Poll: Help! friendship or love?

[Triforce_Guardian]

Ok...so this is going to sound pretty lame that i'm asking for advice over a gaming website, but i need help. I have a crush(or maybe what i'm feeling is more like love) on this girl I've known for a half a year now and i have confirmation from a friend that she loves me back. But I don't know if i should stay friends and have a long lasting relationship as friends, or risk it and become her boyfriend for a relationship that might not last very long. It pains me greatly to be so close to the one i love yet so far...and the only thing thats stopping me is the fear that i wont be able to make her happy...

if you were me... what would you do? would you choose friendship? or would you choose love?

 

[Catalyst6]

Dude, watch the triple posting. Jeeze.

Also, welcome to the world. You're never going to be sure, and she might just stab you in the back, but it happens. If you want to, go for it. If not, then don't. Simple as that. And frankly, the last line of the paragraph sounds like something out of LiveJournal. Get a grip and face reality.

 

[Catalyst6]

In short, get a hold of yourself

 

[Catalyst6]

Also, try not acting like an emo. That'll probably help.

 

[grimsprice]

Personally i'd choose friendship. Here's why...

1: You don't know for sure how you feel about her.
1 [sup]1/2[/sup]: You don't know for sure how she feels about you.
2: If you choose "love", then it "friend" will be out the window if either of you stop feeling for the other.
3: If you choose friendship and it turns out that you do love each other, it will still be there years later. Love does not evaporate. Like evaporates.
4: ALWAYS take things slow until you know for sure.
5: I would hate to sound condescending, but i doubt you love her. Just by your wording, i doubt that its love.

 

[Oilerfan92]

What reason you in the current relationship at this point ? Are you in a relationship for the sence of friendship, or do you do it because you feel deeper than that ? IF you feel that that is why you choose to be in a relationship then by all means do it. If you like her and she likes you then why not ? You like her, she likes you. What reason is there not to ?

But be carefull. Dont completely throw yourself towards one way. Because if she doesnt "catch you" youll fall on your ass. But at the same time, if your going to just be friends, be prepared to see her with other guys, many of which you'll think your better than. And itll bother you. Trust me, im in a similar situation, i like a girl, but i think she only looks at me as a friend, and when were together she'll occasionally talk about guys she likes and that and at the risk of soundy cocky or whatever, ill sit there wondering what these guys legitimately have over me, other than good looks, which ill admit im sorely lacking.

 

[sirkai007]

If you know she feels that way about you then you need to pull the trigger already. Schroedinger's Cat son.

 

[Jedoro]

It's better to regret something you did, than something you didn't do. Go for it, man.

 

[SnootyEnglishman]

Just go through with it man and stop the worrying. If she goes with you that's great, if not then you may feel bad but at least you will know that you've tried.

 

[cp.06]

You like her and she (most likely) likes you, right?

Okay... I'm failing to see the problem here. Dude, march to the nearest flower shop, get the biggest bunch of roses you can for that measly amount of small change you currently have snoozing in your pocket and then run to her house to confess your love.

Worse case scenario she says no, and all the other girls you know hear about what a sweet guy you are, and you're in!

Best case scenario (and the most likely one, also) you get the girl and she loves you for what a sweet guy you are, and you're in!

Trust me

 

[FallenJellyDoughnut]

Man up. Seriously, she likes you back and unless you're a crackhead with nothing to aspire to then you're probably fine.

Just ask her out. If it doesn't work out you can always be friends.

 

[Shimmyshake]

If you know she feels that way about you then you need to pull the trigger already. Schroedinger's Cat son.

Wait how exactly does that apply here? Is she trapped in a box?

 

[BonsaiK]

Ok...so this is going to sound pretty lame that i'm asking for advice over a gaming website, but i need help. I have a crush(or maybe what i'm feeling is more like love) on this girl I've known for a half a year now and i have confirmation from a friend that she loves me back. But I don't know if i should stay friends and have a long lasting relationship as friends, or risk it and become her boyfriend for a relationship that might not last very long. It pains me greatly to be so close to the one i love yet so far...and the only thing thats stopping me is the fear that i wont be able to make her happy...

if you were me... what would you do? would you choose friendship? or would you choose love?

Answered in the Relationship Problem thread, at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=43#7458463

 

[Oilerfan92]

To be honest though. IF you both like eachother. Just go ahead with it. If you wernt sure it be a gamble, but if you think you know. then do it.

 

[sirkai007]

If you know she feels that way about you then you need to pull the trigger already. Schroedinger's Cat son.

Wait how exactly does that apply here? Is she trapped in a box?