Poll: Public displays of affection

[kurokotetsu]

Well, not long back there was a thread discussing that most people were fine with homosexual public displays of affection in the forum. Great. But what strikes me as odd is that it often come with an addendum of "but i don't like public displays of affection of any kind beyond a certain level" (that level usually being French kissing each other in public) and it strikes em as odd.

I know it is a cultural thing. In Mexico a couple kissing in public (at least an heterosexual couple, we are sadly retrograde in gay rights) is completely normal and uneventful. People French kiss in the tube, in the street, in malls, in cinema, in the stairs, basically everywhere and it isn't considered neither rude nor anything else more than "they like/love/lust for each other" and go on with their lifes. That is even with a very strong Catholic view of life. Embracing and even slight touching is completely normal too. So that visceral reaction that is "foreplay", "nearly sex" or "disgusting" is completely alien to me. It is just that, a kiss, touching, it is not with you or anyone else, people are expressing their love, attraction or whatever where they are, why is it bad? I've been a guide for foreigners and they are all startled at how easygoing the Mexicans are with that.

Disclosure: I don't mind and do public displays of affection. In the center of one of the largest cities in the world I shared a drink of water mouth to mouth and touch her in several places even in public transportation, because I love her and if I wnat ehr I kiss her as I like where ever we are.

So, what are your thoughts on public displays of affections? Do you do them? Do you mind them? Are you actively repulsed by them (beyond a certain point)? And why? What drives that reaction of acceptance or disgust? Cultural? Personal?

 

[Colour Scientist]

It depends on my mood.

Sometimes I think it's lovely and other times I just want to shove the people involved out of my way.

Some people can just be obnoxious though, if I can see your tongue or you're getting a good grope, yeah that makes me feel a little uncomfortable. I don't think it's disgusting, I just don't particularly want to look at it.

Actually, the one thing that does gross me out is when people are making out in public and you can hear it. There's nothing worse than being forced to listen to sloppy kissers. XD

Edit: Also, I can't really cast the first stone because I've been guilty of indulging in PDAs.

 

[DANEgerous]

I do them and I find people that find it shocking or odd to be rather strange but then again I have had sex in public so perhaps my bar is a touch high. Seriously if I was ever famous and has a sex tale leaked it was likely because I posted it to Twitter and it was not actually leaked at all.

 

[madwarper]

As I said in the last thread that brought up this subject, there's a big difference between small PDA's, such as hand holding or light kissing, and playing tonsil hockey and dry humping each other. The former is acceptable. The latter, not so much.

And, the genders or orientation of those in question is irrelevant.

 

[kurokotetsu]

I dislike seeing it. Mainly because everytime I see one I have to fight the urge to scream "JUST FUCK ALREADY."

What if they already fucked? Or if they just feel like kissing passionately and not fucking?

As I said in the last thread that brought up this subject, there's a big difference between small PDA's, such as hand holding or light kissing, and playing tonsil hockey and dry humping each other. The former is acceptable. The latter, not so much.

And, the genders or orientation of those in question is irrelevant.

Why is deep kissing or dy humping not acceptable? That would be part of the discussion value of the thread. Why is that the limit? Why isn't it higher? Lower? Why you personally have that limit?

 

[omega 616]

My opinion is the typical, "oh get a room already!".

If you're holding hands, give a peck on the lips or a hug, then we are cool but if you're blurring the line between public display of affection and foreplay, then fuck off!

To me, it's like watching a dog piss on a tree ... like the guy is saying "this is MY woman" and the woman is saying "back off bitches!", they probably aren't thinking about other people and want a quick snog but I don't want to watch a game of tonsil hockey.

 

[DANEgerous]

the genders or orientation of those in question is irrelevant.

to me Gender is an idea that needed to die off in the damned bronze age. It is just something we make so universal I do not understand it

 

[madwarper]

Why is deep kissing or dy humping not acceptable? That would be part of the discussion value of the thread. Why is that the limit? Why isn't it higher? Lower? Why you personally have that limit?

I suppose some people are prudish that way.

I mean, asking where the limit is is like asking where art ends and pornography begins. And, it's hard to describe intelligibly, but you know it when you see it.

 

[kurokotetsu]

I suppose some people are prudish that way.

I mean, asking where the limit is is like asking where art ends and pornography begins. And, it's hard to describe intelligibly, but you know it when you see it.

Well cultural differences are acceptable. But for me that line (both with art and porn) is very fuzzy and never know it at sight. Sometimes I change my mind of what is acceptable and not, depending on my mood. So that is why I wonder at such an strict level.

 

[Spanglish Guy]

I normally don't mind really. Of course if on a bus or something like that there is a couple maybe getting too intimate I may find that a bit odd but I never think too much of it anyway.

 

[Gordon_4_v1legacy]

Doesn't bother me, and anyone who tries to tell me that I can't kiss or hug my wife in public will be told to fuck off in short order.

 

[lechat]

there is a fine line between displays of affection and foreplay.
once i feel you cross that line you can go somewhere private.

 

[Thyunda]

but I don't want to watch a game of tonsil hockey.

....then don't?

 

[omega 616]

but I don't want to watch a game of tonsil hockey.

....then don't?

... I don't ...

You think I stand and stare like I'm at the cinema? I still know it is going on out the corner of my eye or whatever.

 

[kurokotetsu]

there is a fine line between displays of affection and foreplay.
once i feel you cross that line you can go somewhere private.

What is that line? Why go somewhere private? Does it bother you to see it? Do you think is wrong doing it?

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

Whatever, so long as things don't get too second-basey...