Poll: Do you have to love someone to call them your boyfriend/girlfriend?

[PureChaos]

i was talking to someone and she said she has met someone 2 or 3 times (they met on an internet dating site) and are meeting next on Saturday evening for a meal. though that would be a Valentine's meal, they are not having a romantic 'couple' meal, they are just going for a meal together. she asked me if he was her boyfriend so i asked her if she loved him. she said 'no' so i said he couldn't be her boyfriend as she didn't love him and (as far as i know) he doesn't love her, but she said you don't have to love someone to for them to be your boyfriend/girlfriend.
who do you think is righr? can you be a couple but not love each other or do you have to love someone to be able to be able to call them your boyfriend/girlfriend?

EDIT: poll fixed. laptop a bit sucky :/

 

[EMFCRACKSHOT]

you don't need to love them, you just need to be in a relationship with them. If you had to love them, then there would be a lot less people with boyfriends and girlfriends

 

[Julianking93]

Not really.

If you don't love them, I'd say they're just hanging out together or just use the term "dating"

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

You only have one option on your poll...

Anyway, no, I don't think you have to love someone to call them your bf/gf, but that's beause I think love is a very strong word, that should only be used for couples utterly devoted to each other. Someone in your friend's position, I would say it's fine to use boyfriend as a description.

 

[Daniel Cygnus]

Personally, once you get to know the person, I don't see the point of being in a relationship unless you love the person.

Also, your poll doesn't make any sense at all.

 

[TheNumber1Zero]

Not really, but it cannie hurt.
unless the feeling isn't shared, then it can hurt, or so I would expect.
Save love for the more serious stuff.

 

[Thwarted]

Considering love is something that builds up over time as you get to know and trust someone, never being in a relationship with someone you dont love would make relationships impossible to start. Well, inless you are still young an naive enough to belive in love at first sight or some such crap.

 

[Generator]

I don't think so. If that were true, I doubt many people could call each other boyfriend and girlfriend. Besides, it's kind of just a useless term; it doesn't really mean much, so if someone says that they have a boy/girlfriend, then they do, at least in my eyes.

 

[CuddlyCombine]

Love is something very few people will feel until they're 25 or older. Granted, we all have a different definition for love, and we all age differently, but humans tend not to mature until they've crossed that bridge.

As for whether you need to love someone to date them; no.

 

[tempest87]

guess you haven't been in many relationships chaos?

you don't need to be in love to call someone your girlfriend or boyfriend. i think it is more dependant on how often you see each other and under what context. e.g. just meeting for sex = friend with benefits or fk buddy, however going on dates, catching up and going out together with friends = boyfriend/ girlfriend. theres alot more factors to consider, but thats probably the gist of it.

angjn is dead right, anyone who says going out with someone is pointless unless you're in love probably doesn't know much about love, because "love at first sight" is almost non-existant. You need to get to know someone properly and that takes time and experience.

 

[Outright Villainy]

No. You can love someone after you start dating for one thing. In fact, if you said you loved someone before you got to know them properly, I've got news for you buddy, that ain't love.

 

[JupiterBase]

Nope, being BF/GF means you like each other to date exclusivly.

 

[aPod]

Nope... maybe you arent looking for love and jsut a good time but you're still technically seeing each other.

 

[Pimppeter2]

Hells no

You don't have to love someone to date them. I would be a lonley cowboy with a full tank if that was the case

 

[Crimsane]

Nope. Is just a relationship one step higher on the commitment chain than "fuck buddy". Love helps, but it's not required.

 

[Cheery Lunatic]

If love was needed to say you have a girlfriend/boyfriend, the number of official relationships in the world would be halved.

So no love isn't required.

 

[Loop Stricken]

Personally, I would hope so. But then, I still like the archaic terms such as courting.

 

[zen5887]

Noooo

Love is something that takes time for it to happen, you can't just say you're in love. Being someones boyfriend however takes a few dates.

I think this is something 16 year olds need to realise.