Poll: Do you go on dating sites?

[krazykidd]

Simple enough question . Do you go on dating sites and has it worked for you?

Personally i did go to dating sites when i was single because i am a very shy person and a little asocial . This takes most of the stress out of talking to random people ( mostly women) and it gives me a sense of knowing the person before we actually go out . I have met quite a few women on these sites and for the most part haven't had a horrible experience. I find that it is a good way to meet people for those like me that are uncomfortable around new people . Actually now that i think about it everyone i have dated , save for my current girlfriend ,i have met on these sites .

Although for people that are very social this is a weird thing to do . Iv'e spoken to people who didn't have any kind of problem meeting people and there is a kind of idea that peoplethat do resort to dating sites are the scum of the earth that are creepy for not being able to out in a "normal" social situation and meet someone . Iv'e heard quite a few people say that they are affraid to me a totally creep or a rapist/murderer . Now i am sure stuff like that has happened , but most likely no more than when you meet someone at say a bar .

So do you go on dating sites ? And if you do which ones have you gone to ? Have they worked for you? What do you think about them?

Captcha: she's a witch

 

[Colour Scientist]

I've never needed to use a dating site. That's not bragging, by the way.

I'm a fairly social person and I generally don't have problems talking to men. I've been in two long term relationships (currently still involved in one) and I've been able to have fun when I was single.

I don't think I'd be able to use dating sites, I love the feeling you get when you meet and talk to someone you could have interest in for the first time. It's the best. It also seems as though it would be less mechanical than the 'you have similar interests with this person and this site deems you compatible, go flirt' formula.

 

[shogunblade]

Simple enough question . Do you go on dating sites and has it worked for you?

Personally i did go to dating sites when i was single because i am a very shy person and a little asocial.

I am probably the exception to the rule. I do use dating sites, but I really hold contempt for them, which is weird because I am very shy and asocial, which I thought would benefit me in some way. To date, dating sites don't work because all the women I read about don't match my criteria (I think I'm just a dick), or I don't match theirs, and all the dating around my hometown is slim pickings (Do I date High School Girls? Girls who drink at the bar and wouldn't be ideal in any dating scenario? Girls that have dated everybody else? Take your pick).

I would have to date out of town, but then I get judgmental of them and most of all, myself, judging how Women will look at me before I've even had a chance to speak to them.

To answer your questions, I do use dating sites, but I haven't had success with them, due only to my inability to pursue any women.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

Interesting thread. Surprising poll results so far.

Do I use dating sites? Haven't for years, but did. A lot. From about age 20 onwards.

Get many dates from them? Many. Many many. Including a 3 year relationship, and my current 7 year relationship.

Do I think they're worth using? Absolutely. They're so commonplace and commonly used now I can hardly believe it's even a question. In fact, I have no idea how on earth people are getting together without them. Between working/commuting and having a fairly solitary hobby (gaming) there's little opportunity to meet people unless I want to date a co-worker, and I don't. Dating sites made it easy for me to meet women who shared my values and interests.

Honestly, given all the lonely-heart, painfully shy, forever-alone nerds who frequent this forum, if the poll results don't revert to being overwhelmingly in FAVOR of dating sites, then something is seriously fucking wrong with ya'll. It's a tool. Use the tools at your disposal.

 

[JoJo]

Honestly, given all the lonely-heart, painfully shy, forever-alone nerds who frequent this forum, if the poll results don't revert to being overwhelmingly in FAVOR of dating sites, then something is seriously fucking wrong with ya'll. It's a tool. Use the tools at your disposal.

Some people on the poll might be answering "no" for the same reason I did, not because we have anything against using dating sites but we're simply too young to have had a chance to use them or aren't dating for other reasons right now: I'm currently on a relationship hiatus while I do the insane second half of my degree. In the future I intend to use a dating site when I actually have some disposable income and free-time ;-)

 

[HardkorSB]

As a matter of fact, I've got a date tomorrow with a girl I've been talking to through a dating site.

I work 6 days a week and don't get weekends off so it's hard to go anywhere and meet women.
Also, most women I've met in clubs turned out to be one night stands. Not that I've got anything against one night stands but when the fun is over, you're still single and I'm a bit tired of being single.

 

[Brandon237]

Dating sites... people use those?
Living in Third-world-topia (replace topia with hell), the chances of finding a safe looking person seem quite slim. So here they are hardly even a thing.

Besides, I started going out with my girlfriend at 15, so I have not urgently needed any such things. I was only forever alone for a shortish time in primary school, before I had any interest in a romantic relationship. I am just lucky I guess

 

[OmniscientOstrich]

I haven't, although my current attitude to relationships is essentially that I can take it or leave it, so I'm not really that bothered. Definately worth looking into when I am more bothered as I'm not really the outgoing type and it makes the interaction side of things a lot easier, even if the concept of advertising myself makes me want to jam a corkscrew in my retinas. But for the time being my lack of companionship is really the least of my fucking problems, I really ought to sort out my dishevelled life into some modicum of stability before focusing on that kind of thing.

 

[Xhoyl]

You should have had an option for "no, but I've considered it." Anyway, that's my answer. While I have yet to use one, as an extremely introverted and awkward guy, it may very well be my only option. Especially since it wouldn't work at all unless she was a gamer girl, because I am a huge, huge gamer, and having a girl tell me how pointless and wasteful games are would not exactly be a healthy relationship. It would also help if she's artsy, because I'm a writer, and being able to talk about art is very important to me.

Side Note: Love the Noel avatar. Legend of Legaia is one of my favorite games.

 

[DevilWithaHalo]

I live in one the strangest (if not the capital) cities in the US. As such, the dating world is filled with various interesting and scary creatures (myself included). The last time I became single, I decided to give all of them a try for grins and it was an interesting experience. Now I only occasionally hop on one from time to time because it seems to produce the most results. But results can be good and/or bad, so I have gained many an interesting and entertaining story out of my experiences.

The primary difference I find is simply volume. You can interact with more people at a greater pace. The statistical values associated with dating don't seem to change; so you have the same chance of meeting a genuine person or a psycho. They just seem skewed because of the shear numbers you encounter.

As BloatedGuppy aptly put; it's merely a tool. Given my schedule, it assists when I simply don't have the time or patience to 'suit up' and get boots on the ground.

 

[Phasmal]

I've never needed to use a dating site. That's not bragging, by the way.

I'm a fairly social person and I generally don't have problems talking to men. I've been in two long term relationships (currently still involved in one) and I've been able to have fun when I was single.

I don't think I'd be able to use dating sites, I love the feeling you get when you meet and talk to someone you could have interest in for the first time. It's the best. It also seems as though it would be less mechanical than the 'you have similar interests with this person and this site deems you compatible, go flirt' formula.

Pretty much this.
I did meet my boyfriend online, but on WoW, so I wouldn't call that a dating site. XD
If I did ever find myself needing to date, I would probably just hang out in game shops (I'm too nerdy to date normal people, I need nerds. Besides, nerds are sexy).

 

[Don Savik]

Simple enough question . Do you go on dating sites and has it worked for you?

Personally i did go to dating sites when i was single because i am a very shy person and a little asocial.

I am probably the exception to the rule. I do use dating sites, but I really hold contempt for them, which is weird because I am very shy and asocial, which I thought would benefit me in some way. To date, dating sites don't work because all the women I read about don't match my criteria (I think I'm just a dick), or I don't match theirs, and all the dating around my hometown is slim pickings (Do I date High School Girls? Girls who drink at the bar and wouldn't be ideal in any dating scenario? Girls that have dated everybody else? Take your pick).

I would have to date out of town, but then I get judgmental of them and most of all, myself, judging how Women will look at me before I've even had a chance to speak to them.

To answer your questions, I do use dating sites, but I haven't had success with them, due only to my inability to pursue any women.

As a man who has never had a lady-friend, the similarities in your post is a crippling realization of how bad my life sucks :C

 

[Don Savik]

Simple enough question . Do you go on dating sites and has it worked for you?

Personally i did go to dating sites when i was single because i am a very shy person and a little asocial.

I am probably the exception to the rule. I do use dating sites, but I really hold contempt for them, which is weird because I am very shy and asocial, which I thought would benefit me in some way. To date, dating sites don't work because all the women I read about don't match my criteria (I think I'm just a dick), or I don't match theirs, and all the dating around my hometown is slim pickings (Do I date High School Girls? Girls who drink at the bar and wouldn't be ideal in any dating scenario? Girls that have dated everybody else? Take your pick).

I would have to date out of town, but then I get judgmental of them and most of all, myself, judging how Women will look at me before I've even had a chance to speak to them.

To answer your questions, I do use dating sites, but I haven't had success with them, due only to my inability to pursue any women.

As a man who has never had a lady-friend, the similarities in your post is a crippling realization of how bad my life sucks :C

 

[Don Savik]

Simple enough question . Do you go on dating sites and has it worked for you?

Personally i did go to dating sites when i was single because i am a very shy person and a little asocial.

I am probably the exception to the rule. I do use dating sites, but I really hold contempt for them, which is weird because I am very shy and asocial, which I thought would benefit me in some way. To date, dating sites don't work because all the women I read about don't match my criteria (I think I'm just a dick), or I don't match theirs, and all the dating around my hometown is slim pickings (Do I date High School Girls? Girls who drink at the bar and wouldn't be ideal in any dating scenario? Girls that have dated everybody else? Take your pick).

I would have to date out of town, but then I get judgmental of them and most of all, myself, judging how Women will look at me before I've even had a chance to speak to them.

To answer your questions, I do use dating sites, but I haven't had success with them, due only to my inability to pursue any women.

As a man who has never had a lady-friend, the similarities in your post is a crippling realization of how bad my life sucks :C

 

[FamoFunk]

I've never used them, and I'm currently in a relationship.

But I do think they're a great idea and are very successful. I'm all for them.

 

[Mathak]

Just once. Coincidentally, I'm also getting married this June.

 

[Kae]

NOPE, because of this

I don't meet people with the intent of dating them. I'd know someone then want to date them later. Order is all wrong for me in using a dating site. I have no desire to date those random people. The desire to date someone comes through knowing someone and deciding I like them in that way for me.

As he said the appeal of dating a person comes after you've met her and decide you like her, I'm pretty sure it works for some people, but as Mortai said the order of the events is just wrong for me and therefore I won't do it.

 

[Odbarc]

I tried it once. Nothing came of it. Plenty of unhealthy fat chicks with no intelligence or personality.