Poll: My friends leeching her mum dry

[LightningBanks]

Good early morning escapers, Im coming to you for help to day because somethings been playing on my mind, and it ruined my groove in super meat boy.

I was talking to one of my best friends today about the classic arguement of money isnt everything etc etc, which lead to her telling me about how hard her mom works. Now, I already knew this, but the way she put it tonight shown that her mum isnt happy because of money woes.

Now, I get filled with rage. Why you ask? Because this girl is spoilt to the core, Im talking xbox 360, kinect, 40 inch tv and sony vaio laptop for christmas alone, she recently sold her iphone 4 of a week and got her mum to get the 4s, and she wants an ipad and a £300 party for her birthday, and complained to me for ages when she couldnt get it. I nearly went beserk at her, but I held my tongue for the sake of our friendship (and it is her birthday today)

Now, I may have painted her like a spoilt brat, and to be fair, she was. She would want all the brands, and sit and ***** about people who didnt have them, as well as all the other things. But ever since she met me and her friends, shes been almost like an angel. Shes changed so much, she even makes me feel like a ***** when I have my odd moan about something.

The only things that havent changed are linked, the brand wanting and the treatment of her mum. Dont get me wrong, her and her mum have a good bond, but when it comes to wanting things she still gets it all. Now Im not saying its entirely her fault, if she was raised that way. But the arguements she had over not getting stuff like limo's for her birthday, combined with her obvious knowledge of her mums worries, made me very annoyed indeed.

So I have one question escapists, do I tell her whats on my mind?

Ive been thinking about trying to make a light suggestion to just not take the ipad, as it is another pointless thing shes getting just for the sake of it, and let her mum go out and enjoy herself for once, especially since shes had a very hard time raising her so she could have an almost perfect life. But I dont want her to take it the wrong way.

Thanks for reading, and Any help would be appreaciated

 

[ultrachicken]

If she brings up this topic in conversation, go ahead and share your thoughts, just don't get aggressive or defensive. Otherwise, hold your tongue, because I guarantee she won't listen to you if you start the discussion yourself.

 

[Genericjim101]

Seems to me she sees it as normal, wait until she brings it up again then try and explain why you're concerned. However commenting on someone else's family is always tricky even if the 3rd person view allows you to see it for what it is.

 

[Rin Little]

Wait until she mentions something again. I wouldn't bring it up unnecessarily. Honestly in my opinion (and this is just me cuz I'm blunt as hell) I would tell her straight up that she's acting like a spoiled brat and not even listen to her when she keeps whining about not getting expensive presents.

 

[aretelio]

It sucks, but I say don't get involved.

 

[deletethisone]

Perhaps it's best to keep your thoughts to yourself. It's apparent she's incredibly spoilt, and I don't think telling her straight out is going to change things. Well, it might make her a bit less kind towards you, or a bit more reluctant to complain, but you never know.

 

[LightningBanks]

It sucks, but I say don't get involved.

This. If there's no child abuse then how a mother raises their kid is none of your business.

Its only because of the way she seemed worried for her mum, but blind to how much she actually just gets given

 

[LightningBanks]

If she brings up this topic in conversation, go ahead and share your thoughts, just don't get aggressive or defensive. Otherwise, hold your tongue, because I guarantee she won't listen to you if you start the discussion yourself.

Seems to me she sees it as normal, wait until she brings it up again then try and explain why you're concerned. However commenting on someone else's family is always tricky even if the 3rd person view allows you to see it for what it is.

This is probably the action, if shes a good a friend as I think she is, she wont take offense =)

 

[LightningBanks]

Perhaps it's best to keep your thoughts to yourself. It's apparent she's incredibly spoilt, and I don't think telling her straight out is going to change things. Well, it might make her a bit less kind towards you, or a bit more reluctant to complain, but you never know.

Yeah, I have a feeling she would defend her lifestyle like a hawk, people are only caring while it doesent really affect them

 

[Zantos]

It just seems to be a bad case of spoiled brat syndrome, I wouldn't go all out on her. More subtle than that, just little hints about how she already gets more than she needs and how you and your friends do fine without that amount of stuff. Open confrontation is a last resort tactic for friends, and should be avoided until absolutely necessary.