I've seen a lot of mentions on the internet of people being cheated on in relationships, to the point where it seems more the rule than the exception. So I wanted to find out if it really is so, or if maybe it's just that the cheated ones are more vocal about it, especially on the internet where anonymity provides a nice shield.
In my personal experience, including those of my own friends and family, cheating is not very common at all. But I come from a culture where premarital sex itself is pretty taboo still, so that could account for the lack of cheating or the lack of anecdotal evidence at any rate.
Regardless, I'm curious to find out if cheating really is all so common in the western (or maybe the more sexually open?) world which seems to be pretty well represented in this forum. So here's a poll for you all to answer, anonymous, of course.
If cheating is common, I'm curious to know why this is so. Is it as simple as people having a lack of self control? That explanation couldn't account for all cases or even most cases, could it?
I know there's a school of thought that assumes/asserts that human beings as a species are not meant to be monogamous and that the forced monogamy prevalent in society forces people into cheating. To those who agree with this view, are you or have you at any time been in a monogamous relationship? Do/Did you then expect your partner to be faithful to you?
And to those of you who have been cheated on, were you able to forgive and forget and carry on a relationship with that person again? How did you bring yourself to do it?
Personally, I cannot imagine being able to sustain a relationship when once trust has been broken. But maybe I'm just a particularly unforgiving person. Plus I've never been cheated on or cheated on someone, so I'm really just speculating about this.
I would like to know other people's take on this though, and hence this thread. Feel free to share, speculate, discuss, whatever.
In my personal experience, including those of my own friends and family, cheating is not very common at all. But I come from a culture where premarital sex itself is pretty taboo still, so that could account for the lack of cheating or the lack of anecdotal evidence at any rate.
Regardless, I'm curious to find out if cheating really is all so common in the western (or maybe the more sexually open?) world which seems to be pretty well represented in this forum. So here's a poll for you all to answer, anonymous, of course.
If cheating is common, I'm curious to know why this is so. Is it as simple as people having a lack of self control? That explanation couldn't account for all cases or even most cases, could it?
I know there's a school of thought that assumes/asserts that human beings as a species are not meant to be monogamous and that the forced monogamy prevalent in society forces people into cheating. To those who agree with this view, are you or have you at any time been in a monogamous relationship? Do/Did you then expect your partner to be faithful to you?
And to those of you who have been cheated on, were you able to forgive and forget and carry on a relationship with that person again? How did you bring yourself to do it?
Personally, I cannot imagine being able to sustain a relationship when once trust has been broken. But maybe I'm just a particularly unforgiving person. Plus I've never been cheated on or cheated on someone, so I'm really just speculating about this.
I would like to know other people's take on this though, and hence this thread. Feel free to share, speculate, discuss, whatever.
