Poll: Marriage in the 21st century?

[floyd_echo]

One of my best friends and his girlfriend recently told me that they are planning to get engaged and marry. I've known them both for a long time and there is no doubt that they love each other but there are a few things that just don't sit right with me. Firstly they are only 19 years old, neither of them are religious and they are both children of failed marriages. In an age where divorce rates are sky high does it really make sense to risk destroying a perfectly healthy relationship?

 

[neonsword13-ops]

I can say one thing.

The marriage won't last long, ESPECIALLY if they are only 19. That's just bad waiting to happen. My parents got married at 25, didn't work out well for me.

My parents divorced right as I started kindergarten So I guess I have some bad experince.

 

[Wheeleybird]

Personally I myself do not see the point of marriage, if two people love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together then great! Getting married would in no way intensify an already perfect relationship in my mind, and if the couple wanted to they could have a faux wedding for all the prezzies and party.

 

[Stoike]

Marriage is pointless, i mean sure if you're religous then go nuts and if only a handful of people want it then the supply will still be there. Nothing else to do about it really

 

[Thamous]

If it is a "perfectly healthy relationship" then marriage wouldn't destroy it. Marriage has never destroyed a relationship, people simply think their relationships are perfect when they are 19 and go ahead and get married. Then when things fall apart they blame marriage when it had absolutely nothing to do with it. Should they get married though? Probably not. Not because marriage would hurt them in anyway but because it is difficult to tell if a relationship is truly meant to last when people are only 19.

 

[ScrubberDucky]

The aforementioned problem is just bad relationship building. Thousands of people getting married far too soon doesn't make marriage inherently bad. It's been around forever and even to the nonreligious couples, it's still a big step in a relationship's progression. A lot of happy, permanent couples see marriage as the next step, a fourth base so to speak.

So yes, I do believe it's viable. I just think a lot of people hurry too much or make regrettable decisions.