Poll: Inside the Male mind. A question to all Females. Issue 2

[ParadixVoid]

"Guys are stupid." This is somthing that we have all heard before from girls. This however is relating to the "Signals" that you send our way that we just don't pick up on. Ladys, we're blind and stupid apparently. But we just don't know what you would call a "Sign". We are pretty obvious when we think about it but you ladys say that you are too, we just don't get it. You will give a subtle brush against our knee that could be completly accidental but if you put our arm around us we're just friends. Help us out a little and tell us what the "Signs" are. Maybe we will finally get it, we just need a little bit of help.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Interesting question, what about the reverse? Do you ladies(who I am assuming will respond to this thread at some point) find guy signals to be easy to pick up on?

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

I'm posting here more to bump it than anything else, because I think this is an interesting topic. I know I misread signals all the time. A note to any girls reading this: I've never known a girl whose idea of "letting me off easy" didn't involve sending mixed signals. If a guy is chasing after you and you aren't interested, straight up tell him no, don't give him just enough hope that he keeps coming back. It will make it easier on both of you.

 

[artanis_neravar]

I'm posting here more to bump it than anything else, because I think this is an interesting topic. I know I misread signals all the time. A note to any girls reading this: I've never known a girl whose idea of "letting me off easy" didn't involve sending mixed signals. If a guy is chasing after you and you aren't interested, straight up tell him no, don't give him just enough hope that he keeps coming back. It will make it easier on both of you.

I have misread the signals a lot too, although more the signals of when a girl is interested in me, rather than when one isn't

 

[Gladiateher]

AHA! I knew it, there are no women on the internet.

 

[Irridium]

I'm posting here more to bump it than anything else, because I think this is an interesting topic. I know I misread signals all the time. A note to any girls reading this: I've never known a girl whose idea of "letting me off easy" didn't involve sending mixed signals. If a guy is chasing after you and you aren't interested, straight up tell him no, don't give him just enough hope that he keeps coming back. It will make it easier on both of you.

Indeed. I'm sure there are different signals for different girls(in which case how the hell are we supposed to know which is which?), but I'm sure there's some common ones that I, and lots of other men, are missing.

Right?

 

[Saelune]

Cause we're crazy. I have gotten mad at guys for not realizing I wanted them to do something or say something specific that I really gave no hint as to what the answer was. Hell, I even got upset at a guy who was just giving me compliments because of the one compliment he did not give me.

Personally, I think it helps for both men and women to realize they wont always understand the other, but must make the effort to try. But both sides should. But in the end, open and honest talking is generally the best way to understand. (Unfortunatly both sides tend to avoid that in some way)

 

[Saelune]

Interesting question, what about the reverse? Do you ladies(who I am assuming will respond to this thread at some point) find guy signals to be easy to pick up on?

Depends. The nicer guys are likely harder to tell, since they are too nice to be so blatant like the more...undisirable guys.

 

[lacktheknack]

I find it very unnerving when my female friends say "That chick was totally hitting on you! Why'd you brush her off?"

The problem is, I had no clue, and didn't mean to brush anyone off. :S

 

[Xisin]

Hmmm. My husband once told me that he was interested in me for a long time before we started dating. I didn't have a clue before he asked me on the first one. So, I guess I was just as clueless. I think though, that any person, no matter what gender, should be able to speak their mind. Misreading "signals" is not my burden, in my opinion. My life is not a giant game of charades.

So to answer your question, all my signals would be of friendship because I would plainly let you know if I wanted something more. And there aren't really any "sighs." Friendship and love are almost exactly the same.

Just don't make any assumptions and you should be just fine.

 

[Chemical Alia]

I don't pick up on "signals", nor do I intentionally send them. I'm not used to guys expressing interest to me, and in the few cases I know that they did, it was because a friend told me afterward. so it tends not to cross my mind. So I'm afraid I'm not much help, just keep in mind not all women are empathetic people full of subtle expression.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Interesting question, what about the reverse? Do you ladies(who I am assuming will respond to this thread at some point) find guy signals to be easy to pick up on?

Depends. The nicer guys are likely harder to tell, since they are too nice to be so blatant like the more...undisirable guys.

I've been told that I flirt to much, but in reality it's just who i am, I grew up with an older brother so they way I tend to show affection, whether it be friendship or more, is to pick on someone. None of that pulling a girls hair or knocking things out of their hands crap, just good natured teasing. Some people see to much in it though.

 

[Saelune]

Interesting question, what about the reverse? Do you ladies(who I am assuming will respond to this thread at some point) find guy signals to be easy to pick up on?

Depends. The nicer guys are likely harder to tell, since they are too nice to be so blatant like the more...undisirable guys.

I've been told that I flirt to much, but in reality it's just who i am, I grew up with an older brother so they way I tend to show affection, whether it be friendship or more, is to pick on someone. None of that pulling a girls hair or knocking things out of their hands crap, just good natured teasing. Some people see to much in it though.

Well, Im refering more to guys who do cheesy pick up lines or are just vulgar.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Interesting question, what about the reverse? Do you ladies(who I am assuming will respond to this thread at some point) find guy signals to be easy to pick up on?

Depends. The nicer guys are likely harder to tell, since they are too nice to be so blatant like the more...undisirable guys.

I've been told that I flirt to much, but in reality it's just who i am, I grew up with an older brother so they way I tend to show affection, whether it be friendship or more, is to pick on someone. None of that pulling a girls hair or knocking things out of their hands crap, just good natured teasing. Some people see to much in it though.

Well, Im refering more to guys who do cheesy pick up lines or are just vulgar.

I know I originally planned to go somewhere else with my response but TV distracted me and I lost my train of thought so I went with that

 

[Vault101]

ehhhh Im afraid I cant really comend on this...lack of experience

and to be honest this whole dating thing seems like a stupid game I dont want to play

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Depends. The nicer guys are likely harder to tell, since they are too nice to be so blatant like the more...undisirable guys.

I'm a nice guy, if a bit of a jerk on occasion (I'm kind hearted about it, and it really doesn't come out all that often) and flirt with just about everything female. It's calmed down a bit since my gf and I have been together, but I'm just kind of a natural flirt. So much so that my best female friend jokes that I'm a man whore, which is horribly ironic considering my poor luck with women. It's not that they don't pick up on the signals, it's just that I go too far into the "friend" thing for them to want to date.

Now, my flirting isn't something like, "Do you have a bandaid, because I scraped my knee falling for you." Although I have been accused once or twice of coming off as corny, which I was arguing with my best female friend with the other day that my line wasn't corny. I simply slip in a compliment here and there, and make sure that they know that I'm available (if I'm single).

It's horrible being a natural flirt. It's gotten me into trouble several times. It's also hard to describe, but I've been told that I do it all the time.

 

[Saelune]

Depends. The nicer guys are likely harder to tell, since they are too nice to be so blatant like the more...undisirable guys.

I'm a nice guy, if a bit of a jerk on occasion (I'm kind hearted about it, and it really doesn't come out all that often) and flirt with just about everything female. It's calmed down a bit since my gf and I have been together, but I'm just kind of a natural flirt. So much so that my best female friend jokes that I'm a man whore, which is horribly ironic considering my poor luck with women. It's not that they don't pick up on the signals, it's just that I go too far into the "friend" thing for them to want to date.

Now, my flirting isn't something like, "Do you have a bandaid, because I scraped my knee falling for you." Although I have been accused once or twice of coming off as corny, which I was arguing with my best female friend with the other day that my line wasn't corny. I simply slip in a compliment here and there, and make sure that they know that I'm available (if I'm single).

It's horrible being a natural flirt. It's gotten me into trouble several times. It's also hard to describe, but I've been told that I do it all the time.

I have a male friend who does that too. My other friend and I once mocked him over messeges cause he was hitting on his (the other friend) girlfriend.

Though I guess a coryn line could always be rebounded in some positive way. I think if a guy made some corny nerd pick up line to me and seemed nice, Id probably go with it.

 

[Johnnyallstar]

]Well, Im refering more to guys who do cheesy pick up lines or are just vulgar.

I use this line as a joke with my female friends, but I ask you if it falls under either category.

Excuse me, but would you like to go on a lovely promenade to my humble abode for some sexual intercourse?


Back to the topic! I catch a lot of the signals girls give, because my silly kind of ADD is attempting to notice everything. There is usually a lot of body language, and eye movements, and some key phrases to watch out for, but each girl is unique and tells them all differently. I think the most I've ever been thrown is when a girl I was friends with just out of the blue asked me "Do you want to *explicative* me?" It was so blunt and straightforward that it threw me for the loop.

There are a ton of people who think I'm completely oblivious to girls that like me, but I'll be honest, if I'm not interested in the girl, I'll act totally oblivious to their hints. I'll flirt, maybe, but that's the extent of it, just fun banter. I'm not extremely picky, but there are a few mandatory requirements that if they aren't met, I won't respond. In high school, there was a surprising number of people who thought I was gay simply because I didn't chase every girl that batted their eyes at me, until, that is, I found someone I wanted to chase.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Though I guess a coryn line could always be rebounded in some positive way. I think if a guy made some corny nerd pick up line to me and seemed nice, Id probably go with it.

I was hitting on my best female friend a few years back (hence why we were arguing about it) and we had gone outside to get some fresh air since we had been dancing. She looked up and said, "Where are all the stars?" I look up and said, "They're lost in your eyes."

She laughed at me and pretended to puke. She said it was just too corny. In hindsight, it probably was, but I didn't think it was too bad. >.>

 

[Saelune]

]Well, Im refering more to guys who do cheesy pick up lines or are just vulgar.

I use this line as a joke with my female friends, but I ask you if it falls under either category.

Excuse me, but would you like to go on a lovely promenade to my humble abode for some sexual intercourse?


Back to the topic! I catch a lot of the signals girls give, because my silly kind of ADD is attempting to notice everything. There is usually a lot of body language, and eye movements, and some key phrases to watch out for, but each girl is unique and tells them all differently. I think the most I've ever been thrown is when a girl I was friends with just out of the blue asked me "Do you want to *explicative* me?" It was so blunt and straightforward that it threw me for the loop.

There are a ton of people who think I'm completely oblivious to girls that like me, but I'll be honest, if I'm not interested in the girl, I'll act totally oblivious to their hints. I'll flirt, maybe, but that's the extent of it, just fun banter. I'm not extremely picky, but there are a few mandatory requirements that if they aren't met, I won't respond. In high school, there was a surprising number of people who thought I was gay simply because I didn't chase every girl that batted their eyes at me, until, that is, I found someone I wanted to chase.

I would laugh, and probably not take it so seriously, though if you were a stranger, then I might think that you atleast want to make me laugh for some reason.