Poll: Pleasure in sex ed

[Jonluw]

Hiya escapists.

I was reading a newspaper article a little while ago, and the lady who wrote it referenced what had apparently been a recent debate: Whether to teach 'how to do it right' in sex education. In other words, where and how to touch in order to be a good sexual partner. The author of the article focused particularly on stimulating the clitoris.

I didn't catch this debate myself, nor do I know how big a deal it was, so I'll ask you:
Do you think sexual pleasure and perfomance should be a part of the sex-ed curriculum?

Spoiler: Personal opinion stuff. Spoilered for neatness

Personally, I don't think it's necessary. I wouldn't really have anything against it, but I think how well the students perform in the bedroom is outside of the school's domain.
Besides, in a worst case scenario would we risk standardizing sex? No experimentation or individuality, just following the instructions we were given at school?

In any case, I figure it could be useful if the teacher pointed at a chart and said "Here's the clitoris. Pay attention to it." "And here's the glans. Try not to bite it. You know, unless he's into that kind of stuff..."
So they have a basic understanding of what they're doing at least.

 

[Gigaguy64]

Umm not sure myself.
Personally i don't think it would be appropriate.
Sex Ed is about how Sex works, its Dangers, and how to protect yourself.

If you wanna know how to please your partner, ask your Dad or Mom.
Or better yet, ask your partner.

 

[Mechanix]

No, because that's just weird. The goal of sex ed is to teach kids about how to safely have sex, not how to give your date an orgasm. Just figure it out like the rest of us.

 

[Giantpanda602]

No. I don't want a child of mine being told by somebody I don't know how to be good at sex.

 

[Lyri]

Hiya escapists.

I was reading a newspaper article a little while ago, and the lady who wrote it referenced what had apparently been a recent debate: Whether to teach 'how to do it right' in sex education. In other words, where and how to touch in order to be a good sexual partner. The author of the article focused particularly on stimulating the clitoris.

I didn't catch this debate myself, nor do I know how big a deal it was, so I'll ask you:
Do you think sexual pleasure and perfomance should be a part of the sex-ed curriculum?

Spoiler: Personal opinion stuff. Spoilered for neatness

Personally, I don't think it's necessary. I wouldn't really have anything against it, but I think how well the students perform in the bedroom is outside of the school's domain.
Besides, in a worst case scenario would we risk standardizing sex? No experimentation or individuality, just following the instructions we were given at school?

In any case, I figure it could be useful if the teacher pointed at a chart and said "Here's the clitoris. Pay attention to it." "And here's the glans. Try not to bite it. You know, unless he's into that kind of stuff..."
So they have a basic understanding of what they're doing at least.

No.

Sex Ed is how to practice safe sex and how to avoid the dangers that sexual contact can have. It's not supposed to be a Karma Sutra lesson.

 

[Byere]

Ok, it has to be said...

Upon reading your title, the first thing that came to mind was "Giving or getting?"

On topic, Sex-ed is supposed to educate people on the uses on protection and the basics of what to do and general anatomy for each gender, pointing out common places that invoke stimulation.
It's not supposed to be a case of "You must do it this way!" because everyone learns differently and everyone is stimulated in a different manner. Some may be stimulated by oral sex, some by vaginal, some by anal. Some might not be stimulated by any of those. Some might prefer it sensually and with extended periods of foreplay, some might prefer it rough and straight up.
There's no way of standardising sex as there is no standard and common way to do it that appeals to everyone.

 

[Dogstile]

Nah, sex ed was never about how to make your partner enjoy it, its about the dangers and how to prevent them. Raising awareness of the bad side really.

Pleasure? Can you imagine how awkward that class would be for everyone in the room. Aside from the 4 or 5 of us in my class who were comfortable with sex in the first place, everyone else was uncomfortable just looking at condoms in a classroom.

Man, i'm 18 and I sat through sex ed in college. People were still awkward about it. Its just not really worth it, dangers, bish, bash, boom, get out

 

[Extraintrovert]

Probably not. Sexual pleasure, though there are certainly commonalities and trends, are largely dependant on the individual, and can't really be taught with anything other than practical experimentation (as Cracked says, the first time will always be shit, but the practice is fun). Attempting to teach it will only create more problems than it could possibly solve.

 

[Irridium]

Hehe, now I remember the scene from Jay and Silent Bob. You know, the "Clit Commander" bit. Oh man, hilarious.

But more seriously, I'd say no. Because everyone has different buttons you must press, and what might be FUCKING AMAZING for one could be hilariously ineffective for another.

 

[Woodsey]

If you wanna know how to please your partner, ask your Dad or Mom.

What the fuck is wrong with you?! "Mum and Dad" are the last people you ask for bloody sex tips! xD

OT: Well if you listen to most conservatives, that's what they think they're doing already for kids in first school (/facepalm).

I dunno, beyond saying "rubbing the clit is pleasurable for the girl" I don't think you'd really need to go much further into it. Especially since beyond that you're getting into personal preference.

 

[Alon Shechter]

This reminds me of something...

 

[SirDoom]

No.

Sex Ed is how to practice safe sex and how to avoid the dangers that sexual contact can have. It's not supposed to be a Karma Sutra lesson.

Have you seen current sex ed classes? It's not about dangers and safety precautions. It's about "If you so much as even glance at an unexposed breast out of the corner of your eye, you will DIE," followed by some rant about how condoms are completely 100% unreliable in all cases, and so on.

 

[Communist partisan]

Yeah, why the hell not?

 

[funguy2121]

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First, I don't think it will ever, ever happen in the US. And some of the reasons are warranted. See below.

Second, I think it's a monumentally bad idea anyway. I don't want to sit in a classroom with 33 other people, knowing that roughly 15 of those dicks are hard and ready to go. This is not a comfortable scenario for me, so any presentation of "how to get her/him off" is probably wildly inappropriate for the classroom.

It's also totally ineffective. I'm reminded of these rock'n'roll camps that are now trendy. Tweens basically going to school to learn how to be Kurt Cobain or John Frusciante. Does no one see the flaws in this premise?

The "how to please your lovah" aspect of sex is art, and it's the kind that should not and cannot be taught in a classroom. Sure, you can learn chords, accidentals and grace notes in a classroom. You may even, theoretically, be able to teach how to give a proper drool job. But you can't really teach the fundamentals of learning someone else's body and mind. Even if the class featured "labs" that would only be porno sex, as the teacher and other students would be present. It wouldn't be like actual sex, which for the overwhelming majority of us involves 2 lovers, a darkened room and privacy.

This is a weird friggin' conversation.

 

[Dys]

Ok, it has to be said...

Upon reading your title, the first thing that came to mind was "Giving or getting?"

On topic, Sex-ed is supposed to educate people on the uses on protection and the basics of what to do and general anatomy for each gender, pointing out common places that invoke stimulation.
It's not supposed to be a case of "You must do it this way!" because everyone learns differently and everyone is stimulated in a different manner. Some may be stimulated by oral sex, some by vaginal, some by anal. Some might not be stimulated by any of those. Some might prefer it sensually and with extended periods of foreplay, some might prefer it rough and straight up.
There's no way of standardising sex as there is no standard and common way to do it that appeals to everyone.

This more or less summarizes what I think. It's worth learning the anatomy and generally mentioning that stimulating things like the clitoris, g spot, deep spot etc can lead to orgasm, though an in depth discussion as to specific techniques or what some people like is going a little too far.

 

[magicmonkeybars]

If you wanna know how to please your partner, ask your Dad or Mom.

Ehhh no, if you want to please your partner ASK YOUR PARTNER.

OT:
People are all different and don't always like the same things, it would be pointless to teach how to please someone sexually because of this difference.
Having said that it might be wise to introduce people to certain areas and body parts just to point them in the "right" direction.
In the end it's all an exploration of our own and the others sexuality.

 

[DrunkWithPower]

That's what the internet and Dr. Ruth is for. Why risk getting teachers fired when they are going to find out via professional sex stars and sexologists?

 

[Free Thinker]

How about no? Sex Ed is awkward and near-pointless enough. Let's not embarrass the teachers and students anymore than need be. Last thing we need is a sweaty, overweight dude teaching how to pleasure a woman, and the same goes for the female version of sex ed.

 

[SinisterGehe]

Sure, if people who do not want to hear about this stuff can skip the class and if there is a teacher who wants to teach it. No one should be forced/mandated to talk about sex. Since I personally don't care for sex, sex-ed or other things have to with it.
Long as it is not mandatory, sure... We teach religion in schools alrady and that supposed to be personal also...

 

[SckizoBoy]

If you wanna know how to please your partner, ask your Dad or Mom.

Wait, what?! Here I thought all parents knew that the best way to turn their teenaged kids off sex was to sit them down and have a two hour free, frank and tremendously banal conversation about it. *shrug*

OT: Yes, but only to the extent that 'here are the erogenous zones of the opposite sex, enjoy', otherwise lessons would be even more 'pure awkward' than they already appear to be. Besides, sex-ed is fundamentally about sexual health (or at least it should be).