Poll: Are manners an important thing to you?

[Kaboose the Moose]

Basic everyday manners like holding the elevator or opening a door for someone, courtesy to cashiers, saying 'thank you' etc..etc.., are these things important in your life or do you just skip by them?.

For me, they're pretty important. It's not hard to be courteous. However, I do know people that don't give common courtesy or general manners a second thought. Just the other day my friend went to a supermarket but at no point during his check-out did he even acknowledge the person working behind the counter; there was no eye contact or words spoken at all. He didn't even respond when the cashier greeted him with "Hi, how are you today?". It was more awkward than rude actually.


Anyway, does the Escapist care about manners?.

 

[Katherine Kerensky]

I pretty much always say please and thankyou multiple times, and hold doors, etc,
I suppose I had a good upbringing.
compared to the 2000+ chavs who live down the road.

 

[Kif]

Extremely important and it irritates me when others are impolite or discourteous, so much so it makes me impolite.

For example, if I greet someone at work and they don't respond I will say 'Or not' or if I open a door and a person does not say thanks I will say 'You're welcome' facetiously.

 

[r3lix]

I pretty much always say please and thankyou multiple times, and hold doors, etc,
I suppose I had a good upbringing.

I agree with you. Manners are extremely imprtant to me. Gives a good impression on other people.

 

[amrl]

I'm often very courteous, but more out of fear than out of manners.

 

[IckleMissMayhem]

People who are rude seriously piss me off.

if I open a door and a person does not say thanks I will say 'You're welcome' facetiously.

This. Really doesn't take to much to smile and/or say thanks, does it?!

 

[historybuff]

Very much so. I hate it when people are rude to me--so I try not to be rude to others. My mom was very strict about that when I was a kid, so it has stuck now that I'm older.

 

[amrl]

For example, if I greet someone at work and they don't respond I will say 'Or not' or if I open a door and a person does not say thanks I will say 'You're welcome' facetiously.

I'm often the person who stands, holding open a door, as loads of people walk through. Normally, the majority of them don't say thanks either.
I don't really mind when it's in that situation, but if it's just the one or two then I don't like it.

 

[NewGenAdam]

Extremely important and it irritates me when others are impolite or discourteous, so much so it makes me impolite.

For example, if I greet someone at work and they don't respond I will say 'Or not' or if I open a door and a person does not say thanks I will say 'You're welcome' facetiously.

If you like politeness and courtesy so much, aren't your facetious replies at least as rude as their silences? Maybe they deserve it as punishment...

I love courtesy; at least extending my own. And while I hate it when others don't reciprocate,
I won't explicitly shove it in their face.
I'll just judge them.

 

[Sonicron]

You're really just talking about common courtesy, not explicitly mannered behavior, but yes, this is very important to me. It's neither difficult nor strenuous to be friendly, and who knows who you'll cross paths with again in the future? Even the smallest bit of friendliness can go a long way.

 

[Ocelot GT]

Manners are very important to me. I always say thank you, please, I'm very respectful. And I get very cross when people don't use any manners at all.

 

[RicoADF]

I pretty much always say please and thankyou multiple times, and hold doors, etc,
I suppose I had a good upbringing.
compared to the 2000+ chavs who live down the road.

lol completly agree, and it does feel like your the only gentleman left on earth at times when you cant get a simple thankyou for letting someone go first etc. Rather rediculas at times.

 

[FallenJellyDoughnut]

Extremely important and it irritates me when others are impolite or discourteous, so much so it makes me impolite.

For example, if I greet someone at work and they don't respond I will say 'Or not' or if I open a door and a person does not say thanks I will say 'You're welcome' facetiously.

Yeah I do that too. What ever happened to manners? I went to my friend's friend's place once and he would just shout and swear at his mom without any respect.

 

[Jharry5]

I was taught that manners are really important for as long as I can remember.
Sometimes I think I'm a little too polite. I've been one of those people who've held doors open for multitudes of people. If it isn't reciprocated, I usually silently judge them, as I've never been one for confrontation.
The worse kind of rudeness in my opinion is definately in crowds, where people just walk into you instead of trying to go around you or waiting for a second. That really pisses me off...

 

[Pingieking]

Quite important, though I won't make a big deal out of it.
It's nice and respectful to others. It's also good simply to give a quick thanks as a acknoledgement when they open the door for you (and all those countless number of mundane things that occur).

 

[Brickcups]

Manners are most definitely important. Even if over half the population seems to have forgotten about them. Sigh, kids these days. Who knows... it might make a comeback?

 

[Altorin]

respect is important to me. Silly rules about what's proper polite behavior isn't.

Doesn't mean I won't do those things if they make sense, but when it comes to manners, I'm a results centered person. I want to show most people I respect them.

 

[Bagaloo]

Basic everyday manners like holding the elevator or opening a door for someone, courtesy to cashiers, saying 'thank you' etc..etc.., are these things important in your life or do you just skip by them?.

For me, they're pretty important. It's not hard to be courteous. However, I do know people that don't give common courtesy or general manners a second thought. Just the other day my friend went to a supermarket but at no point during his check-out did he even acknowledge the person working behind the counter; there was no eye contact or words spoken at all. He didn't even respond when the cashier greeted him with "Hi, how are you today?". It was more awkward than rude actually.


Anyway, does the Escapist care about manners?.

Yeah, but how annoying is it when they ask you about your day? It's ruder to ask that question than not to answer it if you have no interest in the answer. It is all that pretending bullshit that makes people lose their manners in the first place.

Imagine answering 'Pretty bad. My girlfriend has just broken up with me, saying that we'd grown apart, and I found out today that she was actually cheating on me for three months.' Yeah. Exactly.

That said, being courteous generally costs nothing so you might as well do it. Plus it makes you feel good when people acknowledge it or thank you.

Thats because in the context of somebody you don't know, that question isn't supposed to be answered with anything other than "Fine, thanks".

OT: Manners are fairly important to me, I'll usually hold doors open, and I offer up my P's and Q's regularly. Though on occassion, I can forget, and feel like a dick when I realise I just let the door close on someone.

 

[Kaboose the Moose]

Yeah, but how annoying is it when they ask you about your day? It's ruder to ask that question than not to answer it if you have no interest in the answer. It is all that pretending bullshit that makes people lose their manners in the first place.

Imagine answering 'Pretty bad. My girlfriend has just broken up with me, saying that we'd grown apart, and I found out today that she was actually cheating on me for three months.' Yeah. Exactly.

Random people and complete strangers asking me about my day is a bit annoying but that still doesn't mean you can't shrug it off with a "pretty good" or any suitably short reply. Besides I don't think the people asking about my day want to hear every facet to it, it's a well established social norm to say "good" even if it wasn't.

Interesting point though. I would categorize it into those "people" that walk about with a 'free hug' sign and try to hug strangers.