Platonic relationships - possible?

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manicfoot

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So I have this female friend and she came out with my circle of friends for the first time a few weeks ago. I spent most of the time talking to her because I hadn't seen her in a long time and my friends thought this meant I liked her. They kept saying awkward things to her like "manicfoot's attractive - isn't he?". *cringe*

They couldn't seem to grasp the fact that I could be friends with a person of the opposite sex and not want to hump her. After pointing this out it was met with general disbelief. She likes games, I like games. She's a bit socially awkward, so am I. I said that I genuinely didn't think of her in that way and they dismissed this as me lacking the confidence to ask her out.

So, I ask ye - in your experience is it possible to have a platonic relationship with someone of the opposite sex? For me it is but my friends seem to think otherwise.
 

dwightsteel

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Yes. Absolutely yes. That's not to say that feelings may develop on one or both sides down the line, but it's also equally possible that you will only remain good friends. Sometimes adolescent kids don't quite grasp that concept. They'll figure it out though.
 

Andalusa

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Yes, I have as many man friends as I do lady friends.

OP:Your friends are silly if they don't think it's possible.
 

Faps

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I have plenty of platonic relationships with girls, friends gf's, girls I work with, girls I just happen to know and even an ex. It's not some crazy thing that only a few people can experience.

Just because someone has tits doesn't mean you can't just be friends.
 

Ultress

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It's possible but i tend to drive away girls preventing said relationships.
 

KingPiccolOwned

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manicfoot said:
So I have this female friend and she came out with my circle of friends for the first time a few weeks ago. I spent most of the time talking to her because I hadn't seen her in a long time and my friends thought this meant I liked her. They kept saying awkward things to her like "manicfoot's attractive - isn't he?". *cringe*

They couldn't seem to grasp the fact that I could be friends with a person of the opposite sex and not want to hump her. After pointing this out it was met with general disbelief. She likes games, I like games. She's a bit socially awkward, so am I. I said that I genuinely didn't think of her in that way and they dismissed this as me lacking the confidence to ask her out.

So, I ask ye - in your experience is it possible to have a platonic relationship with someone of the opposite sex? For me it is but my friends seem to think otherwise.
I say yes, as I already know a guy like this. My friend James, if you were to ask me, I would say that he was completely lacking any manner of libido.
 

Mackinator

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Of course its possible. But sometimes it can be hard, I mean, if they are reaaaaally hot...
 

Labyrinth

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Oh for sure. I've got any number of male friends, and female friends, with whom I have entirely friendly relationships. I would say much of the stigma surrounding this kind of relationship comes from the idea that the genders must be segregated lest Hijinx occur.
 

Jirlond

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It is completely possible - one of my two best friends is a girl and we are always together(the 3 of us). She is completely different to me but we can generally get on. I will admit she is beautiful but I would never want to do anything physical with her, it would just be wierd.

My other best friend on the other hand, loves her to bits and tends to warp his views to make her happy - but she feels the way about him the way I do about her.

Gender shouldn't be an issue when making friends. If it works out as more then great, but if you just want friendship then that is cool
 

Graustein

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If your friends cannot comprehend the concept of an opposite-sex platonic relationship, then it's entirely their loss. I've got more female friends than male friends, and the thought of me not associating with them just because they have boobs is abhorrent to me. On more than one occasion me and a female friend have been mistaken for a couple, a suggestion that has always been met with laughter.
 

djt5215

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Of course it's possible. My best friend is a guy and nothing has ever happened. Most of my friends are guys actually and I don't have feelings towards them more than friendship. It's just a lot easier to get along with a guy than a girl in my experience.
 

chiggerwood

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I've had a friend that's a girl for the past 6-7 years not once have I even thought about humping her. It's really unfortunate that alot people can't look at a male and female together nowadays without thinking either they're screwin' or one of 'em is gay; it's really tiring. Especially when they accuse you of one or the other.
 
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Both my best friends are girls :D
It's certainly very good for hugs when I'm feeling down ^__^
And yeah, I get told waaay too much that I should ask out person A/B/both at the same time.
People seem to lack the idea of a 'friend' of the opposite gender, the closest most of them seem to be able to grasp is 'friend with benefits' which isn't quite the same thing -rolls eyes- xD
 

NimbleJack3

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I will never get a girlfriend (nerdy, socially awkward and kind of large) so any relationship I have with a girl is platonic.
 

latenightapplepie

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manicfoot said:
So, I ask ye - in your experience is it possible to have a platonic relationship with someone of the opposite sex?
Yes, of course. Provided you're gay.

Okay, fine, even if you're not gay, you can have a friend of the opposite sex.

Geez, you people are demanding.

Your friends are either ignorant teens, or just mature morons.
 

L4hlborg

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NimbleJack3 said:
I will never get a girlfriend (nerdy, socially awkward and kind of large) so any relationship I have with a girl is platonic.
Pretty much same here. Plus some people concider me mean for some reason.
 

Aedrial

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Course it is, one of my best friends is female.
People eventually get over the male-female barrier.
So don't let it bother you. =D