Let's get this out of the way really quickly. THIS IS AN OPINION. It is my opinion, so obviously I think it is right, but I am in possession of no facts and figures.Now then, onto the good part. I am also not speaking for all women, just the ones I know from personal experience. I don't claim to speak for everyone, but this is the combination of opinions of girls I've known my entire life.
As denizens of the Internet, I'm sure we have all seen our fair share of whining about girls. I, spending more than a fair bit of time on the internet, have seen far more whining about girls than I am comfortable with. It is in recent years, however, that I have noticed a disturbing shift in the specific complaints.
When I was but a wee lad, 15, 16 or so, I whined about girls more than I care to admit. I went to the internet to whine with people who agreed with me, and we complained about how we had done something wrong that girls didn't like. We looked at what 'we' could change about ourselves to make girls like us more, and while we never did figure it out, we blamed ourselves for not getting the girls.
Not so much anymore. Now that I'm a fully grown manly man in my twenties I come to the internet, not to complain about girls, but to complain about lots of other things. However, the complaints about girls are impossible to avoid and I found myself reading sob stories much like the ones I had posted. There was a change in the stories though, where instead of trying to figure out what we could do better, young boys were complaining about the girls themselves.
Instead of "What can I do to make her notice me?" it became "Why won't that ***** pay attention to me instead of that asshole boyfriend of hers?". Instead of trying to rise above the problem, people misdirected the problem and chose to blame the girls for falling in love with assholes. That's not fair to anyone. It's not fair to the guys the girls like, since quite a few of them aren't assholes, it's not fair to yourself, since it means you'll never try to improve and it's not fair to the girls themselves because they aren't attracted to assholes.
"But Panzer" you might ask, "then why aren't they dating guys like us?" The answer is simple.
Confidence.
One of the traits of internet guys like us is low self-confidence, while guys who are assholes tend to possess very high levels of confidence. It's unfortunate, but in my experience it's true, and girls notice. Even if it's in subtle things, body positioning, facial expressions, clothing, a man's confidence shines through loud and clear to women, and they're drawn to it. The reason they get the girl is the same reason most internet guys hate them, because they know that they can get the girl and act accordingly. Girls like guys who know what they want and go for it, which unfortunately doesn't describe most of us.
What do you think, am I right, am I wrong, am I a jackass? Let me know what you think.
Side Discussion: "Friendzone" The friend zone isn't a negative, it's just a term used to describe a platonic relationship with a girl you like. Guess what? It's normal and healthy to be friend zoned, as it lets you have friends without trying to sleep with them. The problem is when guys think that they are 'above' the friend zone and it's insulting to put them their. Do yourself and the rest of us a favor, if your train of thought goes along the lines of "Why am I being friend-zoned? I'm so much nicer and more attentive than her boyfriend, I would be better for her!" Then please, stop talking. The reason she friend zoned you, specifically, is because you have an over-inflated ego and are still lacking in the all-important self confidence to actually say something to the girl you care about.
Source: Two older sisters, three younger ones, the mother that raised me and the fact that 95% of friends I've had through my entire life are female.
EDIT: Another phrase that tends to denote the fact that you aren't the virtuous warrior, stuck in the friend zone unfairly, but are in fact an asshole who deludes themselves with self-aggrandizing tales of your date-ability is the phrase "Girls just don't like nice guys like me". This is wrong. I know this entire thing is opinion, but if your opinion is this, your opinion is wrong. In order to be less wrong, I suggest anyone who thinks like that to remove a word, leaving "girls don't like guys like me".
As denizens of the Internet, I'm sure we have all seen our fair share of whining about girls. I, spending more than a fair bit of time on the internet, have seen far more whining about girls than I am comfortable with. It is in recent years, however, that I have noticed a disturbing shift in the specific complaints.
When I was but a wee lad, 15, 16 or so, I whined about girls more than I care to admit. I went to the internet to whine with people who agreed with me, and we complained about how we had done something wrong that girls didn't like. We looked at what 'we' could change about ourselves to make girls like us more, and while we never did figure it out, we blamed ourselves for not getting the girls.
Not so much anymore. Now that I'm a fully grown manly man in my twenties I come to the internet, not to complain about girls, but to complain about lots of other things. However, the complaints about girls are impossible to avoid and I found myself reading sob stories much like the ones I had posted. There was a change in the stories though, where instead of trying to figure out what we could do better, young boys were complaining about the girls themselves.
Instead of "What can I do to make her notice me?" it became "Why won't that ***** pay attention to me instead of that asshole boyfriend of hers?". Instead of trying to rise above the problem, people misdirected the problem and chose to blame the girls for falling in love with assholes. That's not fair to anyone. It's not fair to the guys the girls like, since quite a few of them aren't assholes, it's not fair to yourself, since it means you'll never try to improve and it's not fair to the girls themselves because they aren't attracted to assholes.
"But Panzer" you might ask, "then why aren't they dating guys like us?" The answer is simple.
Confidence.
One of the traits of internet guys like us is low self-confidence, while guys who are assholes tend to possess very high levels of confidence. It's unfortunate, but in my experience it's true, and girls notice. Even if it's in subtle things, body positioning, facial expressions, clothing, a man's confidence shines through loud and clear to women, and they're drawn to it. The reason they get the girl is the same reason most internet guys hate them, because they know that they can get the girl and act accordingly. Girls like guys who know what they want and go for it, which unfortunately doesn't describe most of us.
What do you think, am I right, am I wrong, am I a jackass? Let me know what you think.
Side Discussion: "Friendzone" The friend zone isn't a negative, it's just a term used to describe a platonic relationship with a girl you like. Guess what? It's normal and healthy to be friend zoned, as it lets you have friends without trying to sleep with them. The problem is when guys think that they are 'above' the friend zone and it's insulting to put them their. Do yourself and the rest of us a favor, if your train of thought goes along the lines of "Why am I being friend-zoned? I'm so much nicer and more attentive than her boyfriend, I would be better for her!" Then please, stop talking. The reason she friend zoned you, specifically, is because you have an over-inflated ego and are still lacking in the all-important self confidence to actually say something to the girl you care about.
Source: Two older sisters, three younger ones, the mother that raised me and the fact that 95% of friends I've had through my entire life are female.
EDIT: Another phrase that tends to denote the fact that you aren't the virtuous warrior, stuck in the friend zone unfairly, but are in fact an asshole who deludes themselves with self-aggrandizing tales of your date-ability is the phrase "Girls just don't like nice guys like me". This is wrong. I know this entire thing is opinion, but if your opinion is this, your opinion is wrong. In order to be less wrong, I suggest anyone who thinks like that to remove a word, leaving "girls don't like guys like me".
