Poll: Would you date an asexual person?

[Gasaraki]

Let's say you meet an asexual guy/girl who is heteromantic/homoromantic (Depending on your gender/sexual orientation). The two of you get along great and develop feelings for each other, do you think you could engage in a long term relationship with someone even if the two of you will probably never have sex?

 

[Head Chef Dom]

Sorry but probably no. I could be friends with them if they were nice and we liked the same things and all, but when it comes down to it. I think that a relationship would need a bit of some good non-clean non-family fun in the bedroom (nudge nudge wink wink say no more)

 

[emeraldrafael]

Maybe if it was open.

No, thats bad. I mean, I dont need a relation based completely around sex, but sex would be nice to have in the relationship. I'm 18 now, going on 19 in less then a month and a half, so say I go to long term and its a life thing. Thats betraying my biological needs to reproduce, and is a long time to go without sex without the disipline that others have.

I dont know. I feel they would probably still want to have sex with another person, even if they can do it themselves, cause sex is a mutual thing, and an ultimate connection of sorts.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

I AM an asexual person.
I see that working out better for me than dating anyone else.

I would totally go and do that if I wasn't also aromantic.

 

[JLML]

Sure. I am more or less asexual myself. It would probably go great.

 

[Scorched_Cascade]

Depending on the person I'd be at least willing to give it a try. Whats the harm in trying? Especially if you like the person.

 

[Ironic Pirate]

I AM an...

I AM an asexual person.
I see that working out better for me than dating anyone else.

I would totally go and do that if I wasn't also aromantic.

...shit. I'll have to phrase that differently then...

Well, it's complicated. I may just have a really, really, really low sex drive, I'm not sure. Can you be asexual if you have fetishes?

 

[Not-here-anymore]

Don't see why not, if the spark's there in the first place. But asexual doesn't mean 'incapable of having sex', and in a long-term relationship, sex would happen eventually, if only as some kind of weird compromise.

 

[Random Name 4]

Are you getting asexual confused with "Person who has sexual feelings but doesn't have actual sexual intercourse"

 

[bug_chaser]

For me, at least, sex is part of romance.

 

[similar.squirrel]

I can't see it working out as anything other than a friendship. I mean, what's a relationship? It's a really close friendship with kissing and sex.

 

[Palademon]

Well, it'd be great proof that somebody actually loves me for me, and I'd probably cry from that happiness, so probably.

Although I'd miss sex, even though I'm a virgin. I certainly have sexual feelings but without experience I'm not sure how I feel about sex.

 

[Timzilla]

You mean, "Get married"?


I'm joking, but, I really don't know. I'm 16 right now, and though I would never say I was in a "real relationship", I will say that no sex in a relationship my be a conflict, not only in there being no physical connection with the girl, but as well as my want for children someday.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

I AM an...

I AM an asexual person.
I see that working out better for me than dating anyone else.

I would totally go and do that if I wasn't also aromantic.

...shit. I'll have to phrase that differently then...

Well, it's complicated. I may just have a really, really, really low sex drive, I'm not sure. Can you be asexual if you have fetishes?

You know, I'm actually not sure.
The AVEN wiki claims some asexual people masturbate for release. Not being one of said people, I never actually understood what they masturbated to.

Asexuality is primarily a lack of desire for the act of sex. You can be attracted to people or what have you, if usually in a sort of platonic way, so I don't see why having any weird kinks would make you non-asexual.

 

[Kortney]

Nope.

Relationships are based around sex and sexual tension. At the very least, I'd like to know my partner is sexually attracted to me.

Also, what is it with this site and asexual people? There are like fifty of them on here - true asexuality is incredibly rare, isn't it?

I personally believe a lot of asexual people just use it as an excuse for not trying.

 

[SilentCom]

Date an asexual person? I'm afraid of dating sexual people...

 

[D Moness]

definition of Relationship

1. The condition or fact of being related; connection or association.
2. Connection by blood or marriage; kinship.
3. A particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealings with each other: has a close relationship with his siblings.
4. A romantic or sexual involvement.

so seeing point 4 you can have a relationship without a sexual involvement. Romantic isn't the same as sexual.

To answer your question. If it was someone who i liked and she liked me i i wouldn't mind. It isn't like i care about sex anyway.

 

[Ca3zar416]

It's possible but the most likely answer would be no. Sex is a part of relationships and life for me but, I'm sure there are exceptions somewhere it's just difficult for me to conceive them.

 

[siahsargus]

I AM an asexual person.
I see that working out better for me than dating anyone else.

I would totally go and do that if I wasn't also aromantic.

Yeah, as a questioning/queer person (it complicated) some days I am completely asexual, and really I find all sex disgusting anyway. Still I have weak biological impulses and not neccessarily just towards girls. However if it is not sexual and not romantic, what sort of relationship is it?

I can't see it working out as anything other than a friendship. I mean, what's a relationship? It's a really close friendship with kissing and sex.

I suppose you could look at it that way, although I like to look at the intimacy and exclusiveness as the two things that define a romantic relationship.

Sure. I am more or less asexual myself. It would probably go great.

That is basically my stance on this, although replace asexual with "clueless". I think that as a less sexual person, I would be able to be more focused on the relationship itself, whether or not they are the person for me, than the physical aspect.

 

[Dags90]

Well, it'd be great proof that somebody actually loves me for me, and I'd probably cry from that happiness, so probably.

Not because you look like Tyson Beckferd? With the charm of Robert Reford?
/90's references

I don't romance guys who aren't interested in sex with me. And I'm not interested in sex with guys I can't romance.(closeted)