS DO WE GET ON THE ESCAPIST! Seriously, just get off your high fucking horse and it give it ago, who knows maybe you'll make some friends, real life ones at that!

 

[tomtom94]

I know that if I'm invited to parties it will be for the sole purpose of getting me drunk and making me say stupid things.

I don't get invited to social things often anyway, let alone big ones.

 

[aLivingPheonix]

Never really been to one myself....though I'm not much of a party person.

I'd just be referred to as "the creepy girl who sits in the corner."

Sounds a lot like me, minus the girl part.

I've only ever been to New Years party's with my friends, when I was younger. And 2 or 3 birthday parties, if that counts.

I'm not really a big fan of being around lots of people, so usually I decline the invitation, unless I know more than one person attending.

EDIT: Fixed typo

 

[Mutie]

I don't want to be that guy but OH MY GOD HOW MANY OF THESE THREADS DO WE GET ON THE ESCAPIST! Seriously, just get off your high fucking horse and it give it ago, who knows maybe you'll make some friends, real life ones at that!

Dude... I'm not on a high horse! I'm merely musing; perhaps lamenting. I have been to parties in the past, I just don't see the point of watching a bunch of strangers inebriate themselves whilst listening to, what I consider, terrible, terrible music.

I made this thread so that people could discuss the concept of parties, whether they like them or not and their most recent or fondest memories thereof. If you an't got awt constructive to bring to the discussion, then bugger off mate. We don't need trolls.

 

[Pegghead]

Never really been to one myself....though I'm not much of a party person.

I'd just be referred to as "the creepy girl who sits in the corner."

Oh, now I feel like an idiot.

OT: It depends on what you mean by a party, last night me and seven other friends went out to see a film ("Dinner with Schmucks", it was funny and heartwarming in my opinion) before going back to the hosts house for dinner and a few hours of random stuff (everything from bumming around at the nearby oval to me spending the last half hour reading this field guide type book written from the perspective of a scientist in a zombie apocalypse while various guests played his guitar next to me) all in celebration of his birthday. Would that count as a party, better yet would me occasionally inviting a few guys over for D&D and movies count as a party?

I suppose in terms of gigantic parties where you don't know half the guests I've been to them but not many. Being a geek doesn't mean you don't have to be sociable, to me being sociable and being a geek is like two great things rolled into one (I just LOVE meeting new people and can hold conversations for hours).

 

[Paksenarrion]

Parties? Like, adventuring parties, or study parties? I've participated in both.

I feel generally uncomfortable in alcohol-themed parties. And by uncomfortable, I mean outright paranoid. I don't trust frat boys, I don't trust alcohol, and I would sooner set a house party on fire than enter it.

The Cantina on Tatooine would be a different matter. Sure, they serve drinks, but everyone's armed, and you have to be careful with who you mess with. I've always wanted to be a lone Sith, watching Luke and Ben catch a ride with Han and Chewie aboard the Millenium Falcon.

Too bad about the Rule of Two, though. There was always The Emperor's Hand.

Is it possible to be an independent Sith?

 

[EeveeElectro]

I'm not a party maniac, but I'll go to one if invited.
I've been invited to loads in the past few months, but couldn't go because they were in my home town and I've moved an hour away, so I can't afford it down. Now my friends have pretty much stopped talking to me completely.
If I were in uni, I'd probably go to them all to meet new friends. You should too, the invites will stop soon and everyone needs friends, so grab the chance while you can.

 

[M-JN]

I call them just "getting about 5-10 friends around and drinking and talking about nerdy things and possibly some tight-knit slightly incestuous interfriendship sexual adventures," but everybody else calls them parties. So yes?

 

[Mutie]

OT: It depends on what you mean by a party, last night me and seven other friends went out to see a film ("Dinner with Schmucks", it was funny and heartwarming in my opinion) before going back to the hosts house for dinner and a few hours of random stuff (everything from bumming around at the nearby oval to me spending the last half hour reading this field guide type book written from the perspective of a scientist in a zombie apocalypse while various guests played his guitar next to me) all in celebration of his birthday. Would that count as a party, better yet would me occasionally inviting a few guys over for D&D and movies count as a party?

I suppose in terms of gigantic parties where you don't know half the guests I've been to them but not many. Being a geek doesn't mean you don't have to be sociable, to me being sociable and being a geek is like two great things rolled into one (I just LOVE meeting new people and can hold conversations for hours).

That's a good point, dude; to me that spells a good time. I enjoy socialising in manageable groups and just chilling with friends, going to the cinema especially. The type of party I don't enjoy are these big, noisy parties where lots of drinks get spilt and cups get broken... the kind of party when microwaves end up on the lawn.

As for being a geek; I know it doesn't mean being anti-social, I didn't mean to offend anyone. What I mean to say is I wasn't in the, err... popular group...

 

[Blaghman]

I go to parties, but that's only because they're held by people I know, and populated with people I know. If I'm in a large group of unknown people I tend to freak out and get all moody and emo and crap, so I can understand not wanting to go to parties where there are lots of people you don't know. On the other hand, I personally love a chance to get drunk (but not too drunk... Once was enough) with a bunch of people from my school year who I only ever really talked to at parties, and discuss random crap with them.

Last party I went to wasn't too great, didn't have much to drink and we ended up bailing from it fairly early (like 2am or something). The one before that though was great, as I spent hours talking to one of the most attractive and intelligent people I know. Sure, all we did was talk, but who can say no to eye candy?

Edit: Oh, and my position in my school year was "that quiet kid who occasionally does something vaguely awesome", so I wouldn't call myself popular (I was part of the uncool group), but I did get along with most people.

 

[Edorf]

When people my age started partying, I was always invited... I just never went because I'm not that much of a "dance, dance, drink, drink, scream, scream" person.
In the end they just stopped asking me cause they knew I wouldnt be there anyway.

Now that I've started at a new school, with new friends, I wouldnt mind going out partying with them, because they are people who I actually enjoy spending time with. Having only known them a month or so, we havent really had any parties yet... Just gone to movies etc.

and yes, I've had alot of "plastic" friends. (people I hung out with, but didnt really care much for.)

 

[Jester00]

i like to go on partys, but if you don't like alcohol and girls and big groups of people, stay at home. that's your decision.