Poll: What do you look for in a partner?

[Vanitas likes Bubbles]

Seeing that I'm in that mood, I decided to make a thread about this. What do you look for in a romantic relationship? Take into consideration, Personality, appearance, how they present themselves and their attitude.

Personally I like mysterious and hardy girls that are pretty. Will I ever find this women? No-one knows....... To be continued.

Anyway, discuss, enjoy, and of coarse no flame wars.

Yes I'm doing this because I'm bored.

OMG, captcha saved me from posting this before it was ready, Captcha is a hero.

 

[DazZ.]

Like minded, who finds my jokes funny and makes me laugh. Someone I can be 100% myself around with them enjoying it and joining in with whatever I'm saying whether it be incredibly dark observations, mind numbingly stupid jokes or all the shades in between.

Obviously it's beauty that's going to attract me to someone, and they do have to be gorgeous to me, but even the hottest person would get fucking annoying to be around when you're doing day to day things together every day if they have no personality to keep you company.

Basically someone who can make me happy whilst shopping, because mundane shit like that is going to happen a lot and it may as well be fun.

Obviously this isn't what I look for in flings, hotness is (almost) all that counts there.

 

[StormShaun]

I think cuteness matter to me the most and the thing that matters next is that they will like or tolerate my hobbies such as anime and gaming.

If she did these things I'm all welcome.

And someone that likes to joke like me and isn't anything like girls these days. (You know those slutty clothing and such...sigh)

But so far it I have not met one girl that likes these things or does any of these things.


Soon though.

 

[TheYellowCellPhone]

Double X chromosomes are a good place to start.

 

[Raven's Nest]

Double X chromosomes are a good place to start.

Just 46 of them, being the next requirement.

 

[Phasmal]

Someone who likes me for me and doesn't try and control me.

EDIT: I accidentally sent that and wasn't finished writing. Derp.

Also, someone who has a nice sense of humour, likes some of the things I like (not all, I don't wanna date myself). Obviously, attractiveness. And someone I can nerd-out with.

 

[Stasisesque]

Tricky question. I've never specifically looked for anything in a partner; in a relationship, sure, but not in a particular person. I have a terrible habit of idealising people, so when I start to notice their faults they can overwhelm me. As such, I cannot in good conscience look for love or romance, yet fall into it.

 

[Thaluikhain]

Eh...I've always thought that I wouldn't know if something would be right for me until I've really had a chance to look it over. I guess that extends to stuff like "big boobs" or whatever.

 

[bluepilot]

My ideal guy would be a failing rock star in his 30s, who spends most of the day sulking around the house topless with long unwashed hair and Levi jeans. He will have a part time job and spend the weekends with his rocker friends touring pubs to try to make it big time. He spends every spare penny he has on getting more tattoos to express his pain, chain smoking, and random romantic gestures. He wrote a song named after me and after concerts walks home hand in hand with his rocker friends slurring drunkenly and giggling, makes it to the house, throws up on the door step then collapses on the sofa.

90s guys....sigh....

 

[Yuno Gasai]

Tricky question. I've never specifically looked for anything in a partner; in a relationship, sure, but not in a particular person. I have a terrible habit of idealising people, so when I start to notice their faults they can overwhelm me. As such, I cannot in good conscience look for love or romance, yet fall into it.

I have the exact same problem.

Nowadays, I tend to scrap my "wishlist" of traits/qualities in a potential partner, and instead focus on trying to find someone I mesh with; someone I have chemistry with.

I find that everything else seems to fall into place if you know that you're comfortable with someone, and that you're really interested in/attracted to them.

 

[Phasmal]

Can make my choice off of lust just like everyone else. Make a tiny suggestion? A relationship is a word that doesn't exist. Relationship is nothing more than two people getting together that have money. Is mostly based off of looks and the need to feel sucure because we have a deep fear of dying alone. Mostly works like this. Works out fine most of the time if the wife loses her job and the man is still working. Out there everyday looking for work, she just can't seem to find it. There is always the stay at home moms and dads, but kids are a big factor in not wanting to end it. Is the man that loses his job and the wife works. The man is out there everyday looking for work and they don't have kids. Man will lose his wife or girlfriend. Will be a timer in the womens head and if you can't find work fast enough, they will leave you. be nice if relationships did exist, but they don't.

So basically... `Blah blah blah, misogyny`.

Lovely.

Not sure what who-has-the-job has to do with this thread, but as a lady who had a boyfriend with no job when I had a job, thats balls.

 

[Phasmal]

Basically that takes no balls because this is the first time you have told this story. That blah blah blah misogyny crap doesn't work on me anymore. Blah Blah is not a valid excuse for becoming deaf to another persons thoughts. Blah Blah doesn't get you out of crap either. Doesn't matter what you say because your a random person on the internet that I will never meet. Matters most is what I have seen happen on the news, real life, newspapers, internet. Most of the time this crap will happen, just because your different, doesn't mean your not in the minority.

Um, I think you misunderstood what I meant. I didn't mean working when you are a lady and your man isn't takes balls. I meant saying women are money watching timebombs is bollocks.
And of course its the first time I've said it, I don't generally need to say that I had done that unless someone comes along saying that women will break up with you after a time if you don't work.

But if you choose to stick to dumb stereotypes I guess thats up to you.

 

[Goofguy]

Can make my choice off of lust just like everyone else. Make a tiny suggestion? A relationship is a word that doesn't exist. Relationship is nothing more than two people getting together that have money. Is mostly based off of looks and the need to feel sucure because we have a deep fear of dying alone. Mostly works like this. Works out fine most of the time if the wife loses her job and the man is still working. Out there everyday looking for work, she just can't seem to find it. There is always the stay at home moms and dads, but kids are a big factor in not wanting to end it. Is the man that loses his job and the wife works. The man is out there everyday looking for work and they don't have kids. Man will lose his wife or girlfriend. Will be a timer in the womens head and if you can't find work fast enough, they will leave you. be nice if relationships did exist, but they don't.

So basically... `Blah blah blah, misogyny`.

Lovely.

Not sure what who-has-the-job has to do with this thread, but as a lady who had a boyfriend with no job when I had a job, thats balls.

Basically that takes no balls because this is the first time you have told this story. That blah blah blah misogyny crap doesn't work on me anymore. Blah Blah is not a valid excuse for becoming deaf to another persons thoughts. Blah Blah doesn't get you out of crap either. Doesn't matter what you say because your a random person on the internet that I will never meet. Matters most is what I have seen happen on the news, real life, newspapers, internet. Most of the time this crap will happen, just because your different, doesn't mean your not in the minority.

I should think what matters most are the experiences you've had and the relationships you've been in which would give you such an outlook on coupling. Of the four things you listed that matter, only one of them (and the second one, at that) is at all pertinent when it comes to evaluating relationships. I would take what I see in the news with a big grain of salt, you're not always given a full picture.

As for me, I would want a woman who is independent, ambitious, smart and has a good sense of humour.

 

[gazumped]

I like someone who's laid back and likes to have a laugh. Also someone who's clever (but preferably not snobby about it, although that doesn't always turn me off if they're as clever as they think they are) and of course someone who respects me and doesn't try to put me down to make themselves look big (i.e. teasing me in front of his friends).

doesn't mean your not in the minority.

So stop being bitter and jaded and go find a woman who you think is in the minority? It makes me very sad when people decide that love is all a pile of crap based on the actions of a few people that they've observed.

 

[manic_depressive13]

Can someone clarify what is appealing about 'mystery'? If I were to ask my partner questions only to get vague and cryptic responses I would be rather annoyed. Unless by 'mystery' you mean 'doesn't describe the exact shape and texture of their turds to me', which I would be quite grateful for, particularly after living with my family.