Wow, so much oversimplification.
If you don't have equality, you don't have freedom for all. Someone will lose their freedom in some way, otherwise you have equality.
If you don't have freedom... equality is still possible.
In other words, you can have both, but you can't have freedom alone.
As for "Pure equality is communism". Not it isn't. Not at all. Communism is effectively state control as a means of applying equality, which in turn, did not create equality.
As for "Look at affirmative action". Affirmative action is an investment in future equality, not the application of equality. It specifically pushes the balance in an unequal fashion in order to break cycles of poverty, and lack of education.
You have no money, your kids go to crap schools, they have no money, their kids go to crap schools, etc.
Yes, exceptions exist. No, they are not the norm. No, the slim possibility of success does not in any way justify ignoring the massive probability of failure when nothing is done.
Affirmative action is there to break that cycle to create equality in the future. It isn't there to be equality. So pointing at it and saying "this is what equality means" is as silly as looking at *any* investment as a loss just because your money has gone away the second you invest.